[Discussion] ~ Cyber Love

[Ghostofthewind]

They are doomed to fail, Why? Real *** beats fictional ***.

I almost said real boobs beat fake boobs, but we know that's not true lol

 

[bender]

uhhh im scared if I tried it there would be some huge dude behind the screen who's like "YEAH lil man im tiffany and im coming for your bunhole"............i troll and im off

 

[Peridot0814]

I don't see anything wrong with it.

Agreed
Sure, it's all roleplaying and fun, but there isn't any actual emotion to any of it...

 

[ten tailed demon]

not 4 me

 

[Swizzik]

Agreed
Sure, it's all roleplaying and fun, but there isn't any actual emotion to any of it...

Were not talking about rp :|

 

[Rot]

Well..from a person who doesn't believe in "love" I would say IRL is much more intimate and a true connection can be built far better then the internet

Now, "Love" to me isn't a real emotion, its a name of a few emotions combined that you feel toward someone who you have spent time with on a reasonable scale..

For example, there are two types of "love", one is for a partner, sexually..the other is a friend "love"

For sake of debate..lets say you and someone was born around the same time, lets say one is female one is male..you spend your entire childhood together up til your teens, one moves away and you don't see each other for a long time, you see each other again when you are older..and developed I suppose..but you don't have the sexual attraction toward your friend who you have known your entire life but you still "love" them, if something happened to them it would crush you..even though you have little to no sexual desire for that person

The second is the sexual "love", obviously this is where you are already attracted to someone before you even really know them, weather it be physical or personality..whatever.. you have your goal set..and you will do anything to achieve these feelings you have mutually with said person, the difference between this type and the above is that you are sexually involved with said person but the feeling is the same, if something happens to this person you would be crushed just the way you would with a very close friend..the only difference is the sexual part

But for both types the pain of loss is the same, this is the one truth

Love, to me is respect, loyalty, caring and a general desire to help or do anything for that person, it goes both ways, the sexual type of love maybe has a stronger pull in the area of caring then the latter, but again the pain is the same regardless

It is what makes us human, but "love" can be shattered because we are human; ie..people who get divorced because they can no longer stand each other, sure they still care about each other but they no longer desire to live with said person and the relationship, in good cases, reverts to a friend status..in bad cases..they hate each other with a passion..this is why the "emotion" of "love" isn't real, its not a standalone emotion, its a combination of emotions combined with time; that is what we call "love"

So to me, because the internet is so vast..and so much deceit and lies can easily be performed..internet "love" is far less likely to succeed then IRL "love", thats not to say it is impossible or its wrong, it can work..as long as both partys are honest from the start..

Those who are saying *** has nothing to do with it..you are terribly wrong..the main function of all species is to reproduce, i don't care if you proclaim love before ever meeting a person in real life..i don't care if you date 2 years before even kissing..the end goal is always the same, and without *** "love" would quickly dissolve or become more of a friend "love"..

I say this because of older couples, generally..most couples over 45 no longer have ***, but they still love each other..this is not because they no longer care for it..its usually because of either the male has problems or the female has problems, usually after 40 the females go through menopause, and it greatly decreases sexual drive, males over 45 face ED..and the older you get the less *** happens, but it has been shown that couples who are engaged in *** on a regular basis have a much higher chance of staying togather until "death do us part" then a couple who does not engage in *** much, if at all..

You may ask why people over 70, who surely have no way of having *** with each other anymore stay together..thats a silly question..the real question is why wouldn't they?..I can only imagine what it would be like to spend your entire life with someone..there is no way you would seperate even after *** is impossible..if you lasted 50 years with ***..you can last 20 without, this doesn't prove *** have nothing to do with it..i am pretty sure your grandma and grandpa had far better *** then any of you and your spouses..because they didn't have as many distractions as there are today..this is also why marriage lasted on a much higher % of success in the past..they had nothing better to do like internet or tv..so they had lots and lots of ***..these days there is so many distractions and these days marriage success %, when compared to the past..is much lower

 

[DexterMorgan909]

i don't like that kind of relationship, however in some cases it can work out
i have a friend who met a girl online (a video game) they were in the same "clan" they liked each other and... right now, believe it or not, they are married and they have a kid
it can work... but it's a gamble

 

[Ngylle]

Cyber Reelationshi, i do not think so, better stay with the real deal. relationships that stay true to the end are very rare. at the end of an cyber love you will find that one of them, cheated with someone in real live, the contact the touch it is very important.

 

[Yerrina]

I say this because of older couples, generally..most couples over 45 no longer have ***, but they still love each other..this is not because they no longer care for it..its usually because of either the male has problems or the female has problems, usually after 40 the females go through menopause, and it greatly decreases sexual drive, males over 45 face ED..and the older you get the less *** happens, but it has been shown that couples who are engaged in *** on a regular basis have a much higher chance of staying togather until "death do us part" then a couple who does not engage in *** much, if at all..

You may ask why people over 70, who surely have no way of having *** with each other anymore stay together..thats a silly question..the real question is why wouldn't they?..I can only imagine what it would be like to spend your entire life with someone..there is no way you would seperate even after *** is impossible..if you lasted 50 years with ***..you can last 20 without, this doesn't prove *** have nothing to do with it..i am pretty sure your grandma and grandpa had far better *** then any of you and your spouses..because they didn't have as many distractions as there are today..this is also why marriage lasted on a much higher % of success in the past..they had nothing better to do like internet or tv..so they had lots and lots of ***..these days there is so many distractions and these days marriage success %, when compared to the past..is much lower

I have not been in love in sense that love songs makes sense, so I cannot comment on the first part. On the other hand, your input on *** later in life is somewhat not accurate.

Menopause usually hits women at the age of 50, rare cases that it hits them earlier, but more likely than not to have it after 50. Sure one of its consequences IS lower sexual drive, but that's it, LOWER, not no sexual drive at all, and even if that occurs, there are pills to sort the matter. *** does not stop till a certain age. I tend to like to hang out with grandma's supposedly sweet religious friends, until you hear them talk about ***, IN FRONT OF ME, and they're in their 60s WTH

Perhaps it's the 'virility' of a race against another that determines it. Anyway ~

As for the bolded part at first, Yeh I agree *** has its merits in forming bonds.

 

[OhReary]

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Emotional Connection, yes

 

[Simplified]

cyber love? every man behind his screen only thinks of ***

LOL this.

 

[Naruto loves Hinata]

hmmmmm i have read this whole thread so far and u all have WONDERFUL opinions i like them all if u dont like cyber love then thats ok ^_^ but if u do like cyber love then thats ok to its all your own opinoin and everyone in this whole world is entitled to their own opinions because that is what makes every 1 o different/unique hmmmmmm but ill admit this right now to every 1 im actually in a cyber relationship/cyber love lol yeah yeah i know i can possibly get bashed/flamed but i truly dont care its all about what makes u happy lol and i told myself that i would never cyber date/love someone who i have never met b4 plus i wasnt even looking 4 a girl friend inr and in cyber world but one day i was playing on my xbox 360 and i was playing a naruto game and well this girl was playing the same game and she sent me a friend request i excepted well we talked/got to know eachother and it turns out we have almost EVERYTHING in common with eachother i mean we both like naruto/anime we like the same kind of music/we like video games/we like to just talk for hours and we have told eachother all of our secrets she is my best friend and (lol yeah i have lots of friends inr/i have best friends too but she is my best friend ever ) and yes i also love her and if all love is just some emotions then i have great/strong emotions 4 her as she does 4 me and dont even say she'll cheat on me cuz well none of u guys know her/her past like i do and im 1000000 % sure she would never cheat on me/i would never even think of cheating on her know matter what .... and some of u guys say that its pointless if u never meet the person... well for ur information we actually plan on meeting/seeing eachother soon and we are going to start our relationship inr and we have such a great mental connection/love 4 eachother .... like what some of u guys say i totally 100% agree with u guys yeah its lacking the physical/touching/feeling eachother and im a guy and i really want to touch my loved one but all u seriously have to do is just wait alittle bit 4 eachother then u can get as much physical as u both desire ^_^ and make ur physical memories together and not only would u be mentally connected to eachother but then add the physical contact and walla u have it perfectly made now some of u guys can have a different point of view on this and its totally fine/ok with me i dont mind cuz its your opinion

 

[Daki Kibe]

Internet dating isn't wrong in principle, but it's just sad. Knowing that you're miles apart, you will most likely never meet in real life, and essentially your relationship is nothing more than buried VMs and forgotten MSN chat logs... I'm not against it, but it's just too sad.

 

[Ngylle]

Cyber Relationship are Destined to Fail.
A relationship without any kind of physical contact will fade away, i have seen people changes and passby the next relationship in the net faster than in real live, you mighty find inlove or happy with that person but after sometime things will not be the same and will start to decay rather by a new person in the net or by a someone met in real live.

Real Cyber Love is Rare like 1-5% changes of staying true to their love and one day in life meet and pass to the next step.

By experience, cyber love without meeting each other in real life, it does not matter how much you thought/ felt love that person, thing will fall apart and the worst case scenario will occur, you will feel sad and useless as hell.

But it works if you at least see that person and have some kind of physical contact.

 

[Yerrina]

hmmmmm i have read this whole thread so far and u all have WONDERFUL opinions i like them all if u dont like cyber love then thats ok ^_^ but if u do like cyber love then thats ok to its all your own opinoin and everyone in this whole world is entitled to their own opinions because that is what makes every 1 o different/unique hmmmmmm but ill admit this right now to every 1 im actually in a cyber relationship/cyber love lol yeah yeah i know i can possibly get bashed/flamed but i truly dont care its all about what makes u happy lol and i told myself that i would never cyber date/love someone who i have never met b4 plus i wasnt even looking 4 a girl friend inr and in cyber world but one day i was playing on my xbox 360 and i was playing a naruto game and well this girl was playing the same game and she sent me a friend request i excepted well we talked/got to know eachother and it turns out we have almost EVERYTHING in common with eachother i mean we both like naruto/anime we like the same kind of music/we like video games/we like to just talk for hours and we have told eachother all of our secrets she is my best friend and (lol yeah i have lots of friends inr/i have best friends too but she is my best friend ever ) and yes i also love her and if all love is just some emotions then i have great/strong emotions 4 her as she does 4 me and dont even say she'll cheat on me cuz well none of u guys know her/her past like i do and im 1000000 % sure she would never cheat on me/i would never even think of cheating on her know matter what .... and some of u guys say that its pointless if u never meet the person... well for ur information we actually plan on meeting/seeing eachother soon and we are going to start our relationship inr and we have such a great mental connection/love 4 eachother .... like what some of u guys say i totally 100% agree with u guys yeah its lacking the physical/touching/feeling eachother and im a guy and i really want to touch my loved one but all u seriously have to do is just wait alittle bit 4 eachother then u can get as much physical as u both desire ^_^ and make ur physical memories together and not only would u be mentally connected to eachother but then add the physical contact and walla u have it perfectly made now some of u guys can have a different point of view on this and its totally fine/ok with me i dont mind cuz its your opinion

What a generous use of s and s ~ All I can say is good luck ~

 

[Naruto loves Hinata]

What a generous use of s and s ~ All I can say is good luck ~

well why thank u 4 wishing us luck i dont know if ur in a relationship or not but i also wish u very good luck as well/i hope u have a wonderful life with ur loved one

 

[Zlad]

Can't see nothing wrong if you gona meet the person or live with the person, but if it's just for cyber s*x, so no.

 

[8thHokage]

i need too be able too see a person in order to feel a real romantic connection.. gotta be able too look into their eyes, without that, love is impossible ..

 

[Tali Zorah]

I've been in an online relationship and it lasted for 19 months - though it wasn't solely online for that amount of time.

We met on Tumblr, got to know whatever we could about eachother, Skype'd and webcam'd as often as we could and I flew to her country during breaks from college and work /vice versa (if I or her had the money that is). I live in England and she lives Cali.

We 'broke up' for reasons I'd like to keep to myself, but we still keep in contact.

Online relationships/distant relationships are hard. Really, really hard - that's undisputable imo. They can work though, and I'm all for people finding love online as long as they're sensible and understand that distance will be an issue.

 

[kourosh]

not at all, you can have good friends on net but i don't think that net is good place for making relationship :shrug: