I don't know what to do anymore....

[Whizgigger]

I have been with my girlfriend for 2 years. Our relationship became pretty serious. Shes been living with me for the past two years. She was everything that I wanted for a partner. She was very caring, loving, thoughtful. helpful. creative. I loved everything about her. I loved her quirks and flaws. She even got me a promise ring. We had so much planned out together. We were going to build a future together...until last Tuesday...She left and moved all of her stuff out while I was at work.

Nothing has been the same since that day. I can't sleep, I can't get her out of my mind, I don't have any desire to do anything...This is the second time that she has left me. The first time she left, she got physically abused, mentally abused, used, and she got pregnant. She also had to get an abortion for that. Somehow we ran into each other at Wal-mart after she left that guy and we got back together. She was sincerely hurt from leaving me in the first place....Now she left again for a fat guy that she met off Tinder....

Its almost been two weeks since we broke up and I'm still hurting....I don't understand how she already went on a date with that guy. Is this guy a rebound? Is that why she isn't hurting like I'am?....How do you meet a guy off Tinder...I thought that app was full of desperate and horny boys?....I don't understand how she became so indifferent...like shes a totally different person....Our relationship didn't even have major issues. She even told me it was the best relationship shes ever had...because all of her past relationships abused her....I just don't understand why she left....I'm hurting and I don't know what to do anymore....

 

[Natsu Shazneel]

Hmmm... something sounds fishy about that girl.

 

[Donald J Trump]

I don't know what to do anymore.... hmmm how about I ask NarutoBase what I should do. :bdpf:

Good idea op!

 

[Whizgigger]

I'm asking for help...not for people to troll me...if you don't have anything friendly to say then don't comment...please

 

[TNC Xlll]

Wow, that seems really serious
"I dont understand..."---She's not the girl that you used to know, no, not anymore. (TKO, JT)
Maybe she felt guilty and deemed that you're too good for her, then she left.
(I'm a pessimist guy, so that was the best I could think for you)

 

[Wabbit]

I have been with my girlfriend for 2 years. Our relationship became pretty serious. Shes been living with me for the past two years. She was everything that I wanted for a partner. She was very caring, loving, thoughtful. helpful. creative. I loved everything about her. I loved her quirks and flaws. She even got me a promise ring. We had so much planned out together. We were going to build a future together...until last Tuesday...She left and moved all of her stuff out while I was at work.

Nothing has been the same since that day. I can't sleep, I can't get her out of my mind, I don't have any desire to do anything...This is the second time that she has left me. The first time she left, she got physically abused, mentally abused, used, and she got pregnant. She also had to get an abortion for that. Somehow we ran into each other at Wal-mart after she left that guy and we got back together. She was sincerely hurt from leaving me in the first place....Now she left again for a fat guy that she met off Tinder....

Its almost been two weeks since we broke up and I'm still hurting....I don't understand how she already went on a date with that guy. Is this guy a rebound? Is that why she isn't hurting like I'am?....How do you meet a guy off Tinder...I thought that app was full of desperate and horny boys?....I don't understand how she became so indifferent...like shes a totally different person....Our relationship didn't even have major issues. She even told me it was the best relationship shes ever had...because all of her past relationships abused her....I just don't understand why she left....I'm hurting and I don't know what to do anymore....

You don't understand just like millions of other men. "Hey I am a nice why don't girls like me".

May be you were just like a friend or like a manwhore she used to recover and you never caught a glimpse of it being delusional in love.

You should find a way to convince your self that it is not worth being sad,hurting your self on such worthless human being.

 

[Luciform]

So she cheated on you twice? Move on, it will be hard, but move on. You will find a better one.

 

[Floydical]

She sounds quite young and immature. Its also possible she's second thinking being with the same person forever. If this is the case, it might be best to try to forget about her for a while. Obviously you can always try to reconnect with her down the line, but if she's almost certain to continue this pattern of un-predictableness than it might be best to stay away. It might take her a long time to decide to settle down, and you simply can't anticipate that.

If she meant that much, then give her some time and try to reconnect down the line again. Just understand if she already left you twice its likely to happen again unless she's changed her mindset and lifestyle.

 

[Jazzy Stardust]

You'll drive yourself crazy trying to figure out why someone did something. I have that battle with myself at times, but since we can't read minds you'll never know unless you ask. Which is up to you if you want to know or if she'll even tell you.

Really you'll work it out for yourself over time. There's no off button you can press, you just got to ride it out while trying to stay positive and you'll eventually feel better about it.

 

[Whizgigger]

You'll drive yourself crazy trying to figure out why someone did something. I have that battle with myself at times, but since we can't read minds you'll never know unless you ask. Which is up to you if you want to know or if she'll even tell you.

Really you'll work it out for yourself over time. There's no off button you can press, you just got to ride it out while trying to stay positive and you'll eventually feel better about it.

Yeah...its making me depressed the more I think about all of this...

 

[Jazzy Stardust]

Yeah...its making me depressed the more I think about all of this...

Well go find something else to do to take your mind off of it.

 

[NaNaNaaaaa]

I have been with my girlfriend for 2 years. Our relationship became pretty serious. Shes been living with me for the past two years. She was everything that I wanted for a partner. She was very caring, loving, thoughtful. helpful. creative. I loved everything about her. I loved her quirks and flaws. She even got me a promise ring. We had so much planned out together. We were going to build a future together...until last Tuesday...She left and moved all of her stuff out while I was at work.

Nothing has been the same since that day. I can't sleep, I can't get her out of my mind, I don't have any desire to do anything...This is the second time that she has left me. The first time she left, she got physically abused, mentally abused, used, and she got pregnant. She also had to get an abortion for that. Somehow we ran into each other at Wal-mart after she left that guy and we got back together. She was sincerely hurt from leaving me in the first place....Now she left again for a fat guy that she met off Tinder....

Its almost been two weeks since we broke up and I'm still hurting....I don't understand how she already went on a date with that guy. Is this guy a rebound? Is that why she isn't hurting like I'am?....How do you meet a guy off Tinder...I thought that app was full of desperate and horny boys?....I don't understand how she became so indifferent...like shes a totally different person....Our relationship didn't even have major issues. She even told me it was the best relationship shes ever had...because all of her past relationships abused her....I just don't understand why she left....I'm hurting and I don't know what to do anymore....

I know you care about this girl but...move on. She is fickle and has issues with commitment. She is the type who has to have a man, the type who has to be in a relationship but she doesn't develop a real attachment because the relationship is just so she can fill that void that needs attention. When she becomes bored of the one giving her attention her finds another for the thrill it gives her. Some women are self destructive. Usually stemming from childhood experience, a mother who was similar, abuse, so on and so forth. She will never be faithful and she will never stay. The only chance you have is if she entered counselling and a good therapist could help her. My advice would be to move on and find someone else. You are only seeing the side that you find perfect and ignoring the blazing issues of her faults.

 

[Donald J Trump]

I'm asking for help...not for people to troll me...if you don't have anything friendly to say then don't comment...please

Okay, fine. Here it is plain and simple.

If she was abused in all of her previous relationships before you, that tells me something. What that tells me is that she has an eye for "bad" boys or dominant boys. Did you treat her too nice? Were you a white knight? If you were then you have your answer, *****es straight up get up and leave sometimes, if the boyfriend is too nice It can happen often.It probably just means, you guys were not meant to be because of the characteristics.

Secondly, don't try to take her back or even talk to her. Once a cheater, always a cheater, and that also applies for people that leave. She did it once(that should have been a warning) .... and what a surprise she did it again. If you somehow manage to get back, she will do it again and again.

She left you, she does not want you, so there is no point in whining about it. If someone doesn't want to do something, don't force it, it's as simple as that.

Now the real question is, will you take on the realistic advice and grow a pair and find a new GF or do something more useful or will you cry and beg her to come back?

I know the answer, do you?

 

[Whizgigger]

I know you care about this girl but...move on. She is fickle and has issues with commitment. She is the type who has to have a man, the type who has to be in a relationship but she doesn't develop a real attachment because the relationship is just so she can feel that void that needs attention. When she becomes bored of the one giving her attention her finds another for the thrill it gives her. Some women are self destructive. Usually stemming from childhood experience, a mother who was similar, abuse, so on and so forth. She will never be faithful and she will never stay. The only chance you have is if she entered counselling and a good therapist could help her. My advice would be to move on and find someone else. You are only seeing the side that you find perfect and ignoring the blazing issues of her faults.

Yeah her mom is a chronic hoarder, her dad doesn't seem to say much about anything that she does. There is only one path through her house to every room. When she told her parents about this guy she met off Tinder her parents didn't say much...I thought meeting random guys off Tinder was dangerous and most of the people on Tinder are just desperate/horny....She is adopted and she has chronic depression. She takes meds for that. She also has a guy writing her love letters from federal prison...

 

[Whizgigger]

Okay, fine. Here it is plain and simple.

If she was abused in all of her previous relationships before you, that tells me something. What that tells me is that she has an eye for "bad" boys or dominant boys. Did you treat her too nice? Were you a white knight? If you were then you have your answer, *****es straight up get up and leave sometimes, if the boyfriend is too nice It can happen often.It probably just means, you guys were not meant to be because of the characteristics.

Secondly, don't try to take her back or even talk to her. Once a cheater, always a cheater, and that also applies for people that leave. She did it once(that should have been a warning) .... and what a surprise she did it again. If you somehow manage to get back, she will do it again and again.

She left you, she does not want you, so there is no point in whining about it. If someone doesn't want to do something, don't force it, it's as simple as that.

Now the real question is, will you take on the realistic advice and grow a pair and find a new GF or do something more useful or will you cry and beg her to come back?

I know the answer, do you?

I've not talk to her in over a week. I have been trying to move on....but she keeps popping up in my head...Like I can't stop thinking about her you know?...

 

[NaNaNaaaaa]

Okay, fine. Here it is plain and simple.

If she was abused in all of her previous relationships before you, that tells me something. What that tells me is that she has an eye for "bad" boys or dominant boys. Did you treat her too nice? Were you a white knight? If you were then you have your answer, *****es straight up get up and leave sometimes, if the boyfriend is too nice It can happen often.It probably just means, you guys were not meant to be because of the characteristics.

Secondly, don't try to take her back or even talk to her. Once a cheater, always a cheater, and that also applies for people that leave. She did it once(that should have been a warning) .... and what a surprise she did it again. If you somehow manage to get back, she will do it again and again.

She left you, she does not want you, so there is no point in whining about it. If someone doesn't want to do something, don't force it, it's as simple as that.

Now the real question is, will you take on the realistic advice and grow a pair and find a new GF or do something more useful or will you cry and beg her to come back?

I know the answer, do you?

Looks like you wont have an issue with being too nice ^^

Many women find themselves in abusive relationships because of trauma. Many abusive men are at the start, caring and protective and so insecure women are drawn to them, only after do they find out what they are like and this becomes a cycle. In other cases it is because the person is afraid of commitment and so chooses subconsciously a partner they know they wont commit.

Yeah her mom is a chronic hoarder, her dad doesn't seem to say much about anything that she does. There is only one path through her house to every room. When she told her parents about this guy she met off Tinder her parents didn't say much...I thought meeting random guys off Tinder was dangerous and most of the people on Tinder are just desperate/horny....She is adopted and she has chronic depression. She takes meds for that. She also has a guy writing her love letters from federal prison...

Oh dear...what she needs is therapy not meds, sounds like the whole family needs therapy...this is one girl going down a bad path very blindly, I feel for her, I really do...you have to decide whether to pursue and attempt to save a possibly lost cause or to let go and move on.
Moving on hurts but it will fade in time...

 

[Whizgigger]

Looks like you wont have an issue with being too nice ^^

Many women find themselves in abusive relationships because of trauma. Many abusive men are at the start, caring and protective and so insecure women are drawn to them, only after do they find out what they are like and this becomes a cycle. In other cases it is because the person is afraid of commitment and so chooses subconsciously a partner they know they wont commit.



Oh dear...what she needs is therapy not meds, sounds like the whole family needs therapy...this is one girl going down a bad path very blindly, I feel for her, I really do...you have to decide whether to pursue and attempt to save a possibly lost cause or to let go and move on.
Moving on hurts but it will fade in time...

I have not talked to her in a week as of today. I don't think we will be talking again...since she has chose her path to be with a stranger off Tinder. I keep thinking to myself that hes going to turn out to be like the last guy she left me for...

 

[NaNaNaaaaa]

I have not talked to her in a week as of today. I don't think we will be talking again...since she has chose her path to be with a stranger off Tinder. I keep thinking to myself that hes going to turn out to be like the last guy she left me for...

He most likely is...that is what is so unfortunate...

 

[Kishi Uzumaki]

Best advice will be to move on, it will be hard at first but you should move on if you keep depressing over it you may miss many good things in life and who knows you may find a better girl than her .

 

[Whizgigger]

He most likely is...that is what is so unfortunate...

And I keep thinking to myself that she is infatuated. [I don't know how since he is a fat guy][She normally wouldn't go for someone like him knowing her] Once the honeymoon stage ends the true color comes out.