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King Cobra
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These kind of situations suck. It may be safe for to just end it, or you can give her a chance Amd see what's really going on.
bro your girl might be a little bit of an attention ***** if shes gonna ask guys if they miss her...
ask her friend if she was really there with her that night.
show more frustration to show her how ****ed this situation is and she'll probably wanna talk and resolve things
other wise you might look like a fool with her in control and taking advantage of the situation...
but hey, its just a suggestion... its ultimately up to you on how you'd fix this situation.
wish you all the luck on this little dilemma
KuraiandAlbel
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See... If she did not want you to get jealous she should have kept it on her phone, then if you saw it, then should could have explained how you had the wrong idea on what the whole text meant. The very fact that she deleted it means that she wanted to make sure you NEVER saw it, not just because she thought you would get jealous, more like that she did not want you to find out that she was talking to a guy that you do not know about.
Yikes... More recently shows something is wrong. She is probably being more unfaithful than you would like to think. If you are close to her friends you should ask them, being completely serious to show that you are concerned for your relationship, that you want to know if your girlfriend is doing anything that you should know about. That you NEED to know, for your girlfriends sake and for yourself.
That is great. I am glad I can help. It is nice to have a neutral opinion on all this (especially from a girl).
Dude i'm in my 30's and been through enough sh$t to know from what your saying your gf is def cheating or thinking about bailing. she sounds like more trouble than she's worth there's plenty more chicks out there. unless you can't live without her your better off not waisting your precious time and life on someone who doesn't deserve it.
TheThirdHokage
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First to kill your insult only people with poor arguments need to resort in personal insults and age insults is little of you. There are billions of people in the world, with half of marriages ending in divorce! don't put yourself in a relationship because you think that's the only girl for you. But maybe she is perfect, but perfect is an ugly word. I believe you need to like their imperfection just as positives.
TO OP - I wont tell you what to do, but here is a question. Is she worth it?
Jellal Fernandes
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It's cool if it is..Keep yourself calm and outsmart the girl to unveil the truth..Sooner or later they start talking about what's in their mind and see what are you're thoughts on it..
Girlfriend problems. Am i right..
Insidious Smile
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You need to kick her ass out. She Fu*ked the guy for Crists sake. Smh.........It's cool if it is..Keep yourself calm and outsmart the girl to unveil the truth..Sooner or later they start talking about what's in their mind and see what are you're thoughts on it..
Damn, sorry to hear that man. Well the way I see it, I feel like you probably shouldn't be with her.
1. She lied to you, she could have told you everything from the start.
2. It would be something in the back of your head the entire time continuing your relationship.
3. She still has feelings for her ex. For her to lie about it, it means it meant something to her. If she didn't think anything of it, she would have told you which means she won't care for you the way you care for her being that she still cares for this other guy.
These are all just a few points but honestly it depends if you love this girl or not. Love is a crazy thing bro, but don't let it throw you off the way you think. Take time and really make a decision you hopefully won't regret. Good luck man.
1. She lied to you, she could have told you everything from the start.
2. It would be something in the back of your head the entire time continuing your relationship.
3. She still has feelings for her ex. For her to lie about it, it means it meant something to her. If she didn't think anything of it, she would have told you which means she won't care for you the way you care for her being that she still cares for this other guy.
These are all just a few points but honestly it depends if you love this girl or not. Love is a crazy thing bro, but don't let it throw you off the way you think. Take time and really make a decision you hopefully won't regret. Good luck man.
You've been together for two years and she slips her ex's name.
2 chances on what is happening...
1. She is still in touch with that "Dennis". And by in touch, i mean REGULARLY communicating. It's been two years man. And she still not over with her ex? Answer this by yourself.
2. She was scarred in whatever that have had happen between them in the past. Emotional trauma. No malice in here.
Either way, you are pretty much fcked up.
Worst case scenario is that for the last two years with her, she still talks, text, even meet physically and very worst still HAVE S3X with her ex named Dennis.
My advice for you is to GET EVEN. Cheat too. That will fill your ego up again.
And again, by "get even" i mean, is to cheat too. Man up! Cheat once by a girl, to get even is to cheat with three girls. Either one by one or at the same time. LOL
Good luck.
2 chances on what is happening...
1. She is still in touch with that "Dennis". And by in touch, i mean REGULARLY communicating. It's been two years man. And she still not over with her ex? Answer this by yourself.
2. She was scarred in whatever that have had happen between them in the past. Emotional trauma. No malice in here.
Either way, you are pretty much fcked up.
Worst case scenario is that for the last two years with her, she still talks, text, even meet physically and very worst still HAVE S3X with her ex named Dennis.
My advice for you is to GET EVEN. Cheat too. That will fill your ego up again.
And again, by "get even" i mean, is to cheat too. Man up! Cheat once by a girl, to get even is to cheat with three girls. Either one by one or at the same time. LOL
Good luck.
This... is not going to be pretty.
To be fair - people say a lot of weird things in their sleep. That said, I've noticed that a lot of recent and 'traumatic' or significant events tend to be expressed in that state between fully asleep and awake.
For example, when I stood night watches during boot camp, we had guys who would sing cadence in their sleep; our recruit petty officer in charge would call facing movements and roll over in his sleep (funny). Others would start to masturbate while asleep (awkward as hell). Some would say some girls' name (presumably their wife or girlfriend - perhaps a love interest).
Not a wise decision on her part (staying at his house).
That said, at least she is talking to you about it. That's a good sign.
I think it means that it was a significant event for her, and probably troubling.
Your reaction to this will not, in and of itself, 'make it' - but it can certainly 'break it.' If you start letting paranoia get the best of you, it will be over.
Personal experience speaking, there.
Ultimately - you have to weigh your instincts to support this girl you love against your instincts to be territorial. If you want to love and support her, then do just that. This one incident, alone, is not worth dissolving a relationship over. Unless you're not going to be able to keep paranoia at bay. Some paranoia and jealousy is natural - it's instinctive. But there is a toxic amount.
Basically, if it reaches the point where you cannot trust her... then you need to let it go.
Well, you know her better than I do, most likely.
Would she get into a relationship with someone she did not love and care about?
Before you get wonky over that - remember that she did get into a relationship with you, too.
If I were to run into my ex, there would be some very powerful emotions involved (I suspect on her part, too - though she'd probably try to play it off). Regardless of how the encounter went - it would open up the flood gates on a lot of very powerful emotions.
Currently - I'm single, so the idea of repairing things to a point where the potential existed for us to 'try again' as fully independent adults (not a status we enjoyed in the previous attempt, and a source of considerable strain) would be appealing to that overly optimistic and romantic imagination of mine.
However, there are other females I care about quite a bit - many of which I am open to developing a romantic relationship with. The hardest part about encountering my ex (and one of the reasons I've decided to have as few of those as humanly possible) would be dealing with the raw instinct that is there to care for and support a person ... conflicting with that same instinct I have for another.
I wouldn't cheat and I wouldn't leave my current for an ex... but it would still be the fact that I have to, in a way, abandon someone I once shared a deep love with, and still care about.
She came back to you. Unless you get information that indicates she's making return visits to him - I would give her the benefit of the doubt.
But by that same token, don't blindly walk into a situation where you're being taken advantage of. This one incident, alone, is somewhat difficult to work with. Errors of judgment happen, people make mistakes - life goes on. If this forms part of a trend, then you might want to consider letting it go before it gets ugly; but that's something only you can decide to do (well, and her).
King Cobra
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Cheating is not the answer. Trust me I thought it was too. But when you get caught everything is fu*ked up and your reputation gets ruined.
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SasukeCurse
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End that shit, women who **** with ur head like that and that isn`t honest with u aren`t worth ur time, just more stress for u to deal with.
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Isn't the whole point in "revenge" f**king (cheating) to get "caught" and piss off your ex/cheating girl(boy)friend? -_- No matter how you look at it, cheating is never "worth it."