Internet couples : Possible or just a Substitute?

[Frankenstein]

I notice many times, sometimes even here on NB some internet "couples". Meaning people who live thousands of kilometers away, have never met in the so called "real life" but say that they are in love with each other and they are "together".

The ones that are in favor of such a concept say that you can of course meet someone over the internet -after all on the internet there are many more people than the ones you know in your everyday life- and naturally, many chances that you might find someone with whom you share many common traits.
So attraction over the internet is legit, they say, and if that is true, then why can't someone fall in love over the internet too? They say that you can express yourself through text, maybe even through video chat so why not?
And if it goes well maybe you can plan a meeting. After all nowadays distances have become very short.

The ones that are against this concept and call bullshit on it say that yes maybe you can indeed express yourself through the internet, but to what extent? You don't see the one you are talking to so he/she has all the time in the world to compose himself/herself and answer in whichever way he/she finds suitable. This way, everyone seems perfect over the internet.
Also, what about live interaction, they say. What about shared activities. All those can only be done in one's imagination through the internet. So can you really emotionally connect with another person? Or is it just a substitute to the real thing?
And how can you change your whole life and transfer to a different place just betting on the fact that the ideal person you have met through the comfort of your room will not disappoint you after some time of live interaction?

So what's your opinion about internet flirting and, to a further extent, internet couples?

 

[Akira678]

I think Internet couples can happen

But some people just flirt and don't take it easily

So It depends if you really do like someone over the internet...

 

[riley freeman]

I think its just a substitute, internet couple don't even know if they r being lied to by the other person

 

[Sasukenumberonelover]

Well my friends parents met through this site on the internet and now they're a happily wedded couple ..

.. I mean .. I think romantic relationships are pretty dumb in the first place .. but I guess if you guys meet on the internet and are supposedly in love .. then instead of being an internet couple you should just meet irl and be a real couple .. and of course this applies to adults .. teens and kids shouldn't even be thinking of all this xD

 

[Pavoneo]

It's a pretty interesting debate to be honest. My opinion on the matter is that internet relationships can only go so far, at some point you're either going to have to step it up to the next level or drop it all together. As time moves on, real life takes control and you see yourself talking to your SO on the internet less often, or maybe the site you two talk on dies out or gets shut down and while you probably do talk via email or some sort, it's not as frequent.

Although, we shouldn't have a say in someone elses means of dating, so it's nothing really to try and control or mitigate.

 

[Sabuto Hayashi]

It's definitely possible, so long as both parties are committed, but it carries a lot more risks than a more local relationship.

For one, it can be pretty awkward meeting up with someone over the Internet. Years spent talking over instant messaging can be wrecked within minutes of talking face-to-face, since it's not something they're not used to doing.
The other problem is trust issues, since you don't really know what the other is doing behind your back. As everyone knows, trust is essential for a good relationship, and it's hard to trust someone when you can't even go to their house and check they're not with someone else.

That said, it can sometimes work out. I know a few people who have met over the Internet, and they're doing just as well as any other couple would. It's not impossible to make it work, but it's arguably a whole lot harder.
Though in most cases, online dating is mostly just for a bit of company. They usually don't last longer than a year or two, and most favor something closer to home.

 

[-S-]

Possible since it has worked, but don't waste your time on it.

Meet people in real life, and boost your social skills through reality. It's easier to act in any way over the internet.

 

[The Western Wheel]

Personally I need the warmth of an actual woman. But everything in life is what you make it. Internet couples are no exception.

 

[Aertes]

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Hmm, I don't really believe in "internet love" to be honest. I don't feel like you can really get to know someone through the internet. Also, even if the couple meets, the only possible way for them to have a real relationship, is if someone is willing to move to be with the other.
Relationships that requires so much sacrifice are not good, if done by the one side only. Both people should step into in a relationship on equal terms.
If you have the "I changed my whole life to be with you" and the "I didn't really do anything to be with you" thingy in a relationship, things might get ugly sooner or later.

 

[YowYan]

Having the urge to meet that person being certain of her/him being your 'soul mate'? sure.

Saying you 2 are together when you never met in person? pathetic.

 

[Aim64C]

There is a limit to just how close people can get over the internet.

You cannot get the physical relationship. No matter how much you appreciate the mind of that person (or even how beautiful you think they are because of photographs and things like face-time), no matter how much you -want- to be there for them when they need a physical presence - you can't.

You can't give her a hug of happiness, a hug of comfort, a hug just to have a hug. You can't make dinner for her or really take her to see some place new (other than describe it to her).

That's before you consider the sexual end of things. Which is something that becomes heavily desired to the point it is almost necessary in any committed relationship - marital status and *** reflect each other quite well.

At some point - an 'internet couple' needs to meet up in real life and start to make plans or decisions about whether or not they want to bring their lives together. If not - there is a limit to how far things can go, and to the amount of support you can offer each other.

Teenagers often get into them, and lack the means to realize those ambitions - and will for many years to come. Young adults are a little more flexible - but it's still tough to get things to work out.

 

[Avery Namikaze]

Yeah it can happen, as long as you have something in common and are happy who's to judge. My friend met his current wife over the internet and they are now happily married.

 

[Klaroline]

I guess it's whatever floats your boat. I personally would never be involved in an Internet relationship but if someone else was I have no right to judge them.

 

[Deathwink]

Having the urge to meet that person being certain of her/him being your 'soul mate'? sure.

Saying you 2 are together when you never met in person? pathetic.

i agree with this guy.....

Yeah it can happen, as long as you have something in common and are happy who's to judge. My friend met his current wife over the internet and they are now happily married.

.....and with this guy...the parents of my friend met eachother in the internet.thei;re happily married now too.also why not

 

[Frankenstein]

I see most people so far are leaning towards the "substitute" option with some rare exceptions that have actually worked, thus making it "possible".

But please bear in mind that when I say possible I mean long-term and not 1:1.000 chance. Meaning if 999 out of 1000 fail and one has worked it isn't really possible now, is it?

 

[Alice in Noodleland]

I double check who made the thread.(●˙•˙● ) lol..


Possible and Substitute. Both exist and still happenning.

I'm honestly happy for those people who think they already found their one true love , wheter it's on the internet, even in mars. Love moves in mysterious ways and seems like it has a GPS too.

 

[Hunty]

I notice many times, sometimes even here on NB some internet "couples". Meaning people who live thousands of kilometers away, have never met in the so called "real life" but say that they are in love with each other and they are "together".

The ones that are in favor of such a concept say that you can of course meet someone over the internet -after all on the internet there are many more people than the ones you know in your everyday life- and naturally, many chances that you might find someone with whom you share many common traits.
So attraction over the internet is legit, they say, and if that is true, then why can't someone fall in love over the internet too? They say that you can express yourself through text, maybe even through video chat so why not?
And if it goes well maybe you can plan a meeting. After all nowadays distances have become very short.

The ones that are against this concept and call bullshit on it say that yes maybe you can indeed express yourself through the internet, but to what extent? You don't see the one you are talking to so he/she has all the time in the world to compose himself/herself and answer in whichever way he/she finds suitable. This way, everyone seems perfect over the internet.
Also, what about live interaction, they say. What about shared activities. All those can only be done in one's imagination through the internet. So can you really emotionally connect with another person? Or is it just a substitute to the real thing?
And how can you change your whole life and transfer to a different place just betting on the fact that the ideal person you have met through the comfort of your room will not disappoint you after some time of live interaction?

So what's your opinion about internet flirting and, to a further extent, internet couples?

I met my husband on the internet. It's not like it can't happen.

 

[Rioxnation]

As real as it seems to me at one point in time, i dont really believe in online dating... or... i dont consider it to be actually dating. I dunno its just something about myself. I've been in a relationship with someone over the internet once, and it didnt feel like it clicked in with my reality activities. So i dont really think it to be real. Other people may think other-wise though and thats ok, but this is my opinion :> lol

 

[Disquiet]

Love moves in mysterious ways and seems like it has a GPS too.

Exactly. What people need to understand is, love obeys the philosophy and ideals of no man. It does what it wants. What we do however, is try to limit the limitless. We try to make something that's totally illogical, logical. And if we succeed, it's only in our heads. We obey the concept we create.


A post I made in another thread, in conjunction with above.

Well whenever someone falls in love, there's almost always aspects of that person that they don't know about. There will always be risks involved in love. No matter what. Humans are very curious about the unknown, that's how relationships start. The girl that sits next to you in class, you want to get to know her. Despite knowing very little about her, there's a feeling in your heart, and then you realize you have a crush. You may even feel kinda down if she starts dating someone else. But why? You don't even know her. Is this foolish? Who knows. But it's what makes us human and have been the commencement of a lot of relationships.


Also, it's funny how some of us look down on others for falling in love with a person online. Yet I'm sure that a lot of us fell in love with a particular book, a song, and even a 'childish' manga. All thoughts and words generated from another human being, nonetheless they have touched us in some way. Is this foolish? Who knows. Though as I said before, we are all human.



Online, a person's personality can still manifest itself in the form of words. And as described in my second paragraph, words have a way of touching us. Though it even goes a bit further, we know that the person is human, and is communicating with us. Not a book. In my first paragraph, I described our curiosity and crush on a person we have yet to know. And being online eliminates certain barriers like shyness, we can easily initiate the dating process. All of us think and act with our feelings, so thinking one way of commencing a relationship is foolish, since a lot of humans think and feel differently. If we all thought and felt the same, the world could be a very boring and unproductive place, it's the imagination and desires of many that brought us to this stage of living.


Also, I notice that some say they would never fall in love online. But there's a difference between "You would never fall in love online", and "You would never allow yourself to be put in that position". A lot of people that speaks like this just don't take the risk, they avoid it altogether.

 

[Ciao]

I would provide my input but I can't explain an illogical concept with logical reasoning.