Is it racist If I Refuse To Date Other Races? How do i tell this black girl so?

[MAN OF SIN]

Kinda.

 

[Multiply]

You sure it's because you don't date outside your race of because she just not the right type of girl you would date who happens to be outside your race?

If you serious then just tell her its always better than making some shit up. Trust me bro don't feel bad we all have different preferences. There aren't many white girls I'm really attracted to. And I don't really give too much thought on dating straight up Africans either. It's even some black girls I don't rock with. I can't stand a ratchet ass black girl. A little rachet? Yea that's cute, but **** all that other bullshit.

Ima keep it 100 with you I like what I like. But I can't say I wouldn't date a white girl or black girl or African, Indian, you get the point, because I know there are some attractive ones out there, and if I can be attracted to them, then I probably would consider dating them depending on the circumstances. Repeat after me. "I am a man, and I have preferences. I'm attracted to certain things, some more than others. Nothing against you, I just not attracted to you." Nothing racist about that.

Now this is why I asked you are you sure you don't date outside your race? Because if you feel more like what I mentioned earlier, you can use that quote and wouldn't need to explain yourself. But if you really are against dating someone simply because they can be considered "outside of your race", then just know I'm praying for you fam. It is not gonna be pretty when you tell this chick that

This. You come off bigoted if you're saying you only date within your own race. You can you know you won't be attracted to someone outside of your race. That's just mad close-minded.

 

[Avani]

fit those stereotypes that he isn't attracted to, means he's purely against dating them because of their race. It's not about the characteristics of that race, it's just because it's them. That's what "not dating outside your race" means.

Damn dude how is that not racist to you? I'm not saying he a little evil mother****er but damn that's like saying "I don't serve blacks because I have a preference for white customers" isn't racist. No you're not a slave owner but shit

While I get the point you are trying to make, relationship between a a dating couple is not supposed to be that of a customer and a client. .. That analogy is a bit awkward. .. :yeah:

OT: tell her you are not interested in her that way and see her just as a friend. I won't class you as a racist just for that. However in another scenario like if your friends is trying to date her and you start interfering because you don't think he should date a girl from another ethnicity then you may need to rethink your exact reasons to decide exactly what's bothering you.

 

[Troyg39]

While I get the point you are trying to make, relationship between a a dating couple is not supposed to be that of a customer and a client. .. That analogy is a bit awkward. .. :yeah:

OT: tell her you are not interested in her that way and see her just as a friend. I won't class you as a racist just for that. However in another scenario like if your friends is trying to date her and you start interfering because you don't think he should date a girl from another ethnicity then you may need to rethink your exact reasons to decide exactly what's bothering you.

Damn I knew I should've said "Not working with blacks because you have a preference for white partners/co-workers" but I thought the serving blacks was more recognizable. But same point was intended. Having preferences that isn't common in a group and having low expectations is one thing. But flat out refusing to date (serve, partner/work with) someone because of their race alone is kinda racist. :/

Edit**Dude this is really just a big PC moment. That's why I said what I said in my first post. The fact that you said "I think she pretty for a black girl", while yea that shit sounds really ****ed up, it still shows you aren't a racist. I just don't think you're saying what you're trying to. There's certain things about black girls that generally don't attract you. But she didn't fit that category of black girls you didn't find attractive which means there are black girls who have features to fit your preferences, there just might not be many. It's just easier to you to say "I don't date outside my race" That's all this shit is

 

[demon of the leaf]

Its totally not racist at all just tell her you dont see her like that but would like to stay friends its not like your going to lose your head

 

[Avani]

Damn I knew I should've said "Not working with blacks because you have a preference for white partners/co-workers" but I thought the serving blacks was more recognizable. But same point was intended. Having preferences that isn't common in a group and having low expectations is one thing. But flat out refusing to date (serve, partner/work with) someone because of their race alone is kinda racist. :/

Yea I know what you are saying. I just stay away from telling another person whom they should date or not on generalized reasons because in the end, if the person himself isn't in to it the relationship is doomed anyway. A marriage needs a lot of compromise and mutual understanding even without extra conflicts regardless of them being somewhat racist or not. Interaction with a customer or a coworker is still less personal. If they date someone just to show they are not racist they will find another reaosn to make themselves as well as the other person miserable.

 

[Worm]

>Laughing instead of giving a logical answer for a serious post.

Typical NB autist.

No. There's plenty of us that aren't dark skin and I hardly see many with curly hair.
Also we could be put into the same racial group from our region.
Concerned why OP specified White European.

"Dark" is a vague adjective, one may consider someone with tanned skin dark, while another may consider someone with the same skin tone as, say, Serena Williams dark. The point remains that all black people have relatively dark skin tones (when compared to whites, at least), which why the race is labeled as "black" in the first place. As for hair, I don't know what you'd call it, but I'm referring to afro textured hair.

How does your region of origin make you a part of a racial group?

OP specified white European because that's his race of preference, it's his right to choose who he wants to mate with, he might simply find the traits of a white European (whichever those might be) essential in his intended partner. I for one only like blondes, never found anything attractive about a dark haired girl, does that mean I am somehow "racist" towards them?

But not all black girls have those characteristics.

Name me one black girl that isn't any darker than a white girl. Name me a black girl that has natural straight hair, I will be waiting. Either way, that's hardly the point, the point is that all races have their own set of traits, otherwise races wouldn't be distinguishable at all. Do tell me, if all races had no common aesthetic traits, how would you even identify a member of a racial group? By their smell? Please don't be silly.

Even with the skin tone argument, there are some white people who have darker tones (not just talking about tanning either).

When have I even mentioned a lack of variation of skin colour among caucasians? All I set is that there is a set of common traits among members of all races, that is not to say that they all have the same exact skin colour, but they only vary to a limited extent. Ex: a white person can't have dark brown skin, a black person can't have white skin, etc.

For him to flat out dismiss even the black girls who don't fit those stereotypes that he isn't attracted to, means he's purely against dating them because of their race.

All races have a certain "pattern", otherwise there would be no telling who's a member of a racial group and who isn't, they all have a few standard traits, of course, they vary, but they're still restricted to a certain amount of traits, those traits could all be traits the OP finds unattractive. So no, the bold does not exist.

It's not about the characteristics of that race, it's just because it's them.

How does this make any type of logical sense? Races are defined by certain aesthetic characteristics anyway, so how can he referring to the race itself and not their physical traits when those are both essentially the same thing?

Damn dude how is that not racist to you? I'm not saying he a little evil mother****er but damn that's like saying "I don't serve blacks because I have a preference for white customers" isn't racist. No you're not a slave owner but shit

How do you expect me to take you seriously when you're comparing.refusing to mating with someone of another race, and since *** relies almost solely on physical attraction, so the aforementioned characteristics are a HUGE factor; to refusing to serve a client because of their race, and since aesthetic traits have nothing to do with serving someone, of course it's gonna be considered racism, since lack of attraction for a trait is hardly relevant when we're talking about serving someone.

Forgive the typos, it's a pain to write all this on my phone.

 

[Tarkatower]

it is racist since you are discriminating against her because of her race/skin color.

but it doesn't matter since it is your own personal preference. It is okay to have a racial preference. I'm sure that most of us do.

 

[TheUnbiasedOne]

One, Preferences are OK, but "not liking race mixing" and "only dating white European girls" is borderline racist, and you should see the beauty in all races. Remember, if you have to say "not to be _____" you can be sure you are being that same blank.
As for your solution, tell her you aren't attracted to her, but her simple race should not be the only reason you have otherwise, you don't really deserve help.

 

[Fex]

>Laughing instead of giving a logical answer for a serious post.

Typical NB autist.

Lol,you have made my ****ing night.

 

[Cornson]

First of all i would like to say that i am not racist or bigoted, but i would rather date my own race which are white europeans. I have black friends but i think this black girl is coming off on me how do i let her down easy and tell her i am not interested? I dont want to come of as a **** or racist or anything but its just a personal preference of mine not racism.

you are only a racist if you hate other races for being, well other races.

you just have a sexual preference (a type) with which she (the girl in question) simply does not fall in to.

just be honest and tell her that you do not have the same feelings for her as she does for you.

 

[ahmo]

:snick: you was serious as hell stop frontin

nah but seriously that's a dumb ass way to be sarcastic! My bad bro I thought you were trying to make a dumb ass point. And lol that was pretty funny. "What are you? Third grade? durr"

Damn gtfo, I wasn't frontin' lol.
Who says you can't be serious and be sarcastic at the same time? Irl I use sarcasm to make one understand how stupid he's being/been. Or how ridiculous a statement is.

 

[ahmo]

:snick: you was serious as hell stop frontin

nah but seriously that's a dumb ass way to be sarcastic! My bad bro I thought you were trying to make a dumb ass point. And lol that was pretty funny. "What are you? Third grade? durr"

Damn gtfo, I wasn't frontin' lol.
Who says you can't be serious and be sarcastic at the same time? Irl I use sarcasm to make one understand how stupid he's being/been. Or how ridiculous a statement is.

 

[Made in Heaven]

I don't think it's racist if the reason you don't want to date other races is because of their appearance. After all, every one has their preferences about how they'd like their BF/GF/Spouse to look like and if your preference is to have a partner that is part of you race, then so be it.

 

[PT1990]

No, that's not a compliment no matter your "preferences", and it shouldn't be said. What type of attempt at half praise....

Wait a second... he didnt said that to her directly, he just said that on forum, so whats wrong about it?

 

[Dantee]

might i say the bait is real.

 

[paratise]

While i do think OP's attitude is infact racist (racism is more than being mean and yelling n-word) even though he does not want to admit, people do have right to reject what they want. Tell her what the deal is; if you can not even tell the reasoning openly maybe it is not something neutral or innocent as you may think.
It is your life if you have white European preference go for it. It is not a positive behaviour but whatever your life. I woupd personally stay away from people like oP.

 

[UltraPain]

Don't really need to give any advice since everyone is saying the same I would, but...

IMO there are some really attractive women from every race so you're missing out. It's more fun to go outside of your race anyways because not only do u get to experience something new physically but you also get to learn some cool perspectives.

 

[Pride]

While i do think OP's attitude is infact racist (racism is more than being mean and yelling n-word) even though he does not want to admit, people do have right to reject what they want. Tell her what the deal is; if you can not even tell the reasoning openly maybe it is not something neutral or innocent as you may think.
It is your life if you have white European preference go for it. It is not a positive behaviour but whatever your life. I woupd personally stay away from people like oP.

I am not racist, if you check my previous posts on this thread you would see that im even admitted that she was very beautiful for a girl of color or black girl, whichever term you prefer. However, its just not my thing i am not into that, i don't like race mixing and i believe its wrong. She is still my friend and nothing will change that and i don't look down on her. So how am i racist for having a personal preference?

 

[paratise]

I am not racist, if you check my previous posts on this thread you would see that im even admitted that she was very beautiful for a girl of color or black girl, whichever term you prefer. However, its just not my thing i am not into that, i don't like race mixing and i believe its wrong. She is still my friend and nothing will change that and i don't look down on her. So how am i racist for having a personal preference?

I think people who think a girl is "beautiful for a black person", define a racial group as "not my thing" like people are things or "don't like race mixing and believe it is wrong" have racist leanings in their thoughts. You know, just my preference about how i view people.

She has right to be offended and cut off friendship and i think she should be aware what type of a person is her friend right now.