[Discussion] Im suffering....

[Izou Xaxa]

I know its not really a place for that but i needed someone to talk to i have almost no friends
My father always wanted me to be the perfect in school gave me pressure he always learned with me and if i get bad marks he just blames my mother its never hi s fault he didnt teach me the details of Islam and then is dissapointed that i dont know everything of the whole Islam and always he gives me pressure when i was young unlike other children i had to learn in a cold room i sometimes have to learn in holidays my father says im gonna become best now look what happened im not a good student and he always says of himself that he did a nice job and calls me stupid because im not that talented and says its my mothers fault my mother is suffering right now and always if i done one thing wrong he shouted at me

because of this treatement i became insane and always my mother is doing all the work with money gets blamed if something is going down
i know he has some stress himself but still its unfair
Some of his siblings are like him thinking our family is the best
My mother is suffering from the inside and i just hope that i dont lose her
But what i hate the most is he calls himself the best and that we are doing bad things but he is actually smoking some stuff
If i do something wrong he blames the internet
He also makes fun of Anime and Manga and call me pathetic for watching it
Also he said himself that males are superior to females which is not true many brothers of him are similar like that but his sisters are the best so at the end he is just saying it so our family can be the best
I sometimes feel like im his tool and not his son
I hate my father right now
Sorry for making this thread but if i tellmy problems others i feel a bit better

 

[Defence]

He doesn't sound like a good Muslim to me. But stating you hate him on the Internet isn't the solution either.

You need to man up to him and have the confidence to say it from your perspective. Some parents are completely ignorant of their flaws.

No dad should belittle their kid.

Good luck OP

 

[Henry1350cent]

aw feel better man

 

[Amaterasu]

You look really unlucky and your life heards "shit" if I can say.

First, you're in love with an anime character and second you got this, god damn.

 

[BlazeRelease]

Sounds like my mother.

That's an unfortunate situation and you are not his tool unless you allow it.

Just show him who's better when you get older.

 

[Kaneki Kun]

You post this on April Fools...I'm skeptical....

 

[Izou Xaxa]

Sounds like my mother.

That's an unfortunate situation and you are not his tool unless you allow it.

Just show him who's better when you get older.

Well im 17 so i already tried to talk to him but he wont change he suspects my mother of manipulating me just to find an excuse he thinks im stupid
My poor mother i feel sorry for her the most
I want to get away find a job and leave home but i dont wanna leave my mother alone with that scum

 

[SMX]

You post this on April Fools...I'm skeptical....

same.

 

[-immortal-]

You look really unlucky and your life heards "shit" if I can say.

First, you're in love with an anime character and second you got this, god damn.

hahahahahahah " in love with an anime characters"
My sides are burning.

Agreed with everything said By Artificial XD

 

[loj]

Chin up bro.Just be yourself man.

 

[Awkward Linguist]

Islam has nothing to do with this. Simply put he expects too much out of you. I'm guessing he didn't have the chance to go to school himself so he's trying to live through you. My dad use to be like that. You shouldn't confront him and tell him to give you shit, that's condemned in Islam. What you do need to do however is talk to your mother and your dad's mother (if she's still alive). You should also talk to your dad's brother or sister. His sister/brother will have a talk with him. Also consider talking to a Muslim scholar because their word holds a lot of value. Just try your best academically and be what you want to be. It's unfortunate many parents are like this. Inshallah things will work out for you.


Edit: You need to get a job and leave your home. Support your parents financially and visit them every single day for more that 5 hours.​

 

[Izou Xaxa]

You post this on April Fools...I'm skeptical....

Heey thats not fun
Im serious here i even forgot the whole time about that april fools i just remembered it now
i dont care for that day so you can believe me

 

[BlazeRelease]

Well im 17 so i already tried to talk to him but he wont change he suspects my mother of manipulating me just to find an excuse he thinks im stupid
My poor mother i feel sorry for her the most
I want to get away find a job and leave home but i dont wanna leave my mother alone with that scum

I'm also 17 Lol

When I leave I'll be leaving my sister with my mom and it'll be hell but she'll have to make it herself.
Sometimes you e got to do what's best for you for your own sake. I'm sure your mother would t want you to continue suffering for her.

 

[DroGGz0r]

I know its not really a place for that but i needed someone to talk to i have almost no friends
My father always wanted me to be the perfect in school gave me pressure he always learned with me and if i get bad marks he just blames my mother its never hi s fault he didnt teach me the details of Islam and then is dissapointed that i dont know everything of the whole Islam and always he gives me pressure when i was young unlike other children i had to learn in a cold room i sometimes have to learn in holidays my father says im gonna become best now look what happened im not a good student and he always says of himself that he did a nice job and calls me stupid because im not that talented and says its my mothers fault my mother is suffering right now and always if i done one thing wrong he shouted at me

because of this treatement i became insane and always my mother is doing all the work with money gets blamed if something is going down
i know he has some stress himself but still its unfair
Some of his siblings are like him thinking our family is the best
My mother is suffering from the inside and i just hope that i dont lose her
But what i hate the most is he calls himself the best and that we are doing bad things but he is actually smoking some stuff
If i do something wrong he blames the internet
He also makes fun of Anime and Manga and call me pathetic for watching it
Also he said himself that males are superior to females which is not true many brothers of him are similar like that but his sisters are the best so at the end he is just saying it so our family can be the best
I sometimes feel like im his tool and not his son
I hate my father right now
Sorry for making this thread but if i tellmy problems others i feel a bit better

It's perfectly normal to hate him for that, just don't kill him, okay ?

 

[Izou Xaxa]

Islam has nothing to do with this. Simply put he expects too much out of you. I'm guessing he didn't have the chance to go to school himself so he's trying to live through you. My dad use to be like that. You shouldn't confront him and tell him to give you shit, that's condemned in Islam. What you do need to do however is talk to your mother and your dad's mother (if she's still alive). You should also talk to your dad's brother or sister. His sister/brother will have a talk with him. Also consider talking to a Muslim scholar because their word holds a lot of value. Just try your best academically and be what you want to be. It's unfortunate many parents are like this. Inshallah things will work out for you.




Edit: You need to get a job and leave your home. Support your parents financially and visit them every single day for more that 5 hours.​

Problem is they are like my father hard to change they wil be on his side i already talked to my mother but that wont end the problem

I'm also 17 Lol

When I leave I'll be leaving my sister with my mom and it'll be hell but she'll have to make it herself.
Sometimes you e got to do what's best for you for your own sake. I'm sure your mother would t want you to continue suffering for her.

Yeah i think you are right

 

[A$AP Wap]

my dad's just like that (wants me to do good/is "never wrong"/blames other stuff)
but your problem is worse than what's going on with me i think

i hate both my parents for diff reasons, but wouldn't care at all if my mom died

"omg tater, why say that" because it's the the way she acts
you don't live with her so you wouldn't even understand

 

[Pumpkin Ninja]

Grow some back bone.

Question: Are you strong enough to kick his ass?

If you are then why are you afraid of him? I'm not saying kick his ass but I'm saying if he's bothering your mom tell him to stop.

 

[Awkward Linguist]

Problem is they are like my father hard to change they wil be on his side i already talked to my mother but that wont end the problem



Yeah i think you are right

Well bro you're going to have to live with it until you go finish university and get a job/start a career. What do you want to be when you're older? Forget what I said before about leaving, it's a bad idea. But if there's one thing that's certain is that he will eventually stop. He will eventually realise that it's not his life and that he needs to back off. Eventually.​

 

[Complex]

Islam has nothing to do with this. Simply put he expects too much out of you. I'm guessing he didn't have the chance to go to school himself so he's trying to live through you. My dad use to be like that. You shouldn't confront him and tell him to give you shit, that's condemned in Islam. What you do need to do however is talk to your mother and your dad's mother (if she's still alive). You should also talk to your dad's brother or sister. His sister/brother will have a talk with him. Also consider talking to a Muslim scholar because their word holds a lot of value. Just try your best academically and be what you want to be. It's unfortunate many parents are like this. Inshallah things will work out for you.


Edit: You need to get a job and leave your home. Support your parents financially and visit them every single day for more that 5 hours.​

This ^

 

[Pumpkin Ninja]

My Dad sounds a lot like yours, the thing is as we got older, he started changing for the better. He still loves to play the blame game and can get annoying but I stand up for myself if I feel I'm not at fault.

I heard from people he was a monster before I was 5 which I believe was true.