Pervy Wrath
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Just read her body language, that tells you a lot. My ex cheated on me once, and she was completely different after that. She didn't tell me she did, I found out later. But I knew something was wrong
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markdabomb22
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I would say it's to soon to let her in the clear......keep watch just don't be obvious about it. also I would highly suggest you ask her friend if she was there if not well you have your answer......
JINCHURIKI9
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Dude she's prolly cheating on you so do your own thing. Just use her like she doing you and always have back up plans bro
You ask about these things in a anime/manga forum where 90% member are just kids under 15??
On topic: I can't really say she is lying,don't know her personally to accuse such a thing.But from what you are saying,yeah she definitely likes her ex and probably kissed him or something.
On topic: I can't really say she is lying,don't know her personally to accuse such a thing.But from what you are saying,yeah she definitely likes her ex and probably kissed him or something.
The real problem is not that she still has feelings for him as so much as she is being dishonest to both herself as well as you. Doing what she is doing is causing the truth to come out in other ways whether she wants it to or not and that is destructive to your relationship as well as her mindset. This is confusion that can swallow you both if you can't get her to be honest with both herself and you so it can be properly taken care of. The trick would be to get her to do it without seeming like an attack on her.
Keep in mind - it's not their relationship, it's not their love they are commenting on. Most of them are in more ****ed up relationships and either don't care or don't see it.
The problem isn't whether or not something wrong happened. Don't get caught up on that. It's useless information that will serve only to aggravate you.
The more relevant problem is that there seems to be a rift growing between you two, and there also seems to be some lack of self-security in both of you. She's obviously afraid you'll leave her, and you're afraid she's being unfaithful but sticking to her because she forms the basis of your security. Those are the problems that need to be fixed.
Honestly, it sounds like you're saying that to convince yourself.
You'll have to come to terms with the fact that you don't know and likely can't know. You have to look beyond that and ask the more pertinent question: "Does she want to have a faithful relationship with me?"
That's the answer you need to be resolving, because that's the real question tearing away at you. The question of whether or not she did something wrong is a distraction. True - it hurts to think that she might have done something wrong... but don't let it distract you from the real question and issues.
eyesofthekyuubi44
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My theory is this.
If she's totally over her ex, she wouldn't even have him come to her mind.
The girl I'm dating now has clearly put all the other girls behind me. If you're over something, then why do you even bring it up in a "more than casual" kind of way?
She's not over him. Dump her. It'd be a whole hell of a lot less stress, because from this point on, your trust has gone down the shitter and you're probably going to try to put a lock on her if you keep on dating her, which will only end in more problems.
Break up with her. Find a new girl. Trust the new girl unless she does something like this/worse. If you're young, it happens.
I know many people in high school/college/barely graduated life who have been in relationships for a year to three years and have had similar shit happen. You CAN move on, just take what you learned from this broad and keep moving.
She hid something from you. Not a good sign. She had a "friend" over at his house. She claims she's over him. Do you think her ex is feeling the same way having this broad over at his house?
I'm sorry that it had to happen to you man. It happens. Some girls you just cannot work with.
If she's totally over her ex, she wouldn't even have him come to her mind.
The girl I'm dating now has clearly put all the other girls behind me. If you're over something, then why do you even bring it up in a "more than casual" kind of way?
She's not over him. Dump her. It'd be a whole hell of a lot less stress, because from this point on, your trust has gone down the shitter and you're probably going to try to put a lock on her if you keep on dating her, which will only end in more problems.
Break up with her. Find a new girl. Trust the new girl unless she does something like this/worse. If you're young, it happens.
I know many people in high school/college/barely graduated life who have been in relationships for a year to three years and have had similar shit happen. You CAN move on, just take what you learned from this broad and keep moving.
She hid something from you. Not a good sign. She had a "friend" over at his house. She claims she's over him. Do you think her ex is feeling the same way having this broad over at his house?
I'm sorry that it had to happen to you man. It happens. Some girls you just cannot work with.
DeathandHealing
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Just wait for it. I call it.
Dump her, don't be a damn fool. Tears mean NOTHING when it comes to women. They will cry over anything , like IDK being CAUGHT.
No committed person will spend time with an ex and she went to his house. Don't pull that friend BS because her friend KNOWS that's her ex. I will go as far to say he got with BOTH of them that night. Women will LIE for friends any day of the week no matter how wrong it is.
2 Years and he did not know she was in a relationship? Psh yeah right. He didn't get some last time and now he came after "your" girl.
Don't be Naive. Or a fool because you will find out the hard way when the truth comes up or she dumps you for him.
Dump her, don't be a damn fool. Tears mean NOTHING when it comes to women. They will cry over anything , like IDK being CAUGHT.
No committed person will spend time with an ex and she went to his house. Don't pull that friend BS because her friend KNOWS that's her ex. I will go as far to say he got with BOTH of them that night. Women will LIE for friends any day of the week no matter how wrong it is.
2 Years and he did not know she was in a relationship? Psh yeah right. He didn't get some last time and now he came after "your" girl.
Don't be Naive. Or a fool because you will find out the hard way when the truth comes up or she dumps you for him.
Scary Yamato
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If its still bugging you, you need to have a sit-down with her and hash everything out. It's better to get it all out on the table before it fester, and I'm talking about both your feelings and hers.
Did she tell you she was going to be staying at his place, did she lie about were she was staying, or was it something that never even came up? If she was supposed to be staying somewhere else and ended up staying there ask her why. If she lied to you, ask her why she lied and tell her if its something she felt she needed to keep from you then she shouldnt have done it in the first place because she knew it was suspect.
Tell her how the situation makes you feel. If her staying there makes you uncomfortable, then she needs to know it so she doesnt do it again. If she tries to turn it into you not trusting her, then explain that its her you trust, but you don trust him. And staying at his houseafter he has said he wants her back was not smart. Ask her how it would make her feel if the situation was reversed. Girls are extremely territorial, so that should drive the point home.
I dont know all the details about her relationship with you and with him, so the name thing could just be a honest mistake.
She should have know that staying at an ex's place was a stupid thing to do and very inappropriate, however, it doesnt mean that anything is happening.
Bottom line, if she wanted to be with the other dude, she would. Be secure in your relationship and talk it out. It will make the relationship stronger.
ChiefHermit
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Minato is a thug
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I've been in relationships before man and with that last thing you just said "do you miss me" she's obviously cheating or something why would she care If anyone besides you missed her? She's up to something of has already done something don't dump her right away but tell her she better be completely honest because you know something's up and if her story sounds fishy just leave her or you'll get hurt man
LuNnchI30x
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I'm be honest with you bro. The text "do you miss me?" its a signal that's something is wrong. I mean how would you know its not her EX using different numbers? When girls text to other girls they don't say, "do you miss me." Also the fact that she slept at her EX house with a friend also means trouble. ALL these hints that you just have said is trouble. As of now wait and see whats her next move is. Don't take too long, because as of now trust is the issue and since you're beginning to suspect that she is "cheating" with you for her EX or someone else you have few options that are (1) talk to her and I mean like talk to her to get to the bottom of this, not some little talk or (2) dumb her and leave her and not look back. You said you're a college students so go out and make new friends. Remember relationship is base on trust and commitment.
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NArutouzzi
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damn man sorry but if he cried to her tellin her to come back and all and she stayed at his place...uhhh tell her to gtfo
