Falling in love with someone over the internet

[P3ĮÑ]

You shouldn't trust people anywhere be it online or offline, if you haven't gotten to know them. A person can be just as deceiving offline as they are online. In fact, being with someone physically is even more dangerous if we are speaking in terms of deception. Someone on the internet has very limited control. A physical presence can be powerful, don't underestimate it. A kiss, a touch, all of it can be used to deceive and trap the heart. Such a devious person can even rip one from the grip of friends, deafening their lover to all outside advice. It would be extremely difficult for someone to get this kind of control from just conversation over the internet. To all those that lack experience, we are all still human, and yes even on the internet, our true personality and intentions will surface over time. It is safer in a lot of ways. While they have access to our feelings, they lack physical power. With offline dating, a person has access to both, thus making it more dangerous.

Yes I totally agree with u on this

 

[Disquiet]

It is you who is naive and believe everything girls say. And "he's not that attractive", is still attractive. I never said that attraction is the same for everyone, Beauty is in the eye of the beholder as the saying goes - but attraction, whatever it may be, must exist. People don't just fall in love with each other souls, it would be nice if they did, but they don't. Don't get me wrong, I want to believe and I'm not afraid to admit I like to loose myself in the romantic stories/movies now and than, but I'm also not blind and I have to accept the reality such as it is.
Guess, we'll just have to agree to disagree.

I didn't say 'not that attractive". And what? Believe everything girls say? That's what makes you naive. Girls don't always find their boyfriends physically attractive, but attractive yes. And thanks for the quote, it's in the eye of the beholder, we find beauty in things other than physical attraction. And of course attraction must exist, but it doesn't have to be physical.

If your reality is that every lover believes their mate is physically attractive, then I pity you.

And I guess so.....

 

[Cloudbuster]

If your reality is that every lover believes their mate is physically attractive, then I pity you.

Physically attractive to them - yes, unless they are together out of necessity or the fear of loneliness, but than it's not really a relationship. Maybe I find fat people sexy - that means they are physically attractive to me. If I don't find fat people sexy, they can sing and play the guitar all they want - having *** with them would repulse me and *** is the basis of any healthy romantic relationship.
On that note, one of my girl friends who is very intelligent and kind by nature is currently dating a guy who likes to quote Hitler just because she finds him extremely handsome.

 

[Disquiet]

Physically attractive to them - yes, unless they are together out of necessity or the fear of loneliness, but than it's not really a relationship. Maybe I find fat people sexy - that means they are physically attractive to me. If I don't find fat people sexy, they can sing and play the guitar all they want - having *** with them would repulse me and *** is the basis of any healthy romantic relationship.

You are underestimating feelings and the human mind. You think they cannot look pass physical attractions for the sake of love. Love is more powerful than you think, it's why some mothers and fathers look beyond the deformities of their newly born, and love them anyway. They owe the child nothing, they can give him away. Hell they don't even know what type of person he will turn out to be. They know nothing about him. What they do know, is that they will have to be seen out in public with him, kiss him, hug him, and read him bed time stories.

Contradictory to your people don't fall in love with people's souls, love is a lot more spiritual than you think.


Now, it is not only naive, but very foolish to believe that love of any kind cannot triumph physical attractions. Again, people do not always fall in love with the appearance. I don't know why it's so hard to wrap your head around this.

 

[Cloudbuster]

You are underestimating feelings and the human mind. You think they cannot look pass physical attractions for the sake of love. Love is more powerful than you think, it's why some mothers and fathers look beyond the deformities of their newly born, and love them anyway. They owe the child nothing, they can give him away. Hell they don't even know what type of person he will turn out to be. They know nothing about him. What they do know, is that they will have to be seen out in public with him, kiss him, hug him, and read him bed time stories.

Contradictory to your people don't fall in love with people's souls, love is a lot more spiritual than you think.


Now, it is not only naive, but very foolish to believe that love of any kind cannot triumph physical attractions. Again, people do not always fall in love with the appearance. I don't know why it's so hard to wrap your head around this.

We where talking about romantic love, not a parents love for a child. Although in essence selfish like any love, it's a different kind of love altogether.
However, I sense in you the inability to debate objectively - concentrating only to the subject at hand instead of acting passive aggressively,trying to insult me personally in the indirect manner. That's why I'm stopping this before it escalates any further, and we both say something we'll regret.

 

[Disquiet]

We where talking about romantic love, not a parents love for a child. Although in essence selfish like any love, it's a different kind of love altogether.
However, I sense in you the inability to debate objectively - concentrating only to the subject at hand instead of acting passive aggressively,trying to insult me personally in the indirect manner. That's why I'm stopping this before it escalates any further, and we both say something we'll regret.

lol I'm not insulting you. And I'll rep you if that means anything. And love is a projection of human feelings, I was showcasing the power of those human feelings. Anyways, there's a difference between a 'turnoff' and 'not finding someone physically attractive'. A lot of desperate people pay for prostitutes that they don't necessarily find physically attractive. Hell, I doubt every porn star find everyone of their *** partners physically attractive, but hey, they get the *** plus money. Their desires/feelings triumphed physical attraction; the want of money or desire for ***.


I don't know what more to tell you man, people look beyond physical attractions. It's just human and is apart of us. And nah, maybe a heated debate, but it's all good. :3

 

[0neCrazyAngel]

I like YAMI's input on this!

 

[GeniusStyleUser]

sure you could fall in love over the internet...why not...i would say it depends on how the person handles relationships.
personally i never could. and i dont want to. love is not just an emotion, you cant just be like "THIS PERSON MAKES ME FEEL GOOD". you have to actually do something with the person, you have to feel the physical chemistry, the complete mix of your being into theirs as you ignite the passion and soul of the other, and they do the same to you.

 

[-Punk-]

That's simply not true. I'm sure you've heard a lover say, "Well physically, he's not attractive. But his personality is beautiful!" Or something along those lines. If not, oh well. Either way, a girl can fall in love simply because the way the guy plays the guitar, or the way he sings. Hell, simply because he's the only guy that ever treated her nice. What you must understand is, attraction is subjective, people are attracted to different things.


You are deceiving yourself if you think everyone in this world falls in love with a person because they think they are physically attractive. That is naive.

well im gonna have to disagree with my broski here .....Punk aslo wants a pretty girl dammit :bouncy:

 

[YokoKurama]

<div class="bbWrapper">Yes it's happened to me before. Then he turned out to be a liar and a fake so I dumped him and dated his cousin who I later married. So in the end it worked out for me.</div>

 

[Pervy Wrath]

This is the way I think relationships usually start:

The physical attraction is what pulls you in.
The emotional attraction is what makes you stay.

It's almost always like this. Then there are the people who get together over the internet, they meet up, and they look nothing like what the other one thought, and it will either end there, or they will get past it. It just depends on how shallow you are. I'm not saying being shallow is a bad thing, because most people are.

 

[Disquiet]

This is the way I think relationships usually start:

The physical attraction is what pulls you in.
The emotional attraction is what makes you stay.

It's almost always like this. Then there are the people who get together over the internet, they meet up, and they look nothing like what the other one thought, and it will either end there, or they will get past it. It just depends on how shallow you are. I'm not saying being shallow is a bad thing, because most people are.

(0__0) "Then there are people who meet over the internet, and then they look nothing alike". I'm not sure if this was your intention, but you make it seem this is always the case with internet relationships lol. With the progress in technology, this is actually getting more outdated than people actually think.

In most internet relationships, it's the personality that pulls you in first.

well im gonna have to disagree with my broski here .....Punk aslo wants a pretty girl dammit :bouncy:

Well, I prefer girls that I find physically attractive as well. But, I've been pulled in by a few girls by their personality alone.

 

[Pervy Wrath]

(0__0) "Then there are people who meet over the internet, and then they look nothing alike". I'm not sure if this was your intention, but you make it seem this is always the case with internet relationships lol. With the progress in technology, this is actually getting more outdated than people actually think.

In most internet relationships, it's the personality that pulls you in first.






Well, I prefer girls that I find physically attractive as well. But, I've been pulled in by a few girls by their personality alone.

No, of course not, I'm not thinking of in general. I thought about what you said after I posted as a matter of fact, so I will agree

 

[Virus..]

Iam falling in love right now <3

 

[Rioxnation]

Ok used to online date this one guy who was my age. We met through a MMORPG and during that time things seem to be goin as golden as ever, the behavior of some in love. But then things soon became not so good, he became depressed and the online friend group started to fight him and I just didn't find him attracted anymore :/ .... So now we're broken up but we area still close friends.