How do you deal with rejection?

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I see so Sakura rejected you for Sasuke? :bdpf:


Get a hotter chick.
Wouldn't want to be too hot. Not many ovens can take it.


Hey, necrophilia is also love! don't you hate on it!
Your meaning of love is my meaning of hatred. I feel like your favorite now. Hatred is the answer to everything. :sasuke: :itachi2:
 
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Obsess over her for 1-2 days thinking about everything that i did wrong and how it might have went if rejection didn't happen ( probably i gonna do what a normal guy would do for months in those 2 days ) rationalizing that it meant to happen and learn from my mistakes and move on .
 

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Meh, its not that hard really nor its friendzone its just people exaggerating it like its the end of the world or something, just move on and fck dat shit I think there are better things to do rather than staying like a depressed wimp its not worth it.
 
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The only reason you find rejection something difficult to bare is because you take it too personal. As if that person offended you, and your feelings.

Don't get the wrong idea. Rejection hurts everyone no matter how tough they look or act.

You probably really love this person.

She probably did something to catch your eyes and trigger your love. If you "Love" her just because she's hot.. Then my friend you mistake love with sexual desire which later creates a false feeling of attachment and love.

Why did she refuse you ? Did you ever do something remarkable for her. Let's say she caught your eye with her attitude, the way she is or acts.. Did you caught her eye in such a manner ? (I suppose you're a guy).

Rejection... Rejection comes from I'd say 3 starting points:

1. Group mentality -> They don't like something, they have an idea of something => I don't like it either, I blend in and think the same.

2. The fool -> You have the image of making a fool of yourself. Girls are not attracted to this. It's the smell of the loser for them. They are fragile beings. How can they imagine themselves in the arms of someone weak mentaly.. Girls use more instincts in what they do because they are like this..

3. Incompatible -> Well.. Why the hell are we so selfish ? "Oh, she rejects me.. what a *****.. I desire her so much..". Really ? You might just be incompatible from her point of view because you're not what she's looking for ... (Do have that shit feeling that you are broken or useless right now ? ... Then, don't have it.. Just because someone doesn't see you compatible with its person doesn't mean you are broken, useless or that she/he is broken).

I don't know how much experience in being rejected you have. I assume it's not that much.. Don't worry we all go through this. I advice to stand as a man and face your tough situations. Life without them would be colorless.

Best advices I can give you..

1. Men think that if something works fine as it is, then it should not be upgraded or changed.

2. Women think that everything can be improved and upgraded and it doesn't matter if it works (they think it can work even better).

3. You should never think of a way to impress so much that you end up destroying your current self. Always try to improve who you are by learning new things, gifting flowers, controlling and developing the voice, learning which are your best facial expressions. Maybe you have a perfect smile but you are so ****ing lazy to practice in the mirror that you don't even know how awesome you can be.

If you have any other questions.. PM..
At least you tried.

OT: There are over 4 billion women in the world . . . so z.z
 

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The only time I was rejected I took it pretty badly. But I was the one who messed it up, I had her but oh well.

But! You do eventually get over it, especially if you find another interesting girl. The thing is be careful you're not just passing the love you had for the one that rejected you, on to the other girl. The rebound after rejection isn't a slick move.

So just take the time to be sad about it, then eventually you'll realize it's a waste and be over it. But when people say, "time heals" it means to feel it out. Time itself doesn't heal, you could ignore the problem and have it come out in weird ways.
 

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Get on with it.

Just avoid rejection in the first place; get too wrapped up in the drama of emotions and you end up swept away from reality. When you look at the one you love pragmatically, you'll know if they're interested by how they behave. If they're not showing genuine interest, then you don't submerge.

People live in a fantasy world of drama nowadays; unrequited love sends them into a frenzy of pity and sadness. Get real; have a moment and then get on with your life. I've known true love twice; it's true because even though I knew it was going to happen from the off, their leaving was unpleasant and I still feel the same now, even after the years have passed.

I just spent an evening in solace and carried on as normal the next day. Life went on as normal - that's what happens when you don't drag it out.
 
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Haha, I had a similar situation. As some of you may know, I'm gay, but you wouldn't be able to tell if you hung out with me. I have a really close friend (my best friend) who I met a few years ago. We used to hang out almost everyday when we first met. I told him i was gaty maybe a year after we met, and he was fine with that. Maybe a couple years after we met, I noticed that I started to really like him a lot. He was also very confusing at times, one time we were playing video games and he just outright kissed me, and I didn't know what to do. Another time he got really physical with me (caressing my chest, we'd wrestle and it'd get semi homo erotic, this happened a lot actually). I couldn't really keep my secret much longer, so I ended sending him a huge text about my feelings for him, and the worst thing happened, he rejected me.

I told him it was fine and that I could deal, and he still wanted to be my friend, but I was really hurt inside. The thing that got me the most though was the avoidance of all the things we did that made me question him...

I tried avoiding him, but he always wanted to hang out, as if I didn't just poor my heart out to him and he shit on it. It was painful, but I tried to stick it out, the most difficult thing is trying to move on when you're faced with the person you love almost on a daily basis. I thought about ending our friendship, I even moved out of town thinking it would hurt less, and it did, but I ended up moving back.

I realized how much of q friend he considered me, and I started to realize how selfish I was. He was always a good friend, and despite the things he tells me, I have to respect his decisions.

I guess what I'm saying is rejection can be nasty, but time heals all wounds. I still like the guy, and we're still best friends, but I know we aren't right for each other, and my crush subsides with each passing day.
 
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