[Discussion] ~ Cyber Love

[Yerrina]

I would like to know your views on Cyber Love, and by definition, this term refers to online love relationships where it can evolve, as I saw into RP dating or remain restricted to normal conversation, and on the two types I have two examples to share.

My bestfriend once had such sort of relationships on Crunchyroll. She lived in the UAE and he lived in Phillipines, and their relationship had RP and loads of imagination, until he showed up one day with a girlfriend in real life(he posted his pictures with her) as far as I can remember, and she got upset and ended it, or he did.

Another type of cyber love is that of another friend of mine. They met in a chatroom; he was in Iraq, she was in Jordan, and they had a relationship for almost a year and a half over the net, and they called frequently. Then he came to Jordan and asked for her hand in marriage, (her family seemed okay with it), and now they're happily married with a daughter.

Now the calling part was absent from my first friend's relationship, but she was just as upset as if she was truly his girlfriend and he had cheated on her. My second friend was serious in her relationship through every step of the way.

BEFORE YOU POST OR ANYTHING; Please wease: RESPECT other people's opinions. Don't state YOUR VIEW and declare yourself impeccable, but GIVE EXAMPLES and PROOFS that support your arguments. However I think I wasted my time typing that so meh ~

Your much appreciated views on this topic ?

 

[Nathan]

I personally don't like, and wouldn't do it, I don't know for me, it just feels a little weird. But for the people, that have found love online. Happy for each of them.

 

[Grim]

Cyber love? how is it love when you cant touch it? And online girls who's up to this shit are usualy ... tutuuu

 

[Rand al'Thor]

Its weird..definitely a no no for me..

 

[killblow]

Not At All!

 

[Kikyo]

Cyber love...ain't I doing that already

 

[AlexXx]

cyber love? every man behind his screen only thinks of ***

 

[lubricati0n]

Personally I don't like it but of course I know a few people that have had success with "cyber love".

 

[Swizzik]

Most guys that are on teh internets looking for cyber love just want personalized porn.

 

[Gilda]

No, I'm not into it. Sure, if you wanna have friends do so, but there isn't a difference between a friend and a boyfriend in the net because you don't really have a physical contact with the guy. And that's the point of a boyfriend.

Well, of course, if I meet someone in a chat or something and then we start dating together in the real life, that would be another thing as we bring our relationship in another level. But chances of doing that are low, and most people are just kidding in the "cyber world" as you called it.

 

[Hei]

I personally don't like, and wouldn't do it, I don't know for me, it just feels a little weird. But for the people, that have found love online. Happy for each of them.

He said it all
Agreed^^

 

[-Yard-]

Rei + Zise. They met here, and now they live together I believe.

I see nothing wrong with online dating. It's merely the connection of two people. Just because you can't touch them, does not make it any less of a relationship. Relationships are more of the connection between two people. Online, it even helps to prepare you for future relationships. I honestly, don't see how it's wrong to others. Love isn't something you have to feel by touch. Same thing with religions, you love the god (In most religions that have one) But you cannot see nor, touch, nor hear him. But you do mostly love that figure. The person you speak to is a person, with the same feelings as you. It doesn't make it any less of a relationship. You may not be able to hold them, but you can hold their hearts.

 

[Swizzik]

Rei + Zise. They met here, and now they live together I believe.

I see nothing wrong with online dating. It's merely the connection of two people. Just because you can't touch them, does not make it any less of a relationship. Relationships are more of the connection between two people. Online, it even helps to prepare you for future relationships. I honestly, don't see how it's wrong to others. Love isn't something you have to feel by touch. Same thing with religions, you love the god (In most religions that have one) But you cannot see nor, touch, nor hear him. But you do mostly love that figure. The person you speak to is a person, with the same feelings as you. It doesn't make it any less of a relationship. You may not be able to hold them, but you can hold their hearts.

The thing is its easier to make a connection with someone when you can actually physically communicate with them.

 

[Ryuu..]

I personally will stick to people who I meet in real life.

 

[Hawker]

I don't get it. Never will. It's just wasting ones life.

And hell, who is actually later on in their life gonna look back and wonder:

"oh goosh I still remember the time I internetdated that one guy. It was such an awesome time. Brings tears to my eyes when I remember us writing vm's to each others but at the same time we tried be careful that our vm's don't reach their character limits. He also had brown hair, I'm not sure about this but that's what he said lol..."

Also when people have problems with each others in these so called "internet relationships", it's kind of an insult to the ones that actually have real life problems, real partners and real relationships.
It just seems like people creating problems out of nowhere :| .

Also the fact that it's usually not supposed to lead anywhere 'cause most of that kind of relationships are to my knowledge: super-long distance relationships. So it's just silly.

So if I'd summarize my opinion about internet dating it would be like this:

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[-Yard-]

The thing is its easier to make a connection with someone when you can actually physically communicate with them.

That's an opinion. Those who seek lust will in fact go for the physical attraction. Those who seek personality will only go for their personality. I've had many relationships, offline and online. Currently in one that's been going for 10 months and I've made plans to go see her in a few months. So all in all, it's worked out great, absolutely better than any relationship I've had physically. That's because I got to know her personality completely, not her body and us getting to know each other so well is what's made the relationship so strong. It's basically choosing love over lust, and that's what makes it such a great relationship. Not to mention, when you do meet that person, you feel great being with them because you know everything about them after all the time you spent getting to know them. Therefore, you can then be physical, while having a even more perfect relationship.

 

[-Lionheart-]

No, I'm not into it. Sure, if you wanna have friends do so, but there isn't a difference between a friend and a boyfriend in the net because you don't really have a physical contact with the guy. And that's the point of a boyfriend.

Well, of course, if I meet someone in a chat or something and then we start dating together in the real life, that would be another thing as we bring our relationship in another level. But chances of doing that are low, and most people are just kidding in the "cyber world" as you called it.

how wrong you are, clearly you dont know the meaning of love!


to the thread starter, all love is possible, and all types of love are great if they are true and come from the heart, cyber love is no different, just more complicated and more difficult for the relationship, ive had two friends with this kind of relationship, and they both were cant live without each other kinda thing at first, one of them ended badly, but the other one turned out to be True Love in every sense of the word!, the more time they spent together throughout the distance the closer in heart they became, until the guy who lived in Austria traveled all the way to russia after four years and engaged the girl, he was there for a few weeks, then came back, and shortly after that he married her, now they have kids and they are closest thing to soul mates ive seen.


the one thing about online relationship is it opens the door to possibilities, some people spend their whole life searching for their soulmate and never find him or her, sometimes your soulmate is far far away and you have to do whatever it takes to find him and be with him, because when you do, you'll have found your missing half, and thats when you become Complete.



"i completely agree with Yard, i understand you bro, dont lose hope, love is worth it all"

 

[Hawker]

That's an opinion. Those who seek lust will in fact go for the physical attraction. Those who seek personality will only go for their personality. I've had many relationships, offline and online. Currently in one that's been going for 10 months and I've made plans to go see her in a few months. So all in all, it's worked out great, absolutely better than any relationship I've had physically. That's because I got to know her personality completely, not her body and us getting to know each other so well is what's made the relationship so strong. It's basically choosing love over lust, and that's what makes it such a great relationship. Not to mention, when you do meet that person, you feel great being with them because you know everything about them after all the time you spent getting to know them. Therefore, you can then be physical, while having a even more perfect relationship.

Sorry to say man, but that's not a relationship then.

It's like an utopia. Yes you get to know each others personality almost perfectly, but all in all it just clouds your judgement about that person.

Most of the people are not the same at all irl than they are in internet. That doesn't apply to all but most of the ones who seek internet dating are insecure and thus if they feel accepted by someone over the internet, they try to show themselves as much in a positive light as they can. So it's very much deceiving in the end.

And it's also very weird when you actually meet each other when you already know everything about each other. What's the point then anymore? There's no interest in a relationship where you just learn everything about each other beforehand.

And believe me I'm talking about experience. I haven't never considered that I would've been internet dating, but in two cases I have been in situations where I've been getting to know to the girl of my interest FIRST over the internet, for like two months and then seeing her. Both lived quite nearby so it wasn't a big deal. The second relationship lasted four months (I calculated that from the point where we actually met and started seeing each other regurlarly).
But it was too weird, no normal relationship shouldn't start like that. I knew too much about her. It got boring.

But if you know what you're doing then good for you but I suggest you think my points through.

 

[-Yard-]

No, I'm not into it. Sure, if you wanna have friends do so, but there isn't a difference between a friend and a boyfriend in the net because you don't really have a physical contact with the guy. And that's the point of a boyfriend.

Well, of course, if I meet someone in a chat or something and then we start dating together in the real life, that would be another thing as we bring our relationship in another level. But chances of doing that are low, and most people are just kidding in the "cyber world" as you called it.

That is so wrong on so many levels. You do not have to have physical contact to be in love with someone. The difference between a friend and boyfriend is that you love your friend but can be in love with your boyfriend.

Reminds me of

 

[-Lionheart-]

Sorry to say man, but that's not a relationship then.

It's like an utopia. Yes you get to know each others personality almost perfectly, but all in all it just clouds your judgement about that person.

Most of the people are not the same at all irl than they are in internet. That doesn't apply to all but most of the ones who seek internet dating are insecure and thus if they feel accepted by someone over the internet, they try to show themselves as much in a positive light as they can. So it's very much deceiving in the end.

And it's also very weird when you actually meet each other when you already know everything about each other. What's the point then anymore? There's no interest in a relationship where you just learn everything about each other beforehand.

And believe me I'm talking about experience. I haven't never considered that I would've been internet dating, but in two cases I have been in situations where I've been getting to know to the girl of my interest FIRST over the internet, for like two months and then seeing her. Both lived quite nearby so it wasn't a big deal. The second relationship lasted four months (I calculated that from the point where we actually met and started seeing each other regurlarly).
But it was too weird, no normal relationship shouldn't start like that. I knew too much about her. It got boring.

But if you know what you're doing then good for you but I suggest you think my points through.

when you're with someone for over a year, internet or not sooner or later you will know the real them, a person can only pretend for so long.

and if they still love eachother after all that time, then that says something