Ever since I was rejected I can't move on...!?

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No. You don't find a new girl since that new girl might break up with you and you'll be down in the dumps again. You need to change some things about yourself before getting into a new relationship. Don't look for anyone new and as if you have the energy baka. You sound young so hopefully you'll steel your heart and won't be as hurt if this happens again
I'll be going step by step. First, keep telling yourself in your mind and outloud that you will get over this break out and that girl. Tear that page out of your life and start a new. If you're a peoples person let your best friend know about what happened and chill later on with them. If you're not a peoples person then you'll need to get over this by yourself.

How? get into new animes, get into your hobbies, play games[i recommend oldschool rpg computer games] friends, etc etc. Your mind will still be on the girl and if you sit around and do nothing but think about her you won't get over the situation completely. So you need to busy yourself. Getting everything off your mind helps which is what you're doing now. Time heals wounds as they say. It might take you a year to get back to your old self but it will happen eventually. Be active in your mind while reconstructing the way you let yourself open like that. That girl literally tore your spirit in half so let this be a lesson to you young paladin.

You need to move on from this roadblock that you're in. Not trying to rush you, but you can't do nothing
 

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Try to love and improve yourself first. Think about. Do you put someone else before you easily? Do you actually love yourself? Don't chase happiness, seize it. You're going to meet more people just like you met her. I'm speaking out of experience.
Gomeney... How am I supposed to love myself when I hate this one life? :(
 

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No. You don't find a new girl since that new girl might break up with you and you'll be down in the dumps again. You need to change some things about yourself before getting into a new relationship. Don't look for anyone new and as if you have the energy baka. You sound young so hopefully you'll steel your heart and won't be as hurt if this happens again
I'll be going step by step. First, keep telling yourself in your mind and outloud that you will get over this break out and that girl. Tear that page out of your life and start a new. If you're a peoples person let your best friend know about what happened and chill later on with them. If you're not a peoples person then you'll need to get over this by yourself.

How? get into new animes, get into your hobbies, play games[i recommend oldschool rpg computer games] friends, etc etc. Your mind will still be on the girl and if you sit around and do nothing but think about her you won't get over the situation completely. So you need to busy yourself. Getting everything off your mind helps which is what you're doing now. Time heals wounds as they say. It might take you a year to get back to your old self but it will happen eventually. Be active in your mind while reconstructing the way you let yourself open like that. That girl literally tore your spirit in half so let this be a lesson to you young paladin.

You need to move on from this roadblock that you're in. Not trying to rush you, but you can't do nothing
First thing first, I don't want to be in relationship with anyone else anymore.
About being with best friends, I'm repeating the year so I lost them...
About playing games, watching animes... I actually do that. But it won't make me get over what happened.
I actually hate people now around me because they have real high spirits and have great expectations from others...
I hate my parents!! I got a psychological effect because of their fights, but what actually triggered the change in me was that girl...!!
 

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Gomeney... How am I supposed to love myself when I hate this one life? :(
I'm sorry but to be loved you'll need to love yourself first..Or atleast try. Think about your good features. This experience may hurt you now but it'll make you stronger in the long run.

I've been in an on/off relationship and has been hell. I've felt really happy and unhappy. It's important to stay healthy both physically as mentally. Try new stuff, don't isolate yourself and browse the internet because it'll make it worse. Put on your fav music, give yourself a speech, surround yourself with friends and family. You don't even need an entire squad. One good friend will do. Try to talk about with them, but don't keep dwelling on it.
 
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I'm sorry but to be loved you'll need to love yourself first..Or atleast try. Think about your good features. This experience may hurt you now but it'll make you stronger in the long run.

I've been in an on/off relationship and has been hell. I've felt really happy and unhappy. It's important to stay healthy both physically as mentally. Try new stuff, don't isolate yourself and browse the internet because it'll make it worse. Put on your fav music, give yourself a speech, surround yourself with friends and family.
Say - My family is a mess in itself. And I don't have people around me to be called friendz... I'm not totally into music.
The only problem is I don't know what I need to do anymore... If u don't have a goal in ur sight who are u doing that long run for?? My parents, it's as if they have their own problems. My siblings it's as if I have none. My own self - u see I'm literally doomed...
 

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Say - My family is a mess in itself. And I don't have people around me to be called friendz... I'm not totally into music.
The only problem is I don't know what I need to do anymore... If u don't have a goal in ur sight who are u doing that long run for?? My parents, it's as if they have their own problems. My siblings it's as if I have none. My own self - u see I'm literally doomed...
Hmm, it seems that it's not just about this rejection. You probably love her even more since she was there as a friend as well. You really don't have a friend to talk with? Try to make friends. Search for hobbies, learn a new skill, draw, write. As long as it's new and keeps your mind busy. What did you do before you met her? I mean, what did you used to enjoy?
 

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Hmm, it seems that it's not just about this rejection. You probably love her even more since she was there as a friend as well. You really don't have a friend to talk with? Try to make friends. Search for hobbies, learn a new skill, draw, write. As long as it's new and keeps your mind busy. What did you do before you met her? I mean, what did you used to enjoy?
What I used to do before we met!! Umm... I only wanted to have fun whatever the way it could be... :hyper:
 

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First thing first, I don't want to be in relationship with anyone else anymore.
About being with best friends, I'm repeating the year so I lost them...
About playing games, watching animes... I actually do that. But it won't make me get over what happened.
I actually hate people now around me because they have real high spirits and have great expectations from others...
I hate my parents!! I got a psychological effect because of their fights, but what actually triggered the change in me was that girl...!!
I used to say this exact thing years ago when something like this happened to me.
Now I don't since I realized that the statement was meant for that person only. You won't fall for someone like her again you shouldn't. It sounds like the girl broke your heart for the first time. First times usually hurt the most.. but you need to experience something in order to easily wade through it the next time.

I believe in the saying that everything happens for a reason. Repeating your year should be beneficial to you. You might meet better people than your old friends, or people who are more fun to hang around with. That's in the future tho, since it's june there's three months I think till classes start. Meeting new friends = experiencing new things along with them. People come and go in your life and it's really up to you on if you want someone to be in your life for a long time

Watching anime and playing games is only to stop her temporary from breaking into your thoughts. The more frequent you do it the less you'll be thinking about the past. This ain't going to be easy since your hurt is still fresh and hasn't been healed. I'm going to take a guess that you thought to yourself that you'll never get over this, right?

perfectly normal to hate people since they're not going through what you're going through. But you need to think about yourself and don't assume that a persons life is peachy. You don't know the troubles that they might be going through. So just worry about your bubble cause in the end your life is your own. You should visit omegle whenever one of your parents fights begin. chat with someone, connect with people who are similar to you or have a laugh. Your healing process will be slow and you shouldn't expect to feel like your old self tomorrow or in a week. Gradually you'll stop thinking about the bad, and you won't be your old self who had never experienced heartbreak, you will be a new old self who won't present his heart out of his chest so quickly.

:cool: well now, take our advices to heart and keep being a spaz. Patience is a virtue
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I always wanted to say that
See ya pak and do your best.
 

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I used to say this exact thing years ago when something like this happened to me.
Now I don't since I realized that the statement was meant for that person only. You won't fall for someone like her again you shouldn't. It sounds like the girl broke your heart for the first time. First times usually hurt the most.. but you need to experience something in order to easily wade through it the next time.

I believe in the saying that everything happens for a reason. Repeating your year should be beneficial to you. You might meet better people than your old friends, or people who are more fun to hang around with. That's in the future tho, since it's june there's three months I think till classes start. Meeting new friends = experiencing new things along with them. People come and go in your life and it's really up to you on if you want someone to be in your life for a long time

Watching anime and playing games is only to stop her temporary from breaking into your thoughts. The more frequent you do it the less you'll be thinking about the past. This ain't going to be easy since your hurt is still fresh and hasn't been healed. I'm going to take a guess that you thought to yourself that you'll never get over this, right?

perfectly normal to hate people since they're not going through what you're going through. But you need to think about yourself and don't assume that a persons life is peachy. You don't know the troubles that they might be going through. So just worry about your bubble cause in the end your life is your own. You should visit omegle whenever one of your parents fights begin. chat with someone, connect with people who are similar to you or have a laugh. Your healing process will be slow and you shouldn't expect to feel like your old self tomorrow or in a week. Gradually you'll stop thinking about the bad, and you won't be your old self who had never experienced heartbreak, you will be a new old self who won't present his heart out of his chest so quickly.

:cool: well now, take our advices to heart and keep being a spaz. Patience is a virtue
...
I always wanted to say that
See ya pak and do your best.
Arigatogozaimasu!! I'll try my best... :lol
 

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Find someone else, that's the only way...!
If you just wait it out, nothings gonna change, you'll feel fed up and become annoying. kinda emo like sasuke :p except that you won't look as handsome.. :p sorry :p
find someone else and your life will get back on track again... :)
 
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I dont mean to be rude. But the way you type, im kind of feeling why she dumped you... i thought you were a girl at first.

Dont do the japanese - english transition again. Its not cute.
 

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I dont mean to be rude. But the way you type, im kind of feeling why she dumped you... i thought you were a girl at first.

Dont do the japanese - english transition again. Its not cute.
I don't usually do it. But I like Japanese.... Probably excess of watching anime caused that... :bouncy:

Sumimasen...! :(
 
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