Maybe if sasuke got that same genjutsu treatment then maybe he too would be more loving

no, he wouldn't need it because he was actually aware that Sakura liked and cared for him unlike NH. that alone is why it's easier to digest to Defend SS over NH. that's not a small technicality, that is MASSIVE technicality.
Not really, Sasuke is already aware Sakura "loves" him yet still doesn't care. Naruto didn't understand Hinata loved him romantically.
You call Naruto figuring out Hinata loves him from Genjutsu a big thing despite him not understanding romance, yet ignore everything else the relationship has while also ignoring every bad thing about SS.
Again, I ask, how is it easier to digest an off-paneled bond that has a decade-long separation, where neither understand each other emotionally, where one side cares only for looks, where the other leaves at the drop of a hat and never shows romantic affection, not even willing to kiss his wife, where they've tried to murder and mentally torture and black mail one another VS a bond that got a whole movie, where they grew close together and fell in love, a bond that we saw go dates, support each other emotionally multiple times when the other was down, a bond where they can understand and feel each other without any outward communication
Kishimoto has even said their hearts are connected and that the two were meant to be while he called SS contrived and refused to show it because of how OOC it would be.
My brain is starting to hurt from the stupidity of the SS fans like you. Geez...
Small strain? lmfao, no no. no matter wtf that jvenom moron or indra say, the fact remains naruto failed to spend time with his family locally
Family photos prove you wrong, Himawari's birthday proves you wrong, Post-Momoshiki family time proves you wrong, and Naruto and Hiashi watching Bolt fight Hanabi will soon prove you wrong again.
which implies he would've been just as bad as sasuke if he had left the village
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Where is this assumption coming from when, unlike Sasuke, we actually see Naruto treat his family like... you know... his family?