Adolescence

[Yubel]

Well I'm 21 and I'm doing what I can to stand on my own feet, I also have a higher self-esteem, learned to respect myself.

 

[GinkgoLeaf Girl]

There are challenges and stressors at every developmental stage. We are probably more capable of handling previous stressors now than before, but that's mainly because we acquired more life experiences and have greater access to internal and/or external resources. My adolescent years were fine, and were mostly uneventful.

 

[Claymantan]

But when you're adult,you're more mature and has less shit in your mind. I myself feel way more mature than when I was 17. Maybe at that age I just couldn't figure I would have met some problems in my life

I dunno, I think we're way harsher on ourselves as "adults," or at least, if we think we're supposed to act like adults. Like someone said, you're not really done developing in terms of actual brain capacities until 25. But anyway, I feel like when we're teenagers and we're confronted with a problem, it's easier to be more egocentric and think "Why is this happening to me," or "This is so unfair." When you're an adult, well, I at least tend to see things more as "This is my fault," and "I could have avoided this." It's harder to give yourself some slack, you kind of want to take responsibility for everything (because ultimately if you don't have control, what's the point of being an adult).

I feel like I have way more sh*t on my mind than I used to xD

 

[Deadlift]

There are challenges and stressors at every developmental stage. We are probably more capable of handling previous stressors now than before, but that's mainly because we acquired more life experiences and have greater access to internal and/or external resources. My adolescent years were fine, and were mostly uneventful.

Well, it seems it's more subjective than I used to think well, I'm not saying I have a "bad life" because there are of course a lot of people who are worse. Just that I'm not in a great period, let's say. Well, thank you

I dunno, I think we're way harsher on ourselves as "adults," or at least, if we think we're supposed to act like adults. Like someone said, you're not really done developing in terms of actual brain capacities until 25. But anyway, I feel like when we're teenagers and we're confronted with a problem, it's easier to be more egocentric and think "Why is this happening to me," or "This is so unfair." When you're an adult, well, I at least tend to see things more as "This is my fault," and "I could have avoided this." It's harder to give yourself some slack, you kind of want to take responsibility for everything (because ultimately if you don't have control, what's the point of being an adult).

I feel like I have way more sh*t on my mind than I used to xD

Uhm well, I still am not an adult so I can't say But anyway I'm sure I got a bit more mature because when someone does something that I believe is wrong, now I try to figure why he could have acted like that. At 17 yrs old I just would have judged him

 

[GinkgoLeaf Girl]

Well, it seems it's more subjective than I used to think well, I'm not saying I have a "bad life" because there are of course a lot of people who are worse. Just that I'm not in a great period, let's say. Well, thank you

Your experiences and struggles are real to you, so there is no shame in admitting that you get stressed over 'little' things. But yeah, reminding ourselves of our strengths, what we do have, and what we are capable of is just as important as acknowledging our problems. In general, an increased internal locus of control is beneficial (though there are situations where this may be untrue).

Thanks, and take care *_*

 

[wanderingcactus]

I think I'll try to follow your mom's advice too well, if it's not copyrighted. Isn't awful when older people tell you stuff like: "at your age I already have done this, I was that, unlike you that only waste your time"? Like it was the same time as now. Can't stand it.




I know a guy who is just two year older than me (so 22) who totally rejected girls of his age and now goes with 30 or 40 years old women, some of those married and/or with sons. You maybe can do like him xd



Thank you very much we hope well



Lmao a teenage derpy would be interesting



Damn those derptanic rituals!



But when you're adult,you're more mature and has less shit in your mind. I myself feel way more mature than when I was 17. Maybe at that age I just couldn't figure I would have met some problems in my life



Narutobase made you fick your studies? Anyway all is well that ends well, Is it ok being somewhat childish even as an adult, if you notice, playful men are the most successful.
Thank you very much for sharing your story, I really appreciated it



**** no! You don't even have to think such things. Life is beautiful, way more beautiful than you can even imagine, and if life turns her back to you it means you have to grab her butt.
And every time you feel so low just think about it: did they made Mr. Bean or Hercules doing the Twelve Labors? if you have such a heavy weight on your shoulders it means you're strong enough to carry it.
Keep grinding champ



Uhm to me, life is indeed more difficult now than it was when I was 16-17-18.



Well, after you turn 18 your responsibilities increase all in once. But you're still naive at 18, you do realize you're not a child anymore when you're around 20



It seems interesting, even if I'm not much interested in parties. Thank you for the advice



You're working on it but still didn't have achieved the goal, since you're replying on my thread xd for school well, I've been blessed because I was in the most difficult lyceum of my city and studied much just the first two years. But I'm changed a lot since then, and around the third year of Lyceum I started turning the person I am now, and being more "sharp" I studied nothing and did well.
Well, about people I love to meet new people with all kinds, so not a problem.. it's just my family. Sometimes I feel like they think I am retarded. It should be normal for an adolescent but if I turn 20 in two weeks I'm not adolescent so I'm starting worrying..





My sincere gratitude to everyone replied in my thread. I almost shed a tear reading all the replies in once. Thank you for sharing your stories, giving me some motivation, reassure me and just spending a minute of your time to answer me.

Its just rare to see girls behave their age now. Like the sorority girls are smart and all but they act like bimbo... dunno why?
social media I guess

 

[Jazzy Stardust]

Life is all ups and downs, learning and change. The time frame doesn't matter really.

 

[Aimee Sky]

We all have different stages and mental levels of maturity.........:bouncy::bouncy::bouncy:
I think?? I hope I helped tho
Anyways; don't worry too much about it

 

[Deadlift]

Your experiences and struggles are real to you, so there is no shame in admitting that you get stressed over 'little' things. But yeah, reminding ourselves of our strengths, what we do have, and what we are capable of is just as important as acknowledging our problems. In general, an increased internal locus of control is beneficial (though there are situations where this may be untrue).

Thanks, and take care *_*

Thank you so much very nice words, you don't even know how I appreciated your reply. I will learn from it. :hug:

Its just rare to see girls behave their age now. Like the sorority girls are smart and all but they act like bimbo... dunno why?
social media I guess

Girls of my age in the place where I live behave like they're mature women with lots of experience. Generally, they're very snob and arrogant, I have several friends like that and sometimes they need to get back in the real world girls who are two or three years younger like to go every time to the disco, to get drunk and high and have tons of likes on FB. Lol I'm not sexist or things because guys are even worse (including me in a certain sense)

Life is all ups and downs, learning and change. The time frame doesn't matter really.

You sure? Thank you anyway

We all have different stages and mental levels of maturity.........:bouncy::bouncy::bouncy:
I think?? I hope I helped tho
Anyways; don't worry too much about it

Yes you indeed helped good vibes are always welcome, thank you very much