How to turn down a guy >____>

[-Punk-]

I don't appreciate this whole sterotypical thing of women being the heartbreakers shizz U_U

I don't know any batter , either way you will destroy him no diff.

 

[βeeCee]

What makes you think telling him no means you'll destroy his whole world? Such a narcissist. Even if he initially isn't happy about it, I'm sure his life will go on with or without you.

 

[Sasukenumberonelover]

Lol, I remember running away from the guy that liked me.

Luckily he never came back to me .. so that might help. u__u

 

[Οdin]

If you look like Adriana Lima you will obviously shatter his heart, but I don't think that's the case so he should be fine. u_u

 

[Craziie]

I was just asking a question. That person has changed their gender before I think. Plus, I don't think this is even a real story.

Why does it even matter, though?

And this is real story. I dont make troll threads.
Nor would I waste my time even doing this.

What makes you think telling him no means you'll destroy his whole world? Such a narcissist. Even if he initially isn't happy about it, I'm sure his life will go on with or without you.

Teenagers seem to think its the end of their life, if someone they like doesn't like them back.
It's normal, and I wasn't being literal about it, as if he cant live without me. If you even gotten that from my post, then I apologize.

I don't know any batter , either way you will destroy him no diff.

Your making me feel bad

 

[NineSNS]

The fact that you haven't set it straight yet is a little disturbing, especially since it's making you uncomfortable. A simple "hey you seem like a nice guy, but (substitute your excuse of choice)" should clear up any misunderstanding on his side.

 

[SonictheHedgehog]

What makes you think telling him no means you'll destroy his whole world? Such a narcissist. Even if he initially isn't happy about it, I'm sure his life will go on with or without you.

She has a point, you know. When you look at it like this you're kind of conceited. Lol

Tell him "Yooo I ain't bout this touchy feely shit get off or I'll pound your nuts so far up your throat you'll be eating your head as a side for every meal."

 

[Ciao]

Why does it even matter, though?

And this is real story. I dont make troll threads.
Nor would I waste my time even doing this.


Teenagers seem to think its the end of their life, if someone they like doesn't like them back.
It's normal, and I wasn't being literal about it, as if he cant live without me. If you even gotten that from my post, then I apologize.

I was going to say that if you were a guy and the person that you thought was 'hot' wasn't gay, then you shouldn't worry about being embarrassed when the kid crushing on you called you 'babe'.

 

[Punk Hazard]

Alright, I'm going to help you with this because I know exactly what you are going through. Trust me, I've been there. You want to speak to him privately to not only spare his feelings, but be courteous as well as to not cause any drama to occur where people can see it. Tell him that he's a nice guy, but you are just not interested in pursuing a romantic relationship with him. Bam. Sweet, simple, and to the point. If he begins to ask questions, be honest with him. Just let him know that you don't like him in that way and that you'd appreciate if he'd refrain from acting like he's dating you. Let him know that you'd value some personal space and that you'd really appreciate keeping his hug and the like to a minimum.

Be gentle enough with him so that he is not hurt, but be firm enough so that he knows you are serious. You do not have to tell him about the other guy, but make it clear that a relationship between you two will not happen and that he needs to respect you by valuing your personal space. [/I]

Absolutely do not do the bolded. That's just cliche and quite honestly, just as bad and ugly as "It's not you, it's me." No guy ever wants to hear "You're a nice guy but...". Most of us would just rather be turned down than fed lines.

 

[Transcendence]

Honestly, the way you described it, he seems to getting in a bit over his head. I'm not really a romantic expert by any means, and I seem to never really get into relationships because of my fear of rejection, but just let this guy down easy. He thinks he's in deep when the feelings are nowhere near reciprocated at all. The whole "hugs" and face touching thing is him geting recognition. If hugging were to start a relationship then it would have done a while ago, but the way you stated it seems like he forces it. Just get him alone one day and let him down easy. Although you do sound somewhat conceited talking about the "hot guy" behind you.

 

[ShiningStar]

A post, I can actually get some advice from.
I'm glad someone understands me to. I'm not being a btcvh or trying to break his heart.
(Whole reason, Im getting advice U_U )
I wouldn't want that happening to me, so I want to refrain from doing that to others.

Sometimes you have to leave it to a woman to actually help you. (Don't take this seriously chauvinists U_U )

And I know you don't mean to hurt him or have bad intentions. Sometimes a girl simply doesn't like a guy. It's not rocket science, but you just aren't interested. There's nothing wrong with that. Just make sure you are gentle but firm with him so that you get your point across. That way he'll have no hard feelings or be bitter towards you.

 

[Craziie]

She has a point, you know. When you look at it like this you're kind of conceited. Lol

Tell him "Yooo I ain't bout this touchy feely shit get off or I'll pound your nuts so far up your throat you'll be eating your head as a side for every meal."

I'm far from conceited.
What I was meaning is that, teenagers (specifically my age) seem to think their life is over if someone they liked doesn't seem them that way. Hell I know, its happened to me .___. (Reason, why I want him to be let down nicely)
I wasn't saying he is life was going to be nothing without me, but he might be one of those teens who act like their life is dead because of being, lets say. Friend-zoned.....

Honestly, the way you described it, he seems to getting in a bit over his head. I'm not really a romantic expert by any means, and I seem to never really get into relationships because of my fear of rejection, but just let this guy down easy. He thinks he's in deep when the feelings are nowhere near reciprocated at all. The whole "hugs" and face touching thing is him geting recognition. If hugging were to start a relationship then it would have done a while ago, but the way you stated it seems like he forces it. Just get him alone one day and let him down easy. Although you do sound somewhat conceited talking about the "hot guy" behind you.

I do think he may be getting a little over his head. To his gestures such as hugs and stuff, I try my best to give off that Im not interested in that with him, but he keeps trying so thats when I started guessing, I need to talk to him but I dont want be all rude in someway. So I thought guy would help...fail .___.
I think he may be thinking this, the way you put it. Thanks.

Lol, I'm just a teenager, bro. I mean, teenagers fanatsize about the hot guy and stuff all the time. I also said in another post. I am aware me and the hot guy will never be together. :dead:

 

[ShiningStar]

Absolutely do not do the bolded. That's just cliche and quite honestly, just as bad and ugly as "It's not you, it's me." No guy ever wants to hear "You're a nice guy but...". Most of us would just rather be turned down than fed lines.

Oh? Would you rather her call him a jerkoff and the like? Have you considered that he might actually be a nice guy? It's not being fed lines, it's her simply calling it as she sees it. Of course, if he isn't, then she wouldn't use that. But since I do not know him personally, I am going to assume, until she tells me otherwise, that he is nice. U_U

 

[Rigel]

"Pardon if this may seem rude, but I really am getting uncomfortable with these recent displays of affection I'm getting from you. Invasion of my personal space is something I'm not accustomed to even at home, and <insert his name> I would really appreciate it if you would refrain from doing all of these stuff.

You're a great guy, you amuse me, but I can't seem to see you in a romantic light. I'm sorry."

Or something along those lines. ( ._.) Better done in private, be calm and honest, and no false reassurance to appease and buffer the rejection. There's no easy way of rejecting someone, but the least you could give him is an honest answer.

 

[Transcendence]

I'm far from conceited.
What I was meaning is that, teenagers (specifically my age) seem to think their life is over if someone they liked doesn't seem them that way. Hell I know, its happened to me .___. (Reason, why I want him to be let down nicely)
I wasn't saying he is life was going to be nothing without me, but he might be one of those teens who act like their life is dead because of being, lets say. Friend-zoned.....



I do think he may be getting a little over his head. To his gestures such as hugs and stuff, I try my best to give off that Im not interested in that with him, but he keeps trying so thats when I started guessing, I need to talk to him but I dont want be all rude in someway. So I thought guy would help...fail .___.
I think he may be thinking this, the way you put it. Thanks.

Lol, I'm just a teenager, bro. I mean, teenagers fanatsize about the hot guy and stuff all the time. I also said in another post. I am aware me and the hot guy will never be together. :dead:

I'm 17, I know the feeling lol.

 

[Transcendence]

Oh? Would you rather her call him a jerkoff and the like? Have you considered that he might actually be a nice guy? It's not being fed lines, it's her simply calling it as she sees it. Of course, if he isn't, then she wouldn't use that. But since I do not know him personally, I am going to assume, until she tells me otherwise, that he is nice. U_U

Her calling him a nice guy is equal to, if not worse than what you said. You say that to the guy, and he will feel even shittier than if you called him a jerk off. It'll just add to the stereotype that girls turn down nice guys in favor of less well mannered guys (jerks in essence).

 

[Riseofthephoenix]

Simple solution, get a boyfriend. That normally does the trick or just have your friends talk to him about it. Coming from a guy that used to get rejected, (saying that now relationships don't bother me in the slightest). Or just a little chat with him, you are very friendly but you're just not my type. (Shessh I don't know)

 

[Disquiet]

Some good advice in here so I'm not even going to touch upon that. I'll just add that you're probably not even the only one he does it to lol. Especially since you say you rarely talk to him...

 

[Riseofthephoenix]

"Pardon if this may seem rude, but I really am getting uncomfortable with these recent displays of affection I'm getting from you. Invasion of my personal space is something I'm not accustomed to even at home, and <insert his name> I would really appreciate it if you would refrain from doing all of these stuff.

You're a great guy, you amuse me, but I can't seem to see you in a romantic light. I'm sorry."

Or something along those lines. ( ._.) Better done in private, be calm and honest, and no false reassurance to appease and buffer the rejection. There's no easy way of rejecting someone, but the least you could give him is an honest answer.

What she said. Hits the nail, better to do it away from a crowd so you don't draw attention.

 

[Champ]

You're a dude tho, just knock him out