How do I tell her?
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Norman Bates
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Love is difficult, but you must tell her. Do not lead her on. You must be honest and one day you may have a relationship full of true love, like I have with Mother.
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You may call me sick as I do indeed fill a cold coming on, do not call my Mother that word. Ever. She is a very lovely lady. She can be blunt and is very protective of me, especially around women, but she is an angel, the most beautiful angel in the world. Besides, anyone who she has been hostile to has deserved it. One day you should come by our motel and meet her. I promise you would never forget your stay at the Bates Motel.
I am a huge fan of Supernatural by the way. Well, the first five seasons. Mother and I lost our interested after that, but it is still fun.
Well, I don't want to stray too far off topic. I think the thread creator should just close it off, as I said.
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I did that to Mother once in an attempt to impress her as I couldn't help but hear Emma flaunt over Dylan's body on her blog. She kept his name out of it, but I knew. I thought Mother would feel similar if I did something similar. I know it was childish, but I wanted to impress her and make her as happy as Emma is with Dylan on the physical aspect. I did not take in how built Dylan is and how, well, not I am. I am in good shape and do go the gym, but am just not that built, you know? Well, Mother found it cute and thought I was pulling a joke. I was aiming for something a bit more...manly, clearly not a joke, and felt somewhat down, but Mother reassured me to not worry about that sort of thing. She continued to tell me how beautiful I was and how I was perfect for her. That really made me feel better. Then she continued to to praise my body the entire night. Eventually, I had to tell her to stop because I thought she was just saying it to make me feel better, but she just kept going and going and going. As the night went on, she became less wordy and more hands on. I don't know what it was, but I guess she really felt like she had to make up for laughing. It was truly something special. The next morning, we just found it funny in the end. That night, I made sure to make it up to her. Those two mornings were the most tired mornings of my life. We slept past noon. Ah, memories.
To relate this to the actual thread, I hope you find a relationship like Mother I, funny jokes, trying to be cool, and incredible nightly activities.
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Norman Bates
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She is in a very serious relationship.
Me? I think you have me confused with someone else. Murdering people is wrong. Sometimes it is justified, but I just can't imagine me killing anyone.
I actually find that respectable. You had the courage to follow your heart, but as I said, Mother is in a relationship, a very, very happy and loving one. I hope you can find one like that one day.
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^^ I agree.
If you are serious at all about this person, then I would suggest talking to her about the things she does that bother you. You do not have to be confrontational about it, but by choosing not to communicate with her ruins any chance of resolving the issue. Not only that, but even if you two do end up parting ways, things could feel... unfinished which would impede at least one person's ability to move on (there could even be mixed feelings of hurt and resentment because of the perceived lack of closure). Anyway, if you do decide to have this discussion, maybe consider describing, in a neutral/factual way, what the behaviour was that upset you. Also, I think using "I" statements would be helpful here: not only would you be identifying your thoughts/feelings, but you would be taking ownership of them as well. So for example: "I felt uncomfortable/frustrated when..." Or, "When X happened, to me, the way it seemed was..." The idea is to describe, be honest, and take responsibility for your thoughts and feelings.
You seem like someone who really means well, but the compassionate and noble thing to do is to let her know that you are no longer interested in her. Do some self-reflection, gather your thoughts and be honest with this person. Otherwise, it won't be fair for either one of you. Good luck and take care.
