[Discussion] How Do You Let Go Of Someone?

[ArabianLuffy]

01. Be real when it comes to real life.
02. Have a serious look when it comes RESPONSIBILITIES.
03. You have a dream, an ambition. To become a Pirate King successful man in job.
04. Investment.
05. Taking care of yourself.

This and more to take into consideration. I never experienced relationship (girlfirend and stuff), but as a married person, believe it or not, females want real men.

I have to inform you I'm from Saudi Arabia, so having boyfriend/girlfriend in my country is not something anyone can talk about in public. Relgion yeah, but this is another topic.

 

[Mari Makinami]

Focusing on another chick always helped me. Usually it takes 2-3 weeks to get over for me, although one time back when I was 18 or so it lasted for 3 months. It sucked quite a lot. Wish you get over it soon, bruh

 

[AllKnowingShinobi]

Finding a new lover, time heals all heart aches and a new lover keeps that pain in check

 

[Da Best Ever]

I got 99 problems but a b!tch ain't one, so i can't help you

 

[Umari Senju]

sorry to break it to you but she was never in a relationship with you.

That's how she quickly got over you.

Just reread your story carefully this time and you'll know where I'm coming from.

Also hate. Hate is a good way to get over someone. You find yourself loathing and if done right, you will find yourself exploring new stuff that you've never bothered to think before even though it's out of spite.

Who says negative feelings are never useful?

You can prove her that you're better off without her.

But I for one just carry on.

Out of sight, out of mind. As soon as she's done something that made me feel like I don't exist to her, I could do the same.

You can quickly get over someone as soon as you get back your original self rather than your shared self.

"Good, let the hate flow through you. Submit to the dark side."

No seriously he is right. Hate can be a powerful emotion to help you move past it as well. Some people need to cut all ties and hate the person to move on. It is an effective method and not entirely unhealthy.

 

[Jazzy Stardust]

youll always care for your ex's somewhat. the only way to move past it is find someone new.

 

[The Amazing Spider Man]

The two people who disliked are petty af. But anywho I'll reply to you guy's comments when I get home.

 

[Phact]

I have some great advice for anyone who wants to let go of someone

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[Phact]

I masturbate way too much

WTF

 

[Adam Driver]

You get over it with time. You'll either stop caring over time of find someone who makes you even happier.

 

[roark]

I got confused... you dated her or not? And your feelings were recipocrate? The way you said, it was a fling and you was platonicaly infatuated with her?

try to write to her about the feelings, and that you were immature, you still think about her, etc ... depending on what you did, it may be that she understands. She may not respond right away, but if she read, can be an open door. With my ex was so, I was crazy about him, he in turn felt something, but he was too slow. So out fo blue I discoled everything, and he was unresponsive. I felt like a retard, but he liked it. More or less seven months after that, we got together.

Anyway, we had a hard time trying to let go each other... i was still in love with him fo almost two years, and we sometimes had *** and hanged out, but go back with him would be like regressing in my life. It was difficult because we had the same group of friends. And at that time I drank a lot, it helped to forget him little and contradictorily it was a help hand for us to have *** after a few parties, but well ... don't do it.

One day eventually I saw him, and felt absolutely nothing. So only time will make you forget this girl. Or fall in love with someone else.
I think occupy with other things helps a lot, as engage with another activity: a sport, start classes in something you always wanted, etc ... What helped me a lot when I was in the pit was traveling. So if you can't completly move on, and specially if you live in a small city with not so much options -as you implied-, join some money and make an exchange, travel to other state or something similar.... helps a lot. Travel with the mindset of having a lot of fun and meet new people and have unique experiences. You will see that the world is much bigger than that girl, and that there are more interesting people.

That's what I have as experiences of moving on.

 

[Hachiman]

You should stop following her on social sites. Block her so that you stop seeing her posts which reminds you of her.

Start playing violent games . This can reduce your craziness for a bit.

Indulge yourself with other girls or someone of your type. Talk to them and if possible have FWB but put a limit to it so that you don't become a victim of this girl too.

You gonna waste your whole damn life waiting for it to heal by itself. You gonna become more and more dumb thinking only of her. So take some initiative and try to control your urges before rotting your life for a damn *****.

 

[Uzumaki Death god]

what I do
-Whenever I start to miss her, I focus on the negatives.the things I hated about her and our relationship (very effective)
-find someone new to focus on. preferably someone better
-lose All contact with the said person

And if all that doesn't work and you still want her back, just keep trying.trust me, it takes ages for girls to get over someone they were in love with and even then they just burry the feelings under all the crazy stuff that you used to do and annoyed her.So all you have to do is show her that those are long gone (you should know them if you were really close) and be the guy she fell for again (even the guy you were only in her mind.again, you should know).Be persistent! she's probably gonna be a bit hostile cause you hurt her but just suffer through the humiliation and the turn downs.she should eventually give in.
hope I helped =)

 

[DominiqueX]

As it has been said above, time is a big factor.
When I'm in such a situation, I just break off any contact and try to focus on other things to distract myself. Over time it gets easier and easier til the point where you don't give a fuq about that person anymore.

 

[Chihaya]

I've had a total of three boyfriends in total.
The first one, I dated 2 months and had nothing in common with. When we broke up, I didn't care at all and was actually relieved.
The second boyfriend, we were together for about 2 weeks. Again, I did not care that we broke up. There was no bond that was started.
And the last boy, I'm still dating. We are 7 months into the relationship. Take into consideration that I'm still in highschool. A lot of adults say it's puppy love, which sure, it might be. But the fact is, is that he's there for me always. And I'm so scared to lose that support and love that I need in my life right now. I've never been so attached and close to another person. Not even my best friends. So in all honesty, I have no idea how I would be able to let go of all our memories and all of his support and kindness to me. I'd be so sad. I just can't even imagine it.

However, I think the main thing in letting go and forgetting, is to stop thinking about that person and to keep yourself busy. I know for a fact it's way easier than it sounds. But it's what you gotta do. Life goes on.

 

[The Amazing Spider Man]

I've had a total of three boyfriends in total.
The first one, I dated 2 months and had nothing in common with. When we broke up, I didn't care at all and was actually relieved.
The second boyfriend, we were together for about 2 weeks. Again, I did not care that we broke up. There was no bond that was started.
And the last boy, I'm still dating. We are 7 months into the relationship. Take into consideration that I'm still in highschool. A lot of adults say it's puppy love, which sure, it might be. But the fact is, is that he's there for me always. And I'm so scared to lose that support and love that I need in my life right now. I've never been so attached and close to another person. Not even my best friends. So in all honesty, I have no idea how I would be able to let go of all our memories and all of his support and kindness to me. I'd be so sad. I just can't even imagine it.

However, I think the main thing in letting go and forgetting, is to stop thinking about that person and to keep yourself busy. I know for a fact it's way easier than it sounds. But it's what you gotta do. Life goes on.

WTF Why even date the first guy

2 weeks I can't call that a relationship

And 7 months is not just puppy love that's a serious thing. So I suggest you hold on to what you have.

You should stop following her on social sites. Block her so that you stop seeing her posts which reminds you of her.

Start playing violent games . This can reduce your craziness for a bit.

Indulge yourself with other girls or someone of your type. Talk to them and if possible have FWB but put a limit to it so that you don't become a victim of this girl too.

You gonna waste your whole damn life waiting for it to heal by itself. You gonna become more and more dumb thinking only of her. So take some initiative and try to control your urges before rotting your life for a damn *****.

I stopped dealing with social media a WHILE ago so there is no issue there. Though I just changed phones so there is no way of me contacting her anymore which is good for me.

Trust me I've been playing some violent shit LOL I think it helps a lot as well.

You get over it with time. You'll either stop caring over time of find someone who makes you even happier.

True af

I got confused... you dated her or not? And your feelings were recipocrate? The way you said, it was a fling and you was platonicaly infatuated with her?

try to write to her about the feelings, and that you were immature, you still think about her, etc ... depending on what you did, it may be that she understands. She may not respond right away, but if she read, can be an open door. With my ex was so, I was crazy about him, he in turn felt something, but he was too slow. So out fo blue I discoled everything, and he was unresponsive. I felt like a retard, but he liked it. More or less seven months after that, we got together.

Anyway, we had a hard time trying to let go each other... i was still in love with him fo almost two years, and we sometimes had *** and hanged out, but go back with him would be like regressing in my life. It was difficult because we had the same group of friends. And at that time I drank a lot, it helped to forget him little and contradictorily it was a help hand for us to have *** after a few parties, but well ... don't do it.

One day eventually I saw him, and felt absolutely nothing. So only time will make you forget this girl. Or fall in love with someone else.
I think occupy with other things helps a lot, as engage with another activity: a sport, start classes in something you always wanted, etc ... What helped me a lot when I was in the pit was traveling. So if you can't completly move on, and specially if you live in a small city with not so much options -as you implied-, join some money and make an exchange, travel to other state or something similar.... helps a lot. Travel with the mindset of having a lot of fun and meet new people and have unique experiences. You will see that the world is much bigger than that girl, and that there are more interesting people.

That's what I have as experiences of moving on.

Yea we dated for 2 years. It wasn't just a fling but I can confirm we were both somewhat infatuated.

Can tell it was pretty hard for you to move on as well and I appreciate the advice. Though I think traveling is out of the question I've been hitting the gym for about 3 months and doing other activities to have my mind occupied as much as possible.

 

[Yatori]

It's all about time.

 

[Son Ryuto Uzumaki]

Tried to contact her earlier in April but she didnt reply. Will most likely attempt to move on now. But damn she looks so sexier now. Smh. Bet them sugar walls nice and warm.... Oh wait what was I talking about? heh heh

If you have found a answer that satisfies you focus on your craft.... I wish you well