Am I obsessed?

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I just observed myself today. I've been spending time with two
Girls and they have a lot of classwork and exams to work on and study for. I noticed I am starting to look for them on campus whenever I have nothing to do. I am also waiting on them so I can see them.

I believe part of the reason why I want a girlfriend is so I can have some sort of liberation. Anyway, is this thing I am doing bad? Should I spend time alone and enjoy being with myself? I am also getting addicted to chess.
 

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The more you go looking for that sort of the thing, the more you find the wrong kind of it.
You can't just go and look for love. As soon as you do it becomes forced or fake. You'll run into someone and it'll be different and you'll know.

My suggestion: don't even think about it.

Honestly you sound young. Way too young to be fixated on starting a family. You can't look for someone with that intention. That's something that builds up when you're with someone for a long time.
 
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I just observed myself today. I've been spending time with two
Girls and they have a lot of classwork and exams to work on and study for. I noticed I am starting to look for them on campus whenever I have nothing to do. I am also waiting on them so I can see them.

I believe part of the reason why I want a girlfriend is so I can have some sort of liberation. Anyway, is this thing I am doing bad? Should I spend time alone and enjoy being with myself? I am also getting addicted to chess.
You want liberation by seeking a commitment? Sounds backwards.
 

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You can’t find liberation in another person, because once that person is gone you’ll be right back where you started. Learn to be comfortable with being alone. Evaluate yourself and your feelings for these girls, take some serious time to think about why you like them and why you want to be with them.

My advice? Don’t date either of them. Stay their friends, be a good friend, but take care of yourself first. Find your confidence, find your comfort zone, and find what you want in a partner and in life. A relationship is about mutual love, respect, and growth. But to build a healthy relationship both parties need a strong foundation in themselves.

It won’t be easy, but nothing that’s easy is worth it. Be patient, be thoughtful, be courteous, and don’t give up on yourself. You’ll figure out what you need to do.
 
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You're not going to do shit with either one. You're going to keep reporting back to this forum about the progress you're making with these girls that don't even view you as a love interest or know you have feelings for either one, and treat this like a big deal.
Just like with every other career thread, just like every other military thread, just like every other family thread.

You have zero convictions.

 

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You're not going to do shit with either one. You're going to keep reporting back to this forum about the progress you're making with these girls that don't even view you as a love interest or know you have feelings for either one, and treat this like a big deal.
Just like with every other career thread, just like every other military thread, just like every other family thread.

You have zero convictions.

A little savage I must say.
 

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A little savage I must say.
I'm pissed off from the fact that this guy cucked out of going to the military, and repeatedly cucks out of opportunities handed to him, only to report back here and tell us how "life isn't working out so well". It's a privilege to have options and opportunity, and to constantly shit on that has if it has no value pisses me off.

It's nothing personal, but it's definitely spiteful.
 
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