How do you deal with rejection?
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Bad advice suppress the emotions and just date/screw other people. Good advice try to find some way to cope whether it be via gaming, posting, venting to someone, working out, fight training, etc. Just something to keep your mind off the situation until you feel like it's time to move on.
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The only reason you find rejection something difficult to bare is because you take it too personal. As if that person offended you, and your feelings.
Don't get the wrong idea. Rejection hurts everyone no matter how tough they look or act.
You probably really love this person.
She probably did something to catch your eyes and trigger your love. If you "Love" her just because she's hot.. Then my friend you mistake love with sexual desire which later creates a false feeling of attachment and love.
Why did she refuse you ? Did you ever do something remarkable for her. Let's say she caught your eye with her attitude, the way she is or acts.. Did you caught her eye in such a manner ? (I suppose you're a guy).
Rejection... Rejection comes from I'd say 3 starting points:
1. Group mentality -> They don't like something, they have an idea of something => I don't like it either, I blend in and think the same.
2. The fool -> You have the image of making a fool of yourself. Girls are not attracted to this. It's the smell of the loser for them. They are fragile beings. How can they imagine themselves in the arms of someone weak mentaly.. Girls use more instincts in what they do because they are like this..
3. Incompatible -> Well.. Why the hell are we so selfish ? "Oh, she rejects me.. what a *****.. I desire her so much..". Really ? You might just be incompatible from her point of view because you're not what she's looking for ... (Do have that shit feeling that you are broken or useless right now ? ... Then, don't have it.. Just because someone doesn't see you compatible with its person doesn't mean you are broken, useless or that she/he is broken).
I don't know how much experience in being rejected you have. I assume it's not that much.. Don't worry we all go through this. I advice to stand as a man and face your tough situations. Life without them would be colorless.
Best advices I can give you..
1. Men think that if something works fine as it is, then it should not be upgraded or changed.
2. Women think that everything can be improved and upgraded and it doesn't matter if it works (they think it can work even better).
3. You should never think of a way to impress so much that you end up destroying your current self. Always try to improve who you are by learning new things, gifting flowers, controlling and developing the voice, learning which are your best facial expressions. Maybe you have a perfect smile but you are so ****ing lazy to practice in the mirror that you don't even know how awesome you can be.
If you have any other questions.. PM..
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It's not that bad, i would send her an Email telling her that i'm burning the house down 5 minutes before i actually set it on fire. That's plenty of time to get to a safe distance. If iNotorious has allready kidnapped her, then there's no chance of her being caught anyway.