Is success in life determined more by connections than ability???

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I know a lot of pipole who got their important job because they have family or personal connections that gave them unfair advantage...

Here is three example:

1. a 25 y/o guy who never had a job or college because he is party guy who dont give a fvvk gets very respektable job in a bank because his aunt work there and there is separate fast track application process for pipole who have family member who work in this bank...

2. a 18 y/o guy who just party and take a drugs and do bad with his academics but he becomes successor of his father business anyway...

3. a lawyer who pay a lot of money for their position to train at very prestigious law firm...

this is all real examples from my experience and there is many more.......

after knowing this i felt hopeless...there is no real merit to achievements! much more important is to have family member or money connections....

even though i am beautiful someone more ugly can get my model job because their mom is director of that company and even though i am more smarter a less smart person get my place if they have money to pay for it that i dont.........
 

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I know a lot of pipole who got their important job because they have family or personal connections that gave them unfair advantage...

Here is three example:

1. a 25 y/o guy who never had a job or college because he is party guy who dont give a fvvk gets very respektable job in a bank because his aunt work there and there is separate fast track application process for pipole who have family member who work in this bank...

2. a 18 y/o guy who just party and take a drugs and do bad with his academics but he becomes successor of his father business anyway...

3. a lawyer who pay a lot of money for their position to train at very prestigious law firm...

this is all real examples from my experience and there is many more.......

after knowing this i felt hopeless...there is no real merit to achievements! much more important is to have family member or money connections....

even though i am beautiful someone more ugly can get my model job because their mom is director of that company and even though i am more smarter a less smart person get my place if they have money to pay for it that i dont.........
1. That guy deserves it

2. Read "From crack cocaine to CEO"

3. He worked for it
 

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Not even a question. Your connections themselves already influence your merits because it's your family that pushes to this school, that school, or no school.
I agree

And If you do decide to further your education or you find yourself in a good position/have a lot of money you should use that to make it easier for friends and family in the future so it's not as difficult as it was for you that it would be for them.
 

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connections definitely help but ability is more important. someone can put the word in for you but if you dont have the ability to capitalize on it, you could waste the opportunity

like when my music career took off, i had all kinds of people i went to school with or hung out with sending me demos and shit, they werent good, not one but i wouldve given them shots if they were. i even let one of my best friend do a verse on one of my songs that didnt get released because hes not a good rapper and it made the song worse. i got this women i dated a job at this really exclusive jewelry shop for like the rich and famous when i lived in the hills. i know the owner and i got her a job paying over $200,000 a year and she fucked it up showing up late or coming to work coked up

life isnt fair and some people have a possible shot based on others that others dont have. but as someone whose been seen as a “connection” by a lot of people in my life, its not everything. you have to have ability or potential for the person to put their name and credit out to vouch for you. because like that chick with the jewelry shop, i had to fix that relationship with the owner of the place and regain his trust in my word, because she fucked up. ive given people shots i didnt have strong history with, soley based on their ability to help my credit by putting them on, same with people i do have history with. i have to know they are capable because it also reflects on me honestly, thats a lesson i learned

so if you have the ability to make the most of a connection, network with people who can help you further your ambitions and they may take a chance on you. ability is really important
 

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connections definitely help but ability is more important. someone can put the word in for you but if you dont have the ability to capitalize on it, you could waste the opportunity

like when my music career took off, i had all kinds of people i went to school with or hung out with sending me demos and shit, they werent good, not one but i wouldve given them shots if they were. i even let one of my best friend do a verse on one of my songs that didnt get released because hes not a good rapper and it made the song worse. i got this women i dated a job at this really exclusive jewelry shop for like the rich and famous when i lived in the hills. i know the owner and i got her a job paying over $200,000 a year and she fucked it up showing up late or coming to work coked up

life isnt fair and some people have a possible shot based on others that others dont have. but as someone whose been seen as a “connection” by a lot of people in my life, its not everything. you have to have ability or potential for the person to put their name and credit out to vouch for you. because like that chick with the jewelry shop, i had to fix that relationship with the owner of the place and regain his trust in my word, because she fucked up. ive given people shots i didnt have strong history with, soley based on their ability to help my credit by putting them on, same with people i do have history with. i have to know they are capable because it also reflects on me honestly, thats a lesson i learned

so if you have the ability to make the most of a connection, network with people who can help you further your ambitions and they may take a chance on you. ability is really important
Now I am interest in your musik...
 
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And If you do decide to further your education or you find yourself in a good position/have a lot of money you should use that to make it easier for friends and family in the future so it's not as difficult as it was for you that it would be for them.
um... no? don't get me wrong, I grew up poor, but if someone would have offered help I would have been so offended I would have wanted to smack them right across the other side of the earth. besides, why would someone owe anything to anyone else just because they have better conditions? it's not their responsibility, they should do jack s-it about it.
(I'm excluding serious situations here where people actually need help, but even then, some might not require money)
 

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um... no? don't get me wrong, I grew up poor, but if someone would have offered help I would have been so offended I would have wanted to smack them right across the other side of the earth. besides, why would someone owe anything to anyone else just because they have better conditions? it's not their responsibility, they should do jack s-it about it.
(I'm excluding serious situations here where people actually need help, but even then, some might not require money)
My family says to take everything you can get even if you don't need it, so there's one hoard with a major contrast to you lol.
 

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My family says to take everything you can get even if you don't need it, so there's one hoard with a major contrast to you lol.
I feel like there are more nuances to this. it really depends on how serious the situation is, but for the most part, whatever comes as pity or makes me feel like I'm taking advantage is no, thank you from me
 
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