Why Some People Take It Personally To Themselves If You Don't Remember Them?

[ArabianLuffy]

Whether classmates, workmates or neighbors, it depends on how much time I've spent with them. I meet some old friends of my college by coincidence, some of them I forgot their names after long years. Same happens with workmates who during a whole year I barely sit with them a couple of minutes.

Those who I forget their names, they kinda take it personal to themselves and they feel being less important to you or what is the phrase. The point is, they get disappointed, unhappy. Why?

How you deal with this kind of situation?

 

[Dreckerplayer]

Whether classmates, workmates or neighbors, it depends on how much time I've spent with them. I meet some old friends of my college by coincidence, some of them I forgot their names after long years. Same happens with workmates who during a whole year I barely sit with them a couple of minutes.

This is a case of "Who do you think you are?!!Pretending like you didn't remember my name!!!"

Those who I forget their names, they kinda take it personal to themselves and they feel being less important to you or what is the phrase. The point is, they get disappointed, unhappy. Why?

Does it make you feel special or "cute" that you forget people's names?Does it make you feel DESIRED because people come to you and get angry at the fact that you don't remember their names?

How you deal with this kind of situation?

Lmao, you don't!

Anyways, there's always two sides to one story. Either you're pretending to not know their names, or they just feel so ENTITLED about people needing to remember their names.

Which still is weird...people forget names, all the time, especially if that person was of no importance to you. Out of respect, you at least remember the name of someone who's spent a lot of time around you and have taken the time to TELL you their names.

Or a story of them thinking "You think you're too good" and you thinking "You're acting like you knew me"...maybe.

Anyways, like i said, there's two sides to this story.

 

[Sagebee]

There's things that are reasonable for people to be sensitive over and we should respect that but there's things you can't control and if a person gets angry it is what it is

There was this one guy I was talking to for a year in college and went the whole tear not remembering their name I fessed up later on

 

[Fountain]

I don't think there's anything you can do about it. It just is what it is. You could say "I'm sorry" i guess idk.

 

[Dreckerplayer]

There's things that are reasonable for people to be sensitive over and we should respect that but there's things you can't control and if a person gets angry it is what it is

There was this one guy I was talking to for a year in college and went the whole tear not remembering their name I fessed up later on

Lmao, you make it sound like a girl/boy thing.

I wouldn't brag about not remembering someone's name that you use to talk for a year. That says something about you.You have a lack of consideration/respect when it comes to people and their boundaries...you might be incredibly self-absorbed and oblivious to what's going on around you.

I would never speak to someone, who can't recognize or remember my name. I'm unforgettable and like no other. You fail to remember my name after being homies for a year, everything will be crystal clear...you were just using me as some kind of "prop"...or materialistic purpose. So disorderly.

 

[The Great Second Hokage]

Its human nature to want to amount to something....people remember me because I put the effort in to make an impression simple as that.

 

[Dreckerplayer]

Its human nature to want to amount to something....people remember me because I put the effort in to make an impression simple as that.

I remember making an impression, by doing absolutely nothing.

"Human nature", don't you think you're enslaving yourself to your ego by saying that.There's no limits.

"Human nature"...or just something "common".

 

[The Great Second Hokage]

"Human nature"...or just something "common".

Whats more common than something everybody has....human nature. I don't enslave myself to my ego more than I do to my hunger that drives me to eat the food I eat. Free will is an illusion, we want to be remembered simply because we know for the most part that anything we do is fodder and we won't be remembered at all.

 

[Dreckerplayer]

Whats more common than something everybody has....human nature. I don't enslave myself to my ego more than I do to my hunger that drives me to eat the food I eat. Free will is an illusion, we want to be remembered simply because we know for the most part that anything we do is fodder and we won't be remembered at all.

If that's how you feel, then that's how you feel.

I just don't use "human nature" as an excuse. I think for myself.

Something "common" due to "cause & effect"...

And when you say "amount to something", what are you really trying to say?Do you need the approval of others to be someone? What are you trying to prove?

Don't get me wrong, everyone requires acknowledgement....cause they exist. You just feel "disconnected" when you don't.

And there's nothing wrong with a genuine connection or a conversation. These things matter.However, when you make it about "amounting to something" it sounds like something else...something that isn't necessary.

 

[Kenotthib]

I'd say they think they're more important than they are.

 

[HENI]

Human beings are the egocentric. They'll take everything personally if it hurts their ego.

 

[Dreckerplayer]

Human beings are the egocentric. They'll take everything personally if it hurts their ego.

Yeah.

 

[ArabianLuffy]

This is a case of "Who do you think you are? Pretending like you didn't remember my name!"

OK, I need to confirm that. You think I pretend not remembering their names?

 

[Uverdore9]

They feel unimportant.

 

[ArabianLuffy]

They feel unimportant.

Non of my workmates I consider unimportant to me. It's just that certain friend he and I know each other by names, but we never sit in the same office during breaks and have chit-chat. I teach. He works in office, something in administration. I remember he and I talked about cars.

However, this year I went back to my school that I work for, and he visited our school for some papers to deliver to the Principal and he saw me (Hasan is my name).

???:​	How you doin, Hasan
Hasan:​	Oh! Hey, man! How you doin? Good to see you here.
???:​	Do you remember me? You must be registered for see images
Hasan:​	Aaaa~! I forgot your name. You must be registered for see images
???:​	OK. See ya later. You must be registered for see images

 

[Dreckerplayer]

ok, i need to confirm that. You think i pretend not remembering their names?

well,do you pretend to not remember their names?

 

[ArabianLuffy]

well,do you pretend to not remember their names?

No, I don't. I don't forget faces, but I don't remember names, because I never spent time with certain people whether they're from my tribe or workmates.

 

[Dreckerplayer]

No, I don't. I don't forget faces, but I don't remember names, because I never spent time with certain people whether they're from my tribe or workmates.

That's nothing to brag about. There's no reason to make a big deal out of not remembering a "pretty much" strangers name, just as it's not a big deal for someone to take it personally that someone you barely even speak with doesn't remember your name.

I just don't get your situation.It's a thing of common sense.It just doesn't make sense that someone is taking it personally that you, some random coworker they barely even communicate with, doesn't remember their name. I've never heard of that, somethings just not adding up.

I hope you aren't the oblivious, inconsiderate type.It's as if they're telling you that you should KNOW their name by now.Something's strange. It honestly sounds like they feel like you're ACTING like you don't remember their name, or not even trying...as if your "too good to remember" other people's names.

 

[ArabianLuffy]

That's nothing to brag about. There's no reason to make a big deal out of not remembering a "pretty much" strangers name, just as it's not a big deal for someone to take it personally that someone you barely even speak with doesn't remember your name.

I just don't get your situation.It's a thing of common sense.It just doesn't make sense that someone is taking it personally that you, some random coworker they barely even communicate with, doesn't remember their name. I've never heard of that, somethings just not adding up.

I hope you aren't the oblivious, inconsiderate type.It's as if they're telling you that you should KNOW their name by now.Something's strange. It honestly sounds like they feel like you're ACTING like you don't remember their name, or not even trying...as if your "too good to remember" other people's names.

There is nothing to brag about here. However, the problem isn't me, it's the expression someone make as if he is disappointed just because I forgot his name. It happens a lot with me about people I forgot their names. It may sounds unreasonable to you, but it actually happening.

 

[Jazzy Stardust]

i have a great memory regarding people and events, its a blessing and a curse. but it use to cause awkward scenarios when i was younger. like i would remember a lot about someone and if they would forget my name. it would make me feel like theres no point in trying to get to know someone or sharing things about yourself if theyll just end up forgetting, which for a while made me less open of a person and less caring about others

so then i started with people i clearly remember but havent seen in a long time, to pretend like i dont know so much about them or their name till they seem to remember me, would save my feels. it use to really bother me if someone couldnt even remember my name and i remember so much about them..but as i got older i realized that its not like im trying extra hard to remember them its just how my brain works and i cant be mad at someone for not being like me

ironically in this part of my life people rarely forget me and even though i see a lot of random people, i dont really have enough interaction with them for my brain to store info to that face. and the people i do interact with i also remember them, so its nice