[Discussion] How do you find your true path?

[HENI]

How do you find your true path in life? Like.. where you should go, what career to pursue, what dreams to reach...

 

[iBrezeeh]

It's pretty simple; you don't.

Everything is just a dream, in a dream, in a dream anyway.

 

[UncagedkillaG]

Life is not about discovery, it is about definition

 

[Sir Francis Drake]

It's pretty simple; you don't.

Everything is just a dream, in a dream, in a dream anyway.

Aww shit, we're in Inception/The Matrix/ Eternal Tskuyomi

OT: Thats a good question. How does one decide what they want to do with their life?

 

[Pumpkin Ninja]

You pick whatever you're good at/enjoy/want to do to make money.

There is no "true" path, because everything is subjective.

 

[Troyg39]

Once you figure out exactly what you want out of life, (family, income size, lifestyle, location, etc)

You start with your childhood. If there was something you absolutely loved to do, then you realistically envision yourself making a career out of it to see how it would go and if you're willing to put up with whatever it brings about to reach your goals.

Unfortunately the vast majority of people either enjoyed some sport or music or something that they suck at as adults and would never make it in.

So after the childhood route fails you look at your adult life, what interests you. Then you research the lifestyles of those in the field that most closely match your desires. If you're in school, take advantage of school resources, talk to professors in the field, etc. Then after you got the info, you repeat the process of envisioning the process of making it with that path, if you like it try it, if you hate it you probably wont make it so you should give up on it.

If at the end your childhood and adult life were both too pathetic to give you any answers, then you just live, patiently biding your time and waiting for even the slightest spark of interest in something you can make a decent living (according to your standards) with and explore it when the opportunity presents itself.

Most people will have found something by then. They might have to tweak they're standards for a life a bit, but eventually something will hit them and they'll find a career path they can take and be alright in. You can also look at the ways you entertain yourself for answers. What kind of news do you mostly keep up with and look for? Who are your favorite type of people to think about/discuss and what do they do? You may find some guidance there. If you're still lost after that, then you just better pray your true path in life finds you, you ****ing loser

 

[BlazeRelease]

You can't "find" your path, but one day, you'll realize where it is you've been heading. The most keen of people may notice the signs and what the purpose of their life is, but most people will see it after they've started.

What I mean is... Don't worry about it. Someday you'll realize why it is your here. And remember one thing... Nobody has decided that purpose yet. Only you can find your purpose, and that will be whatever your heart truly feels it's in its place to be. Humans are stronger than we give credit for. We are the true ones who create meaning for ourselves, in indescribable ways. One day, you'll see it clearly.

 

[Jack Spicer]

Just go with the flow and go where ever you think feels right. Always keep moving and you'll look around one day and find you're you've arrived at a destination of satisfaction and happiness.

 

[sasukesworld]

I have already found it, I found it on the right way.

 

[Aim64C]

How do you find your true path in life? Like.. where you should go, what career to pursue, what dreams to reach...

There are a lot of things that have to be understood within their proper time. Something you are 'meant to do' may not become apparent until well after you've done several other things in life. Dreams can change and evolve over time - or some can become entirely new upon learning new things.

Sometimes, you have to look at what you should do in the moment through a variety of lenses. First, envision yourself as a character in a book, or yourself in an RPG experience... what would you do? It's a way of being able to break yourself from being 'inside' your surroundings and gaining an outside perspective upon things.

Sometimes, you have to look at things from a little bit of a different perspective. There is the 'comfortable' choice, and then there is the 'uncomfortable' or 'unfamiliar' choice. Sometimes, you have to be willing to make uncomfortable choices - choices with no guarantees or with risks attached to them and just believe in your own ability to recover from any unexpected or unanticipated problems.

There is a strange sense of satisfaction that comes from doing something 'radical' that 'makes no sense' and, 'is likely to end badly' - and you manage to work through it okay. You still have to keep risks in their appropriate contexts (as well as your own moral beliefs), but when you decide to quit a job you're not satisfied with to take up a different job elsewhere, or decide to move a considerable distance with not much of a plan in place - you realize there is a lot that you can accomplish and overcome and develop a sense of independent and individual competency.

As you develop that, you begin to realize that where you are at this point in time is only a part of what is to happen in the future. You're not sentenced to live life within a certain bracket or caste, but can move more freely than you originally thought through the various parts of society, and need those experiences in order to become a more complete person.

For example - I went from a much higher paying job to a much lower paying job in fast food completely of my own volition and as part of a move back to return to a community college. I've never worked fast food, before. I used to work in a dine-in restaurant ... but fast food is on a completely different level - and it is actually an experience I enjoy, and I'm glad I got to have it at this point in life.

As a younger person, I probably wouldn't have appreciated it. It would have been yet another place where more people were telling me something I had to do and I would never be doing it fast enough for them. Which is how most of the highschool kids view it (and I don't blame them). But I've been that guy in the drive-through with a 30 minute break to get food, eat it, and return to work. I can appreciate the customers' position, and I can appreciate my role within the fast food industry in providing that service in a timely, courteous manner.

The goal to push drivethrough times (from the moment the car hits the sensor to the moment the order is handed out the window) down to an average of 100 seconds is not just something I'm being told to do - it's something I can appreciate doing for people. It feels good to be part of a team that can rock 170 cars through the drivethrough in 120 minutes, or to flawlessly fill an order for a guy who is ordering for fifteen people (that was a fun carry-out order).

I've learned that I can interact with the general public just fine - a position I was very nervous about, since I tend to be more of a mechanics and procedure kind of person - not much on public interaction. But, apparently, I do well enough to get tipped in fast food.

Will I stay in it? Probably not more than a couple years until I'm done with some courses, here. That said - I'm on track for a shift management position within six months to a year - depends upon a few things, but I've been there just over a month and already know half the store and then some and am already being assigned job shadows from new hires. It wouldn't surprise me if, by time I am looking to leave, someone is looking to try and send me to be a general manager in a restaurant in need of one, some where.

Will I take it? *shrug* - Depends. I'm catching rumors that the person who founded a company my friend works for is getting ready to break ties (his prior company was acquired in a buy-out and is looking at being merged) and found a new company within the communications technology arena, and I'd love to be a part of that with my background. Since I end up being consulted by him (and he has a degree in electrical engineering) for knowledge in regards to certain aspects of electronics and RF, and he's well-liked at his job, I've got a very good in-route into a position as part of a crack team to start a business.

Basically, whichever direction you end up going - just be sure you kick names and take ass while you're going that direction. If you choose to go another direction after you've gone a ways down the way you are going, then that's fine, too. You may find yourself scrubbing a few toilets along the way, but make sure those toilets sparkle, and someone will be willing to trust you with cleaning more than a toilet. The customers you serve in a restaurant may end up being business owners who are interviewing you for a job, or who may offer you a job after you begin talking with them and that conversation gives you the opportunity to display a depth of mind beyond what any job application or resume could ever convey.

Learn what you can where you can, and nothing can truly be said to be a waste.

 

[HENI]

There are a lot of things that have to be understood within their proper time. Something you are 'meant to do' may not become apparent until well after you've done several other things in life. Dreams can change and evolve over time - or some can become entirely new upon learning new things.

Sometimes, you have to look at what you should do in the moment through a variety of lenses. First, envision yourself as a character in a book, or yourself in an RPG experience... what would you do? It's a way of being able to break yourself from being 'inside' your surroundings and gaining an outside perspective upon things.

Sometimes, you have to look at things from a little bit of a different perspective. There is the 'comfortable' choice, and then there is the 'uncomfortable' or 'unfamiliar' choice. Sometimes, you have to be willing to make uncomfortable choices - choices with no guarantees or with risks attached to them and just believe in your own ability to recover from any unexpected or unanticipated problems.

There is a strange sense of satisfaction that comes from doing something 'radical' that 'makes no sense' and, 'is likely to end badly' - and you manage to work through it okay. You still have to keep risks in their appropriate contexts (as well as your own moral beliefs), but when you decide to quit a job you're not satisfied with to take up a different job elsewhere, or decide to move a considerable distance with not much of a plan in place - you realize there is a lot that you can accomplish and overcome and develop a sense of independent and individual competency.

As you develop that, you begin to realize that where you are at this point in time is only a part of what is to happen in the future. You're not sentenced to live life within a certain bracket or caste, but can move more freely than you originally thought through the various parts of society, and need those experiences in order to become a more complete person.

For example - I went from a much higher paying job to a much lower paying job in fast food completely of my own volition and as part of a move back to return to a community college. I've never worked fast food, before. I used to work in a dine-in restaurant ... but fast food is on a completely different level - and it is actually an experience I enjoy, and I'm glad I got to have it at this point in life.

As a younger person, I probably wouldn't have appreciated it. It would have been yet another place where more people were telling me something I had to do and I would never be doing it fast enough for them. Which is how most of the highschool kids view it (and I don't blame them). But I've been that guy in the drive-through with a 30 minute break to get food, eat it, and return to work. I can appreciate the customers' position, and I can appreciate my role within the fast food industry in providing that service in a timely, courteous manner.

The goal to push drivethrough times (from the moment the car hits the sensor to the moment the order is handed out the window) down to an average of 100 seconds is not just something I'm being told to do - it's something I can appreciate doing for people. It feels good to be part of a team that can rock 170 cars through the drivethrough in 120 minutes, or to flawlessly fill an order for a guy who is ordering for fifteen people (that was a fun carry-out order).

I've learned that I can interact with the general public just fine - a position I was very nervous about, since I tend to be more of a mechanics and procedure kind of person - not much on public interaction. But, apparently, I do well enough to get tipped in fast food.

Will I stay in it? Probably not more than a couple years until I'm done with some courses, here. That said - I'm on track for a shift management position within six months to a year - depends upon a few things, but I've been there just over a month and already know half the store and then some and am already being assigned job shadows from new hires. It wouldn't surprise me if, by time I am looking to leave, someone is looking to try and send me to be a general manager in a restaurant in need of one, some where.

Will I take it? *shrug* - Depends. I'm catching rumors that the person who founded a company my friend works for is getting ready to break ties (his prior company was acquired in a buy-out and is looking at being merged) and found a new company within the communications technology arena, and I'd love to be a part of that with my background. Since I end up being consulted by him (and he has a degree in electrical engineering) for knowledge in regards to certain aspects of electronics and RF, and he's well-liked at his job, I've got a very good in-route into a position as part of a crack team to start a business.

Basically, whichever direction you end up going - just be sure you kick names and take ass while you're going that direction. If you choose to go another direction after you've gone a ways down the way you are going, then that's fine, too. You may find yourself scrubbing a few toilets along the way, but make sure those toilets sparkle, and someone will be willing to trust you with cleaning more than a toilet. The customers you serve in a restaurant may end up being business owners who are interviewing you for a job, or who may offer you a job after you begin talking with them and that conversation gives you the opportunity to display a depth of mind beyond what any job application or resume could ever convey.

Learn what you can where you can, and nothing can truly be said to be a waste.

Thanks, I'll copy and paste this into note pad. This was a great read man

 

[NineSNS]

Your path is at the intersection of what you want to do and what you are willing to do.

Some goals seem very desirable, but we aren't willing to work or sacrifice to achieve them.
Other goals may be less desirable, but more within our means (investment of time, effort, and money) to achieve.

 

[Natsu Shazneel]

You search on Google.

 

[ChicagoJhawk]

It's not how to make the decision. It's willing to accept that decision ur entire life

 

[ultraChalk]

There's no 'how to' guide to this. If you just learn as much as you can about things in life and step out of your comfort zone you'll find it.

 

[nefraiko]

you have to meditate on this :

is their something after death ? because if you believe their isn't, that someday you will just be nothing, then how you live does not matter, you can do whatever you want you don't even have to think about what to do, you are already dead, in some years you will be nothing again

but in case their is something after death, in case you don't actually die but just change into another kind of life, then you'd better try to know what is this life, spend your time searching, and when you find the answer (I hope for you it will be the right one), you'd better prepare for what is coming after death

then your life will acquire ALL KIINDs OF SENSE, all kiiinds...

then you'll get your path, you'll get all KIIINDS of dreams, all KIIINDS of hope, you will eventually know what really matters and what doesn't , you will eventually consider things for what they really are

but I'll have to warn you, when you meditate you engage in the path of logic thinking and reason, just know that this path can be reaaally missleading, your logic and reason can be wrong, you'll have to be very carefull, this is serious stuff, you'll have to stay vigilant when it comes to "reason" and to "rational thinking"

 

[Jazzy Stardust]

It's something that comes naturally, like a passion or drive characteristic. Not everyone has it or it's not very strong with a lot of people.


It also happens organically and easy when you find it. Life will present it to you, so just go with what feels right and makes sense.