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So, I dont know if this is a subject for NB. But im in an almost 4 year relationship and today my gf has some issues with her mom and she decided to go on a "break" with me. Why the hell did it come to that? I just dont get it. And she is not the cheating type so thats out of the question.
 

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you should help her dude.
 

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Everyone's the "cheating" type when they find someone they truly connect with while already in a relationship. :/
 

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It might be good for your relationship, she might realize how much she needs you when you're not around to help her
 

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shes probably going through a lot with her mom and doesn't want to take any harsh feelings out on you and cant explain herself



worst case scenario, issues with her mom may be code for loving your best friend on the low
 

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It could be more than one thing. There's a chance she just needs some space from anyone, which I find to be the most likely case. It could also be that she don't want you to be involved in the situation, or maybe she just wants some attention from you, . It's hard to say when we don't know what kind of girl she is.
 

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It could be a myriad of things.

You said she was fighting with her mom.
It could be the stress.
I would try and talk to her about it and ask if there is anything you can do to help the situation.(Your relationship not the mother situation)

If she still feels that way then i guess it would be best to go through with the break.
Also make sure she knows you are there for here whenever she needs you or someone go talk to even though you two are on a break.
 

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If you want to help her with her situation at home, don't be too persistent. Just tell her that you're there for her if she needs someone to talk to. That usually helps couples when they're going through something tough in life.
 
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I told her im always here for her, I do everything to make her happy on a regular basis, and she knows how much I love her. But she still wants a break.. As if im a burden
 

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I told her im always here for her, I do everything to make her happy on a regular basis, and she knows how much I love her. But she still wants a break.. As if im a burden

People usually go on breaks because they just need some time off. The only thing you can do now, or should do now, is to wait for her answer and see if things go back the way they were.
 

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She's probably trying not to involve you with the stuff she's going through with her mum, but you need to insist on helping and prove to her that you will be there for her in any situation she'll need help with.
 

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She doesn't trust you enough to be able to help her out... that is something to consider.
 

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logic doesn't apply when it comes to women... or the Naruto manga as a whole U_U
 

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Its NOT good for your relationship, shes probly thinking of dumping you, just being honest friend
 

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It seems odd that she would not want you for comfort while going through stressful times. I smell something fishy...in fact, whenever any girl says anything about a break, it usually means something bad.
 

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She probably just needs to time to deal with the "mom situation".
 

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did it ever occur to you that, she may have issues with her mom and need a break to deal with them? thinking too hard and worrying too much over nothing will only hurt the relationship.

you might think that when you have issues being with your partner will help, but not everyone are like that. some people deal with stuff best when they're alone.
 
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logic doesn't apply when it comes to women... or the Naruto manga as a whole U_U

I think your right man. Logic seems like a myth when it comes to Females. Its crazy when a guy would do anything for a woman and they still cant be satisfied. And honestly im not that bad looking either lol. I mean, sure, im not the sunday night football and beer type. But I like to think im a pretty damn cool guy. Her mom is always treating her like crap and it pisses me off. But I dont say anything b zs d about her mother, I just offer comfert and advice. But she contiues to let her mom treat her that way
 

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This is clearly an excuse she is using . But if she is actually having some problems try giving her space but at the same time be with her(without annoying her ) . But a break after 4 years would only prove if you guys are meant to keep going together or not .
 
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