[Discussion] how to get over a crush

[Akemi]

A crush is nothing to get over, there's nothing there.

Actually it's annoying and would last for few days till you see the person again..etc x3

 

[BlazeRelease]

Actually it's annoying and would last for few days till you see the person again..etc x3

I wouldn't know, I've never had a "crush".

 

[Akemi]

I wouldn't know, I've never had a "crush".

You ask them out? X3

 

[Natsu Shazneel]

Fall on a rock like Naruto did.

 

[Wabbit]

All my crushes were way above my league. Just like most of the things in life understanding that pursuing them is stupid,delusional and not good for me helped me. Avoid doing some retarded shit that you will remember 2 years later and feel like killing yourself.

 

[Jazzy Stardust]

I remind myself it's just attraction. It's shallow, there's no real love there between the two of us.

As a man that happens all the time. I could easily date someone I'm strongly attracted too but have little in common with. I have to remind myself a lot to keep it in my pants basically. Which is kind of like a crush except not always one sided. Though all crushes aren't.

So that's my method. :bdpf:

 

[Sakura Bunny]

Destroy Konoha

 

[ahmo]

if i asked my crush out, i'd be a pedophile, and yes thats ****ed

 

[Akemi]

if i asked my crush out, i'd be a pedophile, and yes thats ****ed

Not all crushes can be asked out,I know,I totally know.

Actually the best guys are always taken x) I remember last year me and my best friend had crush on the same guy,he ended with a totally different girl.but he's actually been a friend since day 1 I talked to him.

Because sometimes i get crushes on guys who end up being so different from me or in a relationship or I just quit because I feel not ready x)

 

[ahmo]

Not all crushes can be asked out,I know,I totally know.

Actually the best guys are always taken x) I remember last year me and my best friend had crush on the same guy,he ended with a totally different girl.but he's actually been a friend since day 1 I talked to him.

Because sometimes i get crushes on guys who end up being so different from me or in a relationship or I just quit because I feel not ready x)

not trying to be too meddling, i'd suggest you do therapy.... your tendencies to have a crush is waaaaaay over the charts, lol

 

[Akemi]

not trying to be too meddling, i'd suggest you do therapy.... your tendencies to have a crush is waaaaaay over the charts, lol

It's just my age i was not like that before x) the end of high school till now x) the weirdest about that is if really one of those were available I would not have let him in. They are actually 3 crushes in total of 2 years x3

 

[BanGinji]

Find a new crush?

^this

 

[YowYan]

In my case; they (2/3 over a span of 8 years) were all above my league but still, for some bizarre reason interested in me if even a little. But in front of crushes, I tend to behave like a socially awkward bum which made for some bad, bad, bad memories which makes me cringe when I think back or encounter them in real again. The worst thing is, I couod have befriended them or more if it wasn't for my terribly sad and unnecessary self-consciousness. Oh well. Had girls here and there and 1 serious relationship.

 

[Aim64C]

Part of this is understanding what it is you want out of a relationship.

Since I've taken a fast food job - I see countless beautiful creatures come through either the drive through or up to the front counter. Some of them even give me googly-eyes. Sure - the impulse is there to learn more about them, get to know them. Something about them stands out to me that I like.

Of course - none of that is ever realistically going to happen while handing someone their change at the drive through or serving up their food on the front counter. And even if it did - I am 27 but look like a 16 year old (and probably will until I'm 50) - the probability that I'm dealing with jailbait is quite high.

That said - we were to change the scenario - such as if I were to still be in school and to see some of these people on a somewhat regular basis in a context that allows for more socializing - there's a lot of beautiful girls out there who have interesting personalities who I would absolutely love to give me the time of day.

But, at the same time - we have to keep in mind what we are looking for out of our relationships with people - be they friendships, romantic escapades, companionship, or all of the above. When you start to learn more about what it is you are looking for in someone you 'like,' it begins to get easier to move people from that "I'm really interested in this person" ("crush") phase and into a more permanent category of how you want to relate to this person and how that person is willing to relate to you.

I'm not sure if that helps with this particular instance, but perhaps it can help develop a bit of perspective on relationships and the like.