[Discussion] Does your perfect mach really exist?

[Necron]

Well, first of all, this thread is addresed to people that have some experiance in the domain of relationships, so if you're still new in the datting-thing or something, please hold yourself from posting...

So, do you belive there is a perfect mach for you out there? Do you belive in the "other half" or "soulmate" theory?

For example, my case: I am curently with a girl, but we are more like what you'd call "friends with benefits", than a couple...

Now, there is this other girl, who is a friend of mine, that I see I have literally everything in common with... This made me have some feelings for her...

About a week ago, I was about to break up with the girl I'm with, to confess to the other girl... But sudently, something occured to me: What if all this was just an act? What if she said exactly what I wanted to hear? Isn't it a bit too strange to randomlly meet a person who likes everything you like, AND be physically attracted to her? It wouldn't be hard to learn what I like, I'm quite popular in my city...

What if her real interests/personality is something totally different from what I think it is?

So, do you think there is such a thing as a perfect mach for you, or not? You could add some (personal) experiance or third's experiance if you'd like...

 

[omgwthisgoingon]

I think there is such a thing as a perfect match (mine certainly isn't the one I'm dating right now, similar to you).

A relationship wouldn't even be as fun if you had everything in common, part of a relationship is exploring each others likes/dislikes. So I have to say your perfect match wouldn't have everything in common with you in the first place.

 

[izinagi54]

real attraction is not skin deep it is what lyes in the soul of the men or women that makes them attracted turly to eachother im 16yr old and a guy that is my belief

 

[|KirA|]

nope there is nothing like a perfect match, cos people change with time and if it is perfect now, it will certainly not be perfect after some time

 

[Nocturnus]

Sorry I can't resist... come on chim chim let's fire up the Mach 6

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[Cassiopeia]

Now, there is this other girl, who is a friend of mine, that I see I have literally everything in common with... This made me have some feelings for her...

About a week ago, I was about to break up with the girl I'm with, to confess to the other girl... But suddenly, something occurred to me: What if all this was just an act? What if she said exactly what I wanted to hear? Isn't it a bit strange to randomly meet a person who likes everything you like, AND be physically attracted to her? It wouldn't be hard to learn what I like, I'm quite popular in my city...

What if her real interests/personality is something totally different from what I think it is?

So, do you think there is such a thing as a perfect mach for you, or not? You could add some (personal) experiance or third's experiance if you'd like...

I do think you are thinking about this too much.
I wouldn't know about how well you are known in your area, but I think it would be really hard for her to have done that much research & be that good of an actress. She could pull it off somewhat, but not perfectly. And, as another member said, It wouldn't be that great to have everything in common with a partner/girlfriend.
I find that some people don't like being around people who are very similar to themselves. I have observed this several times.
If you don't care for the first girl that much, you could choose to give this other one a try.
The only worry, in my view, is if you truly value this girl's friendship (and it sounds like you do); well, that is always a risk. And many, many people have been down this road before. There is no magic answer to that one. I would say, that there may come a moment when you are together alone & are being very candid with each other and maybe you could ask her if something like that would be out of the question for her, or if she thinks it could happen one day.
I hope I was clear & provided you with some good thoughts.

 

[Necron]

I think there is such a thing as a perfect match (mine certainly isn't the one I'm dating right now, similar to you).

A relationship wouldn't even be as fun if you had everything in common, part of a relationship is exploring each others likes/dislikes. So I have to say your perfect match wouldn't have everything in common with you in the first place.

Thnanks for sharing... Still, I can't help but have emotions for that girl. Maybe everyone's standars for a perfect mach are differens, who knows? I mean, I agree that 2 people that have nothing in common can have a prety passionate relationship (I've had that before), but for me it's nothing more than *** in that case... U_U

real attraction is not skin deep it is what lyes in the soul of the men or women that makes them attracted turly to eachother im 16yr old and a guy that is my belief

Hmmm... could you elaborate more on the subject, give some example etc? I didn't quite get what you meant...

nope there is nothing like a perfect match, cos people change with time and if it is perfect now, it will certainly not be perfect after some time

Well, it's sure people change, but don't you have hope that both parteners could change into something they'd still like? Change doesn't always have to be a bad thing...

Sorry I can't resist... come on chim chim let's fire up the Mach 6

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and, finally: What is this sh1t? oO :shrug: xd
spaming, or do you imply something?

...oh, I get it now.... -_- Yeah, I guess I misspelled it, haha

 

[Nocturnus]

Thnanks for sharing... Still, I can't help but have emotions for that girl. Maybe everyone's standars for a perfect mach are differens, who knows? I mean, I agree that 2 people that have nothing in common can have a prety passionate relationship (I've had that before), but for me it's nothing more than *** in that case... U_U

Hmmm... could you elaborate more on the subject, give some example etc? I didn't quite get what you meant...

Well, it's sure people change, but don't you have hope that both parteners could change into something they'd still like? Change doesn't always have to be a bad thing...

and, finally: What is this sh1t? oO :shrug: xd
spaming, or do you imply something?

I was trying to say you misspelled match wrong >_>

 

[Necron]

I do think you are thinking about this too much.
I wouldn't know about how well you are known in your area, but I think it would be really hard for her to have done that much research & be that good of an actress. She could pull it off somewhat, but not perfectly. And, as another member said, It wouldn't be that great to have everything in common with a partner/girlfriend.
I find that some people don't like being around people who are very similar to themselves. I have observed this several times.
If you don't care for the first girl that much, you could choose to give this other one a try.
The only worry, in my view, is if you truly value this girl's friendship (and it sounds like you do); well, that is always a risk. And many, many people have been down this road before. There is no magic answer to that one. I would say, that there may come a moment when you are together alone & are being very candid with each other and maybe you could ask her if something like that would be out of the question for her, or if she thinks it could happen one day.
I hope I was clear & provided you with some good thoughts.

Thank you, you indeed were helpfull...

I know most people think that when 2 people are too simular, a relationship could be dull, but I don't really share that oppinion... I've had a similar relationship in the past, and the only thing that broke us appart was disstance (We saw each other only a few weeks every 4 months...)

Now, about the friendship part: Yeah, I was thinking about it too, but I can't help but see her as something more than just a friend... I know I will confess to her eventually, I just don't know if now is the right time, since I spend 8 months a year in an other country (studying abroad)... If something was to happen, I want everything to be perfect, since it's the first time I have such strong feelings for someone... On the other hand, I'm afraid of the possibility of her having a relationship with someone else, and that it would be a long term one...

Well, best thing is to just follow my heart, but I'm leaving in some days anyway...

still, thank you for your advice! ^^