Hey everyone it's me again I just wanted to hear what you guys think. Have you ever seen somebody drop dead gorgeous and your just like woah? What if you hung out with that person sometimes but didn't really talk that much just a little small talk here and there. But you always think to yourself gosh your beautiful. I mean she's polite has a good personality and she's beautiful but your to afraid to make your move. It's like every time you guys talk it just feels like you could go on forever. Would you risk taking that move? - keep in mind if she said no that you would have to work with her everyday.-
Your thoughts? :shrug:
Hey dude, please don't take what I'm about to say the wrong way--it's just some constructive criticism.
Perhaps you're treating this lady too much like an object. The fact that you said that you have only made small talk shows me that you are, in some way, shallow and only looking at her outer beauty, since you already want to make a move without knowing much about who she is.
Granted, you can know a person from short interactions, but you can't know everything buddy.
I disagree with the others about putting yourself in the "friend zone". I think that's exactly what you should do. You should get to know the one you're initially interested in and develop a bond that's actually meaningful from the beginning and let that blossom into something special that only you and her have.
I know that making a move on the girl you barely know seems like a perfect world, but it doesn't make sense.
Think about it this way: Let's say you walked up to a beautiful girl and asked her out. You didn't even know her and she didn't know you, but she said yes anyway. What does that say about her? Guess what, in the real world, only a shallow, and most-likely trampy girl would ever hook-up with a guy she didn't know.
That's why I am constructively criticizing your attitude my friend. In your desire to hook up with her without having any meaningful previously established relationship, you are implicitly belittling her and reducing her to this kind of girl!
If this girl was truly deep and loving and interested in a guy that would care for her and love her for who she is--this girl that I'm describing would reject you. And it's not because she thought you were ugly or because she didn't like the way you dressed or some other silly reason. It's because, to put it simply, she doesn't know you. Why would an honest and self-respecting girl give a some dude who thought having two classes with her and 10 small conversations was enough, know what I mean?
But that's the thing, you don't have to be "some dude". You could be her friend, which is much more meaningful, and actually dignify her by respecting her and giving yourselves the opportunity to get to know each other.
Anyway, that's my take on this. I'm 21 years old, so I'm speaking for myself as much as I am for you. You're just not going to find this kind of person in middle school--even high school. This kind of person is mature and maturity comes with age. Just some advice, take it or leave it.
i felt this oh too many times but i always make a move cause i'd rather be rejected than to never know.... and sometimes the person feels the same way and is waiting for you to step up.
