Guys I need some advice

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I've got sort of a problem on my hands so I've decided to ask the good people of nb for some help. Alright I'll start by saying I'm a senior in high school and my parents are divorced. They live in different cities which are about 40 minutes away. I'm with my mom on weekdays and dad on weekends. So my dad forced me to get a job and I finally did but this job makes you work two weekend shifts so I don't see him anymore and now he's mad about that. Anyways we go on this family trip to Florida every Christmas and my supervisor said I have to work thanksgiving, Christmas Eve, Christmas, and New Years. With no extra pay because they're understaffed.

Also the weekend shifts are affecting me and my girlfriend. We used to have date nights on the weekends but not anymore. It's a fun job and I like it but it's just becoming too much to balance with this being my senior year. I don't want to quit but I'm not working from 7 to 430 on Christmas morning for 8$ and hour and missing my trip. I've already talked to them and said I would be out of town but they didn't care. And no one can cover those shifts either. Any advice on what to do?
 
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Don't go to Florida, make some sacrifices, it's your last year so it won't hurt if you didn't see your father for some time, so just be patient and when you gratitude you'll have time to see your father and mother and go to Florida and do all the shit you want.
Or, you can say fck the job and quit xD, And try to find another one.
 

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Find a better job that you would like.

What are your intrests ? Where shoud I go ? Where will I be happy ?

Ask yourself these question.
 

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Ask you self is the job really necessary? It seems as though you didn't get the job because you wanted one, but because your father told you to. Senior year is stressful enough in highschool and extra thing shouldn't be added, you need to have fun, go out on weekends and what not, it like your rushing into adulthood to fast. So you probably would like this advice, but I think you need to talk over this with your dad.
 

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You can find many jobs but you have one family . i would say spend Christmas with your family . we live this year but who

knows we will live next year ( not been negative ) but that's how life is never leave openings to regrets .
 
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Honestly my senior year was exactly the same as your in a way, I graduated last year, but I actually never see my dad...but enough about me, if the job is making your social life bad in a way...leave the job, say its messing with your school and maybe when you have the time like after you graduate then you could work there again. You can even find another job for seasonal positions that work with your school schedule. Also I love to spend everyday with my girlfriend so I would make sure that's above a lot of things. And Finally its your senior year, have fun because its your last year depending on other like teachers and friends, after you only have to worry about yourself; you got the experience so its not like you wont know anything, right? So, I say go on your vacation and spend time with your family and friends and especially your girlfriend.
 

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Look for another job but dont leave the one you are in until you have found a better job that works around the time you spend with your mom and dad.

Also, under absolutely no circumstances should you let any of these things affect your studying. The one thing you have for yourself that belongs to no one else is your future. Your time belongs to others, as does loyalties, however your future is YOURS and your studying will help you have a better future.

I'm sure your dad will understand if you are actually looking for another job, however apply this principle to yourself: Do not walk away from a job until you have found a better job to replace it. (that is, unless your grades are being affected).

All the best ;) Things will work out fine
 
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That's life for you. This is your senior year. I don't know if you're going to be pursuing an education after high school, but what I would o is keep the job, sacrifice the time and then make up for it with the time I'll have once I graduate.
 

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Just call in sick, what's the worst they do...fire you? lol you get unemployment. My guess is you work in a retail store, well ofc they're going to take advantage over you, they always say you can't be absent.
 

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Just call in sick, what's the worst they do...fire you? lol you get unemployment. My guess is you work in a retail store, well ofc they're going to take advantage over you, they always say you can't be absent.

@Bold, This.

Know why they don't have anyone to cover your shift? Probably because those people refused to come in. They don't bother the ones they know have a backbone (I'm not saying that you don't), but instead go after the more nice, naive employees. I've seen this happen many times, some employees more or less telling them to **** off, then they go after the easy prey. You're working all those holidays with no extra pay either? To me, it doesn't sound like a job worth keeping. You also no longer can see your father and go out with your girlfriend, I don't think anyone would blame you (presuming you care) if you decide to quit. For future reference, if you do keep it, don't let them manipulate you like that.
 
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Hmmm...

Ditch the job and find a better one that can comfortably work around your schedule. Coming from someone who's also a teenager and has had a few jobs, it's not unreasonable for your work place to be flexible for you. You're a senior, it's not going to kill you to not work.. right? You have your parents you live under and working isn't exactly essential.

I would say drop the job, and to focus on your friends, family, and school.. until/unless you find a job that would be more convenient for yourself and the people around you.

Cross out~
 
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Sounds complicated huh?


You know, you're the only one who can decide in everything. Your dad must stop blaming you if you do not have anytime for him after all he is the one who push you to get a job although its good because you're earning money and would eventually charge to experience, however if you think that your JOb most likely occupy you all the time and you almost do not have anytime with your family and girlfriend. Then I think you better start to think twice and make a decision asap.

You said you love your job and you love your family. If you love your job, why are you complaining? If you love your gf & saying you do not have anytime with her every week end, then talk to her and make some adjustment. If he love you, she'll understand you. The question here is.. Why are you working? Is it to make your father happy or you want to work and earn money to make your dreams come true for you and your gf? Not just a happy thing?

Everything is complicated if you want to make things complicated. If you're not happy in your Job, you know what to do. Now regarding Christmas eve. You said you talked to them but they don't care ? for real? you know, they must give you a consideration for that, its not a valid reason that they lack of staff that's why you do not have the right to take your VL, its not your problem anymore and their reason is absurd. You make their company/stores get bigger and wealth but in exchange for that is not to go on a vacation and not spending your time w/your family and gf.

That's sad. Christmas is once a year, but the decision is yours. Spending time with your family because of special holiday is a valid reason. However, its up to you. You said you love your job. What do you think is important? Family or your Job.

Now, even if you're happy in your Job, I'm sure there's a lot of competitors of your company. Why don't you apply there so you'll still be happy in your work :yay:
 
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