Casting blame: Convenient , or seems legit...

[ccm30]

Don't you just dislike when people assume they know what they are talking about, when you know otherwise...

Take for example... my room mate thinks that the more tabs open in a browser will slow down other people on the networks bandwidth... Even tho they are not downloading anything on said page(s)... She also never went to school for this either, and is reliant on her BF that hasn't gone to school for this either... (Granted neither have I, but I've looked into the matter somewhat online), I simply can't shake the feel that she's looking for a convenient target to cast blame upon, as it's more convenient that way... Esc goat if you will... :/

Edit: Hm, seems she was right, as this article explains...

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(case anyone else wanted proof)

 

[UchihaBrat]

What blame?

 

[wridacule]

Roommate situations almost NEVER work out. If it wasn't this, you two were bound to bump
heads eventually...

 

['Toxic]

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Meh, my cousin use to blame us when the internet would have it's stupid moments and it would disconnect and we couldn't use the internet for 5mins to 15mins. She would say "You used up the internet" and she would be pissed at us. I found it stupid yet funny that she would actually believe that using the internet 'too much' would cause that. I tried to explain to her that it's either the company messing up or a cable needs to be fixed but she was like "NOO..you guys wasted the internet.." :sy:
well, what can we do? people are ignorant and stubborn, you can try to help and explain what it is but they wont always listen.

 

[ccm30]

Well, she's a unique case I feel, as she's basically my cousin thru family, and she's 30 years older than me (she's 60), that said, I don't have any strong neg feels about her, as she's helping pay for shelter and or food at this time..., that, and she seems too need a social outlet, as she's addicted to her WoW and long distance BF (whom keeps putting off visiting/having her come to him for years), hm...

Well it doesn't appear that you two seem too side with her, (which I wouldn't mind if I were too be that way, as I'd feel more comfortable), but... there have been other issues she's raised with me and my wifey, as we've witnessed that she doesn't seem too also not take responsibility with issues in the past, and to this day... (guess it's more convenient that way for her...) Simply wish there was a way to get too her too Promote responsibility...

Here's a few examples: she seemed reluctant to acknowledge her dog damaged the floor, and that "it wasn't to the point of replacing", (which it was, as her Chihuahua damaged the floor over the whole course of a year lol), which we sucked up, it's the fact that remains to this day: the responsibility issue (or lack there-of)...

The second example being: (possibly) damaged the household washer, as two facts remained: 1. only way it was damageable is from too much pressure on the knob, and 2. no-one uses the washer except for the one that found out about it, and said cousin roomy... (the first lady is that took notice noticed it was damaged, and has yet too show lack of responsibility, so she's not too worry about).

That's my story at least... Any one else have a roomy story they wanna share? XD

 

[Karyuu No]

Haha my older brother says the same exact thing to me.

 

[ccm30]

Haha my older brother says the same exact thing to me.

Heh, seems he was right, Karyuu...

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Man do I have egg on my face.... :/

 

[~Sky~]

Back when I was younger and playing with other kids, we would always make a mess. Of course, when parents show up, finger pointing goes down! Then someone get's in trouble.

Or when someone leaves Ice Cream out. That's when things get real.

Who spilled the milk? Who's been through my stuff? What happened to the couch?

The cases are endless, and just about everyone never admits that they're the one at fault, because they don't want to be looked down on. Of course, some people are always angry because of something else that's been happening to them, so they look for someone else to attack or blame. And it always feels terrible when they're right, because they might not deserve to be right.

I usually just endure through these things, because it's rather pointless to argue unless it's a very extreme case.

However, having several tabs open can slow down internet connection. (Too many sites being loaded at one time)

By the way, I like your Avatar

 

[Karyuu No]

Heh, seems he was right, Karyuu...

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Man do I have egg on my face.... :/

Yeah I know xD That doesn't stop me from opening a lot though XD!

 

[ccm30]

Back when I was younger and playing with other kids, we would always make a mess. Of course, when parents show up, finger pointing goes down! Then someone get's in trouble.

Or when someone leaves Ice Cream out. That's when things get real.

Who spilled the milk? Who's been through my stuff? What happened to the couch?

The cases are endless, and just about everyone never admits that they're the one at fault, because they don't want to be looked down on. Of course, some people are always angry because of something else that's been happening to them, so they look for someone else to attack or blame. And it always feels terrible when they're right, because they might not deserve to be right.

I usually just endure through these things, because it's rather pointless to argue unless it's a very extreme case.

However, having several tabs open can slow down internet connection. (Too many sites being loaded at one time)

By the way, I like your Avatar

And thanks. x3

Yes... Wish my roomy would be confident enough too come to us and raise issues... But she doesn't seem too, and pushes things to le side... Then when she does something unintentional, she seems too not raise matters with us until we find out....

 

[~Sky~]

And thanks. x3

Yes... Wish my roomy would be confident enough too come to us and raise issues... But she doesn't seem too, and pushes things to le side... Then when she does something unintentional, she seems too not raise matters with us until we find out....

You're so welcome

Anyway, I don't know what kind of situation you're in, but I have someone like that also. They're like that because they get really guilty sometimes, so pretending like something they did didn't happen can help them not feel as bad. Of course, that can be pretty selfish, and we usually get around it by trying to keep her confidence up, so she'll speak up more.

It worked, but we don't try that too much anymore because too much complimenting can lead to big-haededness xd

We just sort of kept the balance with encouragement, but also constructive criticism. Worked like a charm. Sometimes being nice is a good answer

If things press further though, I really don't know what to say to you! I'd try my best though