General thoughts on what we want & what we have.

[lswhyte123]

Simple really. We scarcely have what we want or want what we have. I was just thinking that we live in a funny world and we're funny people.

I'll use myself as an example:

Having lived an 'interesting' life to say the least, I find myself liking things certain ways. I've always liked being alone & single....think House M.D
But for the last almost 3 years,I've been in a relationship(which I am happy with btw) but I do find myself wanting that melodramatic lonely lifestyle on regular occasions.

So I wanted to ask of the many NB members,who else finds themselves feeling this way? Wanting the things they know don't lead to being happy....

Feel free to share thoughts freely....

I would say I feel that Happiness is just a little too cliche,and I'd rather be miserable knowing it was at least true...(don't mean it to sound so dark,but you get the point)

 

[ackeem1992]

i feel this way sometimes, but i don't normally feel that wanting of loneliness for long phases.

 

[lswhyte123]

i feel this way sometimes, but i don't normally feel that wanting of loneliness for long phases.

It's more the odd satisfaction that comes with knowing or rather living the reality of not wanting or needing anyone.
It's a strange sensation but I think it may apply more stronly to men than to women too.

It doesn't tend to stay in my mind for extended periods of time but it does pop into my head on occasion. I always think,how cool it would be to have everything in my life exactly how I want it.

 

[Luminousi]

Meh. I guess.

 

[99minutes]

+rep, lswhyte. Very nice
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What we want is never simple.
We move among the things we thought we wanted:
a face, a room, an open book
and these things bear our names — now they want us.
But what we want appears in dreams, wearing disguises.
We fall past, holding out our arms
and in the morning our arms ache.
We don't remember the dream, but the dream remembers us.
It is there all day as an animal is there
under the table, as the stars are there
even in full sun.

 

[mcchikeneater]

I like being alone honestly. If I could spend my entire life without leaving my house and have everything I needed, I wouldn't hesitate to do it. If I won the lottery, besides hookers and butlers I would never see another human up close again.

 

[~Yubel~]

+rep and i get that feeling on rare occasions, before i used to want to be by myself alot, it does avoid drama and it is a very good thing but it also avoid lots of fun, never waste your life thinking you want to get away especially when good things are going on in your life it may seem like a fun thought to entertain and getting space is a good thing but you will waste damn good opportunities because of it, think about what you have and never get deep about things.

 

[lswhyte123]

+rep, lswhyte. Very nice
_____________________

What we want is never simple.
We move among the things we thought we wanted:
a face, a room, an open book
and these things bear our names — now they want us.
But what we want appears in dreams, wearing disguises.
We fall past, holding out our arms
and in the morning our arms ache.
We don't remember the dream, but the dream remembers us.
It is there all day as an animal is there
under the table, as the stars are there
even in full sun.

Nice & thank you.

I like being alone honestly. If I could spend my entire life without leaving my house and have everything I needed, I wouldn't hesitate to do it. If I won the lottery, besides hookers and butlers I would never see another human up close again.

You're awesome. Nothing wrong with liking your own company and if it makes you happy,then I wish you all the hookers in the world friend.

+rep and i get that feeling on rare occasions, before i used to want to be by myself alot, it does avoid drama and it is a very good thing but it also avoid lots of fun, never waste your life thinking you want to get away especially when good things are going on in your life it may seem like a fun thought to entertain and getting space is a good thing but you will waste damn good opportunities because of it, think about what you have and never get deep about things.

Thank you.

Don't worry,I know that living life is a good thing and that enjoying life is even better. But sometimes the good things in life just feel like cliche's.

 

[-Jiraiya-]

^^ I feel that sometimes. And it helps me to think about myself. Like what a person I am, what have I done, etc...

 

[zabuzamistboy]

I feel the same way at times. I think that we do this not to
hide from the good things in life but the painful things. And
to seclude yourself from society is the easiest way to stay or
at least feel safe.

 

[lswhyte123]

^^ I feel that sometimes. And it helps me to think about myself. Like what a person I am, what have I done, etc...

I think it's normal. People have to have time alone and time to think to themselves.

I feel the same way at times. I think that we do this not to
hide from the good things in life but the painful things. And
to seclude yourself from society is the easiest way to stay or
at least feel safe.

Agree.

That said I am more talking about the want to sometimes be the miserable lonely person. Wanting misery, I think is normal and some of us just feel that way at times.
I'd have days where I think that this happy life is just so stupid and cliche. It's interesting because I think part of it is that I'm young. I feel like I shouldn't have things sorted out yet and certainly shouldn't be done with the stupid things.
But it's hard to describe. Like there is some satisfaction to be gained from being the person who gets invited to a party but chooses not to go and instead sits home alone and drinks and makes their own fun..or lack thereof.

Humans are interesting creatures.