[Discussion] One word texts -

[PlatinumTitan]

What's the best way to reply to one word responses?

Reason as to why I'm asking this question:

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My girlfriend does this very often. In spite of my best efforts to keep the conversation going, nothing. She does this when she's upset about something. Knowing what's upsetting her doesn't help because she's reluctant to solve any problem that requires effort, because,"I shouldn't expect that from her." I told her how one words texts make me feel, and she doesn't care. So, does anyone know of any good ways to fix this problem? Or is there just no reason to continue putting in my efforts? I do love her, but my feelings matter little to her most of the time.

 

[Madara the Solo King]

What's the best way to reply to one word responses?

Reason as to why I'm asking this question:

Spoiler

My girlfriend does this very often. In spite of my best efforts to keep the conversation going, nothing. She does this when she's upset about something. Knowing what's upsetting her doesn't help because she's reluctant to solve any problem that requires effort, because,"I shouldn't expect that from her." I told her how one words texts make me feel, and she doesn't care. So, does anyone know of any good ways to fix this problem? Or is there just no reason to continue putting in my efforts? I do love her, but my feelings matter little to her most of the time.

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Sorry if it a two word reply.

 

[Naruto X Hunter]

Smack her butt.

 

[Complex]

Kill.

 

[Pumpkin Ninja]

I don't think you should let it bother you too much, tbh although I understand how it can hurt your feelings.

Your girl sounds a bit insensitive and I don't think there is anything you can do to change that other than make sure she isn't upset.

So you can stop letting it get to you and accept who she is or dump her if it really bothers you. Yeah, sorry.

 

[Bluelightning]

If she cares little about your feelings i would tell you to stop putting effort in talking to her for a while and if she doesnt try talking to you is because she doesnt care at all and you should let her go

 

[PlatinumTitan]

Smack her butt.

Spankin's are for the bedroom. Not a forum.

I don't think you should let it bother you too much, tbh although I understand how it can hurt your feelings.

Your girl sounds a bit insensitive and I don't think there is anything you can do to change that other than make sure she isn't upset.

So you can stop letting it get to you and accept who she is or dump her if it really bothers you. Yeah, sorry.

I've been thinking about leaving for a while. This seems to be one of those things that should have never been attempted. But you know, love can be terrible.

If she cares little about your feelings i would tell you to stop putting effort in talking to her for a while and if she doesnt try talking to you is because she doesnt care at all and you should let her go

If I stop putting in effort, that's when she gives in entirely, so I might just let her go.
It's been 8 long months of :sakura: shit. EDIT: Sakura to Naruto, not Sakura to Sasuke.

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Sorry if it a two word reply.

That's one word better!

 

[NineSNS]

How to handle a single conversation when she does it - after two or three responses from her like that, stop trying to communicate, since you're only making yourself feel worse and possibly irritating her

How to handle it long-term - it depends on how important it is that she cares how you feel. If it's important to you and it doesn't change, you should let her go

 

[Jazzy Stardust]

Just let her be herself, it shouldn't bother you. If she doesn't want to talk stop responding and find something else to do.

The problem in every relationship is when you try to change your partner instead of excepting them.

 

[00Rinne]

Just text back!!

BET

 

[PlatinumTitan]

Just let her be herself, it shouldn't bother you. If she doesn't want to talk stop responding and find something else to do.

The problem in every relationship is when you try to change your partner instead of excepting them.

It's not a 'change' kind of thing. I'm not asking her to change a massive part of her personality. I'm asking her to stop a specific behavior. She says sometimes,"I don't know what to say." I told her to at least tell me that. That way, I can do something to help the conversation continue. I accept her, and all of her flaws. I love her personality. But the way she goes about things is very hurtful.

 

[Young Vongola]

The real question is why are you with someone who doesn't care how you feel?

 

[XxxBeastxxX]

Smack her butt.

Kill.

I'm done XD

The real question is why are you with someone who doesn't care how you feel?

^

 

[Andy Bogard]

she's not worth it. She's not even your GF at this point, dude. Probably talking to another person. If you can, just hit it and quit it one time. Jizz on her face too and walk right out the house. I'll give you a rep if you link the vid in my inbox. JK lmao

 

[Jazzy Stardust]

It's not a 'change' kind of thing. I'm not asking her to change a massive part of her personality. I'm asking her to stop a specific behavior. She says sometimes,"I don't know what to say." I told her to at least tell me that. That way, I can do something to help the conversation continue. I accept her, and all of her flaws. I love her personality. But the way she goes about things is very hurtful.

She already told you she doesn't know what to say sometimes, just accept it. You can't force her to talk and you're only annoying yourself by letting it get to you like that.

If you want a more sociable chick find another one. If you don't want to find another one you have to solve this because it's really your personal problem more than hers. She's just being herself.

 

[PlatinumTitan]

She already told you she doesn't know what to say sometimes, just accept it. You can't force her to talk and you're only annoying yourself by letting it get to you like that.

If you want a more sociable chick find another one. If you don't want to find another one you have to solve this because it's really your personal problem more than hers. She's just being herself.

No she's not. You're not understanding it. She can simply say,"I don't know what to say." But she picks the option that knows hurts me.
What does that tell you?

 

[PlatinumTitan]

The real question is why are you with someone who doesn't care how you feel?

That's a good one...um...she's the most loyal person I've ever met. She's the first person I've ever been able to know that she loves me and wouldn't cheat on me. Everyone else it seems like a guessing game.
But...she doesn't trust me. She has my facebook password, and goes through my messages regularly.
Maybe I shouldn't stay, but I'm afraid I'll never find someone I can trust again.

 

[Young Vongola]

That's a good one...um...she's the most loyal person I've ever met. She's the first person I've ever been able to know that she loves me and wouldn't cheat on me. Everyone else it seems like a guessing game.
But...she doesn't trust me. She has my facebook password, and goes through my messages regularly.
Maybe I shouldn't stay, but I'm afraid I'll never find someone I can trust again.

You may just have to take that risk.

Many relationships don't work out, but what's the benefit of being with someone who doesn't care about your feelings even if they're "loyal" in the relationship? After a while you'll just be putting up with each other until one of you finally decides to break it off anyway. It's not an easy thing to do at all, but if you can't work things out then breaking up is the best option in the long term, at least that's how I see it.

 

[Jazzy Stardust]

No she's not. You're not understanding it. She can simply say,"I don't know what to say." But she picks the option that knows hurts me.
What does that tell you?

Do you really need her to say that every single time, when you know why already? Like come on, you're getting mad because she's not obeying you basically.

This really shouldn't make you mad. I could see if you had no clue as to why she's doing it, but you do. If you really do love her you'd get over it.

All women have something to say, maybe you should talk about things she's interested in more if you just want her to talk.

 

[Pumpkin Ninja]

That's a good one...um...she's the most loyal person I've ever met. She's the first person I've ever been able to know that she loves me and wouldn't cheat on me. Everyone else it seems like a guessing game.
But...she doesn't trust me. She has my facebook password, and goes through my messages regularly.
Maybe I shouldn't stay, but I'm afraid I'll never find someone I can trust again.

Do you love her?

How about talking to her in real life more often instead so you won't get hurt as much when she replies with "K".