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I'm really starting to think that I'm one of a kind and in not such a great way. Please tell me that I'm not the only one in this situation. My life doesn't really suck, it's just really strange.

-99% of people think I'm very handsome and I have an athletic body, but I have extremely low self-esteem.

-ALL of my siblings are/were popular in school, but I'm not. I don't want to be popular because I don't like attention. A lot of people push me to become popular like my brothers, they won't let me be.

-I'm the definition of "black sheep". I'm totally different from the rest of my family.

-The popular, preppy people at my school feel like I belong with them. I get some much damn un-wanted attention.

-I won't have *** until I'm married, but I'll never get married. I can't imagine finding a girl who can handle all my baggage. This means I'll die a virgin-_-.
 

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:rofl: Die a virgin? Chill out man.

You're in an odd position. Most people want attention, but you don't. Just tell them to leave you alone, what else can you do, you know? You shouldn't have to be with people you don't want to be with.
 

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I know how you feel. I hate attention too. I've never wanted to follow in my brothers footsteps, but I do play sports, so I'm expected to be a "cool kid", I just don't think there should be a fine line between such things.

Don't worry though, there is probably someone out there just perfect for you. I thought like you, but someone came along ;)

Just keep telling yourself that you're you, and everything will work out fine.
 

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I know how you feel. I hate attention too. I've never wanted to follow in my brothers footsteps, but I do play sports, so I'm expected to be a "cool kid", I just don't think there should be a fine line between such things.

Don't worry though, there is probably someone out there just perfect for you. I thought like you, but someone came along ;)

Just keep telling yourself that you're you, and everything will work out fine.
Yes, you get it. I would like to talk to this nerdy chick because ever since I've seen her wear this shirt with Gaara on it, she's had my attention. Lol. Plus, she reads the Percy Jackson series, which I used to read. Though, if I talk to her, she will get a lot of attention, which she probably doesn't want. I don't want to make things inconvenient for her, so I'll leave her alone.:(
Thanks for the advice, dude.
:rofl: Die a virgin? Chill out man.

You're in an odd position. Most people want attention, but you don't. Just tell them to leave you alone, what else can you do, you know? You shouldn't have to be with people you don't want to be with.
I'm not with those people, they want me to be with them. They think their group will look better with me in it. When people first meet me, they completely thrown off. Everyone expects me to be this super "cool" guy, but I'm really just chill, insecure and a bit nerdy. My friends are like me kind of, but they don't have the potential that I have, but don't want.
 
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I hate attention too lol. I'm lucky since my school is pretty chill. I have almost absolutely nothing pushing me to become popular or anything like that though, which is just the way I like it xd

Also like 80%+ of my family is fluent in arabic and when they have a "family talk" for like 6 hours I just sit there killing the time since I need to be polite ^.-
 

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Yep, a lot of those things fit me rather well. xd My brother is always trying to make me go out and do stuff I have no interest in doing because "I need friends, I need a life, I need to go out and be somebody". When really the problem is that he's actually jealous of my situation, he hates the fact that I'm the one who will take over the family business because he was too stupid and spent too much time with so-called "friends" that now he's basically cut off.

Me, I only need a few friends, not tons of them. It's better to have a couple friends that are actually friends than hundreds that say they're your friends but stab you in the back at every opportunity. Sure, I'm having some difficulty finding a good girlfriend right now, but girls are the last thing on my mind, I have serious stuff to deal with, and can't spend time thinking with the wrong head. xd
 
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Yep, a lot of those things fit me rather well. xd My brother is always trying to make me go out and do stuff I have no interest in doing because "I need friends, I need a life, I need to go out and be somebody". When really the problem is that he's actually jealous of my situation, he hates the fact that I'm the one who will take over the family business because he was too stupid and spent too much time with so-called "friends" that now he's basically cut off.

Me, I only need a few friends, not tons of them. It's better to have a couple friends that are actually friends than hundreds that say they're your friends but stab you in the back at every opportunity. Sure, I'm having some difficulty finding a good girlfriend right now, but girls are the last thing on my mind, I have serious stuff to deal with, and can't spend time thinking with the wrong head. xd
You seem to have a great head on your shoulders. Your future success in life sounds certain, so you should feel really lucky or blessed. I also feel like when it comes to friends, it's quality over quantity. I'm most likely going to end up in the middle middle-class, I'm pretty smart. So, like you, I should ignore the people pushing me become popular.
You're good looking, and people want to associate with you. Sounds like you've got some serious problems, bro. You must have it so hard.
I clearly said in the OP that my life isn't that bad, just complicated af.
I hate attention too lol. I'm lucky since my school is pretty chill. I have almost absolutely nothing pushing me to become popular or anything like that though, which is just the way I like it xd

Also like 80%+ of my family is fluent in arabic and when they have a "family talk" for like 6 hours I just sit there killing the time since I need to be polite ^.-
Lol. Well, you're lucky to be left alone and have a chill life. :)
 

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Yes, you get it. I would like to talk to this nerdy chick because ever since I've seen her wear this shirt with Gaara on it, she's had my attention. Lol. Plus, she reads the Percy Jackson series, which I used to read. Though, if I talk to her, she will get a lot of attention, which she probably doesn't want. I don't want to make things inconvenient for her, so I'll leave her alone.:(
Thanks for the advice, dude.
You gotta do what you gotta do. If she's the right one she's the right one. Although, you are in high school so I wouldn't be quick to judge off of appearances. I say get to know her.

I did the same thing, best choice I could've made.

Of course people try to get in the way, but that's when you decide what's more important to you: someone you care about, or public opinion.

If you care for her sake, then it'd be wise to let her know beforehand. If it works it works, if it doesn't it doesn't. You have nothing to lose. Or maybe she likes attention, who knows? It's not like you know her yet, so don't be so quick to judge ;)

Main point is, you have to take risks, or else you'll end up exactly the way you think you'll end up.
 

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Wont have *** until your married....GGGGAAAAAYYYYYYYYY.

Sorry couldn't help it, usually only girls say that, and they almost never keep to it. Good luck finding a girl who will stick with you long enough to get married without having *** first. Whats the point in not having *** before getting married, thats just stupidly wasting your life IMO. It sounds like your a just a whiny little emo who thrives on being miserable. Grow a pair and stop being such a cry baby. You only live once might as well enjoy life stop going out of your way to be miserable. Most miserable people are miserable for a reason, you just sound like you enjoy being unhappy, which makes no sense at all.
 

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I'm in the same boat, I'm just 18 but have dated though girls can screw you over. I learned not to care too much b/c once you do, they'll dry you clean from your money bro.
Still, I'm always interested in someone or someone's interested in me and they show it.
 

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I know how you feel.and it might sound weird coming from a guy,but saving yourself for the right girl is a great idea

when i was 16 a girl named rachel came up to me propositioned me for ***.i had absolutely no experience with women:id never even kissed one

In the coming weeks i learned so much,so fast.i thought i was having the time of my life.i had no idea what was about to happen

she ended our fling.i knew that was coming but id grown attached to her..then the impulses came

i wanted ***.and i wanted it bad..i started hooking up with every girl i could get (quite a lot of people,not to brag).

My lifestyle caught up to me.i have 4 STD and I'm not even 19

Moral of the story:nothing comes free.all actions have consequences.just be careful what you do,and who you do it with
 

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Not having *** till you're married is stupid imo, no offence or anything. I'd like to find out what kind of person, fully, before marrying the person, wouldn't you?
 

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I think everybody feels like this at one stage of their life, feels like they are different that is. It's a phase most people go through even though it seems as if they don't. You get the type of people that just want to follow others, so they force themselves to be like that person even though they are different and hate that kind of life style. Then you get the type that just don't care what people have to say or think. School can be hard place to show you're different since kids are very judgmental in a bad way. So what I'm trying to say is don't change your views for anyone (like your brothers are trying to do), when people start feeling they are different in a "not such a great way" they often feel as if they need to change.

So you say you will never get married, but that might change in time, don't think about marrage now, just do what you need to to pass school, go to college or whatever. The rest will fit into place later.

Talking about a girl, just remember there's someone for EVERYONE.

It's good to be different, don't be a sheep and follow everyone. You think Ghandi, Nelson Mandela, Martin Luther King could achieve what they did if they just followed everyone else? No, they achieved what they did by being different and standing up for what they believe in no matter what anyone thought or said.
 
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