Is it bad that I can't...

[Desiigner]

Is it bad that I can't have an argument/conflict?
I just had another conflict with my mother and as always, I didn't really talked. She screamed at me and stuff (as always) but I only say things like: There's nothing to talk about. If one person does not want to get in a conflict (me) then it's pointless anyway.
also there's a quote saying: "you can only have an argument about something, you both want to have/achieve"
So anways guys, what do you think about this? Is it really that bad, that I do not really talk in a conflict? It's just annoying as hell for me, but its not like I "swallow" the anger, I just dont see a point in having an argument.

 

[Trúth]

I get where you coming from, but you need to speak up sometimes. Don't let her walk all over you.

 

[obito uchiha the wraith]

sounds like you got shat on but didn't say anything for no reason.

 

[Lyke]

kannst nix dagegen tun, sind deine eltern und solange u nicht 18 bist können sie alles machen

 

[Sound]

Not really, it's always good to be the calm one But I bet she tells you something like this : Im talking here and you don't even have a reaction ?
I've been there

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[Zorø]

Yes it is bad because arguments are a healthy in any relationships it gives you an oppurtunity to reflect on each others differences and you can work together to get past conflicts by arguing or as others may say let off steam. U_U.

 

[EVlL]

"I just dont see a point in having an argument." good then, you're not a kind of guy who likes argumenting, and can think clearly. but sometimes you do need to have argument, you must express your feelings and thoughts

 

[Desiigner]

I get where you coming from, but you need to speak up sometimes. Don't let her walk all over you.

I guess youre right.

sounds like you got shat on but didn't say anything for no reason.

no, i didnt say anything because i think that its pointless.

kannst nix dagegen tun, sind deine eltern und solange u nicht 18 bist können sie alles machen

ja ich weiss aber die nervt haha

Not really, it's always good to be the calm one But I bet she tells you something like this : Im talking here and you don't even have a reaction ?
I've been there

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yes exactly lmao

Yes it is bad because arguments are a healthy in any relationships it gives you an oppurtunity to reflect on each others differences and you can work together to get past conflicts by arguing or as others may say let off steam. U_U.

hm maybe youre right...

 

[Desiigner]

I get where you coming from, but you need to speak up sometimes. Don't let her walk all over you.

I guess youre right.

sounds like you got shat on but didn't say anything for no reason.

no, i didnt say anything because i think that its pointless.

kannst nix dagegen tun, sind deine eltern und solange u nicht 18 bist können sie alles machen

ja ich weiss aber die nervt haha

Not really, it's always good to be the calm one But I bet she tells you something like this : Im talking here and you don't even have a reaction ?
I've been there

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yes exactly lmao

Yes it is bad because arguments are a healthy in any relationships it gives you an oppurtunity to reflect on each others differences and you can work together to get past conflicts by arguing or as others may say let off steam. U_U.

hm maybe youre right...

 

[Uchiha Sutona]

dude lemme tell you man, I use to fight back with my parents all the time, interrupting them as they interrupted me. But then I started keeping my mouth shut and letting them rant on and on about god knows what. It was awesome because I felt fine, they felt angered and I could easily strike with a comeback or my point of view on the subject matter, and if they interrupt me I simply state that I deserve the same respect of silence and I gave them and then I continue with my opinion on the matter. Just let your parents speak their mind and then you speak yours. always them first.

 

[AnimusOra]

You need to express yourself and release your emotions as often as you can. Keep them bottled-up and you will explode my friend. It has happened to me plenty of times and it's unhealthy.

 

[Conspirator.]

For me, I am more on the introverted side, so I do tend to avoid arguments as much as possible.(aka I am usually "passive") It's only in cases when I really get worked up(or it's something that's very important to me) that I get involved in massive arguments. Doesn't make a difference either way.(assuming your argument was on something relatively trivial.)

 

[Rιver]

Lml, even I don't argue with my mom... though it's different from other arguments f.e. other individuals that are not related to you in the same way.

If you don't argue with others though, congratulations. You must have extremely good friends and live in a community that is perfectly suitable to you, agree completely with the ideas others present etc. Or you just don't have an opinion.​

 

[Volume]

syke ... move out & u a big boy

 

[Desiigner]

Thanks for your help guys.
Btw, I'm too lazy to reply to all of you, because Im on the phone.

 

[Callypigia]

Have you been feeling depressed lately?

 

[Kishi Uzumaki]

It's not bad , if you don't bottle up your feelings and it doesn't affect you .

as of me i can have arguments till it not become a scream match but it's rare to have a rational argument , all are up to it to win it not for the argument's sake , it can end up pretty badly to both people .

conflicts doesn't bother me much , ponder a moment about it then get over it .

Yes it is bad because arguments are a healthy in any relationships it gives you an oppurtunity to reflect on each others differences and you can work together to get past conflicts by arguing or as others may say let off steam. U_U.

You are correct but there must be a limit to it .

 

[GhostProject]

I am the same way of sorts. I can be a passive person when it comes to conflicts and arguments, even though I am fairly extroverted, mainly because most of the time I see it as futile. What is the point of an argument when all of it is won through subjective opinions, personal blows, and insulting comments? (Most of the people I have grown up with are quite this unreasonable)

The point is dominance simply put. If you don't appear to oppose them walking all over you, then people that see this will not take anything you say seriously and in the dynamics of your family or friend, will become subhuman to them. Regardless of the subject matter, I'm sure you care about this possibility.

The only time an argument needs not to be fought are when you truly change your position, the other person is simply going to defeat themselves, or you do not require interaction with that person in the future.

Next time someone tries to control you by initiating an argument (I'm assuming this is the case), calmly rip them apart with your words. They will forgive you, you will have your independent way, and they'll respect you more for putting them down.