[Discussion] Why is divorce so common in western countries?

[Tsujan9484]

Yeah why is it so common. I have couple of friends from US and we meet frequently on facebook and yahoo messenger. Among them many say that their parents are divorced and are living either with their father or mother. According to them divorce is a common thing in U.S and some western countries.

Why is it so? If you come to my country Nepal or some south Asian country like India and Pakistan; the divorce is not so common. Normally the females live with their husbands to the end. Even if something goes wrong in the relationship, their parents try to make it right. Divorce is rarely seen here.

Is it because of the culture? Is it because of the development? Why do you think that in western countries the divorce is so common?

 

[SandVillageShinobi]

Because half of us marry young to our on off boyfriends and a good majority of us are also ignorant fools.

 

[-Sky-]

What she said.^

 

[Tsujan9484]

Because half of us marry young to our on off boyfriends and a good majority of us are also ignorant fools.

hmm....that was a tough answerU_U

 

[Shinobi Train]

Why is divorce common?...U_U Because people lack self control, that's why. They have *** and children before they're ready, the media (mostly soap opras and drama) tells them they can get a divorce whenever they want. How about the fact that society even allows divorce...

 

[SandVillageShinobi]

Why is divorce common?...U_U Because people lack self control, that's why. They have *** and children before they're ready, the media (mostly soap opras and drama) tells them they can get a divorce whenever they want. How about the fact that society even allows divorce...

^Also this.

 

[Ashflura]

Some people can't withstand the emotional capacity, and give in too easily. Other influences for divorce may include inequality, you know how feminism is becoming a popular thing in the west. People believe they can manage lives easier on their own, especially when one parent is more slack then the other. Culturally in the east, families have the father bringing in the dough, and mother looking after children, so there's less confliction on certain roles. Since both females and males are more independent in the West, their ideals commonly clash and bring about divorce.

 

[Tsujan9484]

Some people can't withstand the emotional capacity, and give in too easily. Other influences for divorce may include inequality, you know how feminism is becoming a popular thing in the west. People believe they can manage lives easier on their own, especially when one parent is more slack then the other. Culturally in the east, families have the father bringing in the dough, and mother looking after children, so there's less confliction on certain roles. Since both females and males are more independent in the West, their ideals commonly clash and bring about divorce.

well said U_U

 

[ZK]

Why is divorce common?...U_U Because people lack self control, that's why. They have *** and children before they're ready, the media (mostly soap opras and drama) tells them they can get a divorce whenever they want. How about the fact that society even allows divorce...

What possible arguments could you give that supports forcing two people to remain partners? That's very much a violation of peoples personal freedom.

 

[Avani]

Yeah why is it so common. I have couple of friends from US and we meet frequently on facebook and yahoo messenger. Among them many say that their parents are divorced and are living either with their father or mother. According to them divorce is a common thing in U.S and some western countries.

Why is it so? If you come to my country Nepal or some south Asian country like India and Pakistan; the divorce is not so common. Normally the females live with their husbands to the end. Even if something goes wrong in the relationship, their parents try to make it right. Divorce is rarely seen here.

Is it because of the culture? Is it because of the development? Why do you think that in western countries the divorce is so common?

Divorce rate is increasing in India as well.

You didn't consider the fact that people live longer these days on an average. Society is much more individualistic, stigma over divorce is much less than before because people are better educated.

What is the point of low divorce rate if it means a number of people putting up with a life where they end up with psychologically oppressed or depressed.

Off course some of these cases are result of stupidity or lack of responsibility in individuals but living together when it is doing more harm than good is as bad as divorces because of silly people not compromising over trivial matters.

 

[Tsujan9484]

Divorce rate is increasing in India as well.

You didn't consider the fact that people live longer these days on an average. Society is much more individualistic, stigma over divorce is much less than before because people are better educated.

What is the point of low divorce rate if it means a number of people putting up with a life where they end up with psychologically oppressed or depressed.

Off course some of these cases are result of stupidity or lack of responsibility in individuals but living together when it is doing more harm than good is as bad as divorces because of silly people not compromising over trivial matters.

I agree...its not like in Nepal, the divorce rate are constant...With the change in education policy and government giving priority to female rights...this have resulted an increase in divorce rate here as well....but like i said it is rarely seen...

I think one of the reason for this is our culture and tradition. Yeah i agree being divorced is better than having a mental trauma and depression....U_U

Anyway like others said, i think in western countries its more because of early marriage....U_U

 

[anabolicwindow]

In my opinion people are more egoistic/ ego-centrated (sorry if it's not the correct word) and don't have the same life-principles to live with ;-) there isn't anything that connects them really...

 

[Escorpiius]

Divorce rate is increasing in India as well.

You didn't consider the fact that people live longer these days on an average. Society is much more individualistic, stigma over divorce is much less than before because people are better educated.

What is the point of low divorce rate if it means a number of people putting up with a life where they end up with psychologically oppressed or depressed.

Off course some of these cases are result of stupidity or lack of responsibility in individuals but living together when it is doing more harm than good is as bad as divorces because of silly people not compromising over trivial matters.

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Satyamev Jayate

 

[blackbird31468]

What possible arguments could you give that supports forcing two people to remain partners? That's very much a violation of peoples personal freedom.

Then they should find someone that they're going to stay with instead of just playing house.

 

[Aponi]

Ouch guys!
Sometimes people just get tired of being treated like shit. U_U

 

[Shinobi Train]

What possible arguments could you give that supports forcing two people to remain partners? That's very much a violation of peoples personal freedom.

Not at all, why don't they just take their time before making the decision to stay together? Also, no one ever said that anyone had to get "married" by state laws...the government has absolutely no authority being even slightly involved in marriage. The only reason that they are is because a long time ago, governments, especially the Roman Catholic Church, figured out that it was one more way to control the people.

 

[ZK]

Not at all, why don't they just take their time before making the decision to stay together? Also, no one ever said that anyone had to get "married" by state laws...the government has absolutely no authority being even slightly involved in marriage. The only reason that they are is because a long time ago, governments, especially the Roman Catholic Church, figured out that it was one more way to control the people.

You say that, yet you maintain that it doesn't violate your personal freedom of choice?

 

[Shinobi Train]

You say that, yet you maintain that it doesn't violate your personal freedom of choice?

Ah, I believe you misunderstand. See marraige is between the spouses, and the Creator. When you have a true connection with the person you love and the same connection with the Creator, then nothing else is necessary and you will never even think about a divorce. It wouldn't matter to you whether you can or cannot get a divorce, you simply won't need to.

 

[Wesobi]

Ah, I believe you misunderstand. See marraige is between the spouses, and the Creator. When you have a true connection with the person you love and the same connection with the Creator, then nothing else is necessary and you will never even think about a divorce. It wouldn't matter to you whether you can or cannot get a divorce, you simply won't need to.

So what if you make an error, a mistake, call it what you want, and realize too late you married a person you should not have married?

 

[Shinobi Train]

So what if you make an error, a mistake, call it what you want, and realize too late you married a person you should not have married?

That's why you're supposed to be extremely careful, especially in today's society. Whatever happened to going slow and making sure before deciding? Think about it, divorce rate was extremely low 100-200 years ago; it also just so happened that people took their time and weren't in such a rush. They also went through proper courtship, not like today when that means jumpin' bones on the first date.

People used to have honor.