[Discussion] "Man up" ? Nah

[Wretched]

Okay let's start with the fact that i am not a normal teen , got it ? K lets start

Okay so i am 17 years old , i am not really sure of my sexuality might be straight might be bi i really don't know.

I am like gentle and i like cute stuff and things that make me different than the people around me such as music taste , hair and the most important thing .. Personality really i am wierd in more than one way and i know it...
I often act in a "child-ish" or "cute" manner that leads to people always telling me to "man up" !

Like really i have a big picture of cute kittens next to my bed and my bed sheets are chibi marvel characters and i say "meow" more than a cat would ever say..you get the point.

I mean a man is not someone who is serious all the time and can't laugh or be chill , a man is someone who know's how to act in hard situations .. At least that is what a "man" means to me !

Despite hearing "man up" from alot of people i wont really change myself i can't just say i want to stop liking this and that and change myself for others .. I know i sound like a wimp or something but i am fit and have muscles and can stand up for myself .. When needed only..oh and i have friends that totally accept me the way i am.

Next time think before you tell someone "man up" , how ridiclous would it sound if someone told you become softer or shave your beard ? Exactly that's how i feel

What do you think ? When someone tells me to man up i reply with something rude but how would you handle the situation if you were in my shoes ?

 

[-immortal-]

If you get offended by little stuff like this you should probably men up.

 

[Joon]

Kittens tho. Naw Man up. :|

 

[Multiply]

If you get offended by little stuff like this you should probably men up.

/Thread

 

[Wretched]

^ See what i am talking about ?

Not offended or anything i honestly don't even care what people think it just becomes annoying at some point

 

[suhieb]

Uuuummmmm....... yeah
He's on crack
No offend bro but stuff like this you should be able to solve it by your own not post it on the internet.
When I have situations like this I just remember the famous words "Sticks and stones may break my bones but your words can never hurt me".

 

[Wretched]

Uuuummmmm....... yeah
He's on crack
No offend bro but stuff like this you should be able to solve it by your own not post it on the internet.
When I have situations like this I just remember the famous words "Sticks and stones may break my bones but your words can never hurt me".

Umm i delievered the wrong idea with my post , i am not asking for help or anything like that and i can solve my own problems .. Just wanted discuss the subject , i talked about me but it's meant to everyone who gets that word , dont really want you to talk about me

 

[NaNaNaaaaa]

^ See what i am talking about ?

Not offended or anything i honestly don't even care what people think it just becomes annoying at some point

This isn't the forum for this kiddo.

My advice? Be yourself. Who are these people to tell you to change anyway. You don't have to be like them, its your life, not theirs, they will live their life how they want to, why shouldn't you, if they can't except you for who you are, they are not worth your time.

People who need you to be more like them, are usually very insecure about themselves so guard their sense of self with an iron rod, ignore them, don't let them change you, you don't need them, if you fit it, then you are a brick, don't be the brick, be the spot of paint on the brick

 

[GhostProject]

I'm not sure if you're coming here for advice, a story, or discussion, but this intrigues me and I'll post what I think. I'm going to assume a couple things, that these are not your close friends telling you to man up, you definitely exude this image you described to peers, and to some extent it affects you. If this is not true, then pay no mind to what a couple of dudes teased and the rest is irrelevant. If so, then prepare for a lengthy reply.

If people are telling you to man up, it probably has to do with dealing with situations and how you converse with others. You like cats and some feminine things, but if that's all you talk about, then other people won't understand you and tell you things like "man up."

Also, if you are overly feminine, people will tell you things like man up. It's because people like balanced individuals. There's a reason the titles "Bro" and "Basic *****" have taken on negative contexts. People just want something real they can connect to.

Of course, I'm not saying don't be yourself, but if you're overbearingly feminine it's going to affect how others view you and you need to be fine with that. I've been criticized at times that I'm overly arrogant/confident, emotionally distant, and I don't let others into my problems: All traits of the overly masculine person. But that doesn't define me as I've grown up, and I've been able to balance myself more. Of course, I also like Lana Del Rey, Tove Lo, Cats, Romantic Comedies, which usually catch people off guard, but as I've matured, that doesn't bother anybody else and it doesn't bother me, but those generally aren't my go to when connecting with others, they're just another layer.

One thing I can suggest that is an interesting experiment in self discovery, is instead of overbearing your personality or interests trying to get others to connect to you, try to connect to others. You may find other dimensions of yourself you didn't know existed, and other people will be more willing to see the more unique sides of you.

 

[Wretched]

I'm not sure if you're coming here for advice, a story, or discussion, but this intrigues me and I'll post what I think. I'm going to assume a couple things, that these are not your close friends telling you to man up, you definitely exude this image you described to peers, and to some extent it affects you. If this is not true, then pay no mind to what a couple of dudes teased and the rest is irrelevant. If so, then prepare for a lengthy reply.

If people are telling you to man up, it probably has to do with dealing with situations and how you converse with others. You like cats and some feminine things, but if that's all you talk about, then other people won't understand you and tell you things like "man up."

Also, if you are overly feminine, people will tell you things like man up. It's because people like balanced individuals. There's a reason the titles "Bro" and "Basic *****" have taken on negative contexts. People just want something real they can connect to.

Of course, I'm not saying don't be yourself, but if you're overbearingly feminine it's going to affect how others view you and you need to be fine with that. I've been criticized at times that I'm overly arrogant/confident, emotionally distant, and I don't let others into my problems: All traits of the overly masculine person. But that doesn't define me as I've grown up, and I've been able to balance myself more. Of course, I also like Lana Del Rey, Tove Lo, Cats, Romantic Comedies, which usually catch people off guard, but as I've matured, that doesn't bother anybody else and it doesn't bother me, but those generally aren't my go to when connecting with others, they're just another layer.

One thing I can suggest that is an interesting experiment in self discovery, is instead of overbearing your personality or interests trying to get others to connect to you, try to connect to others. You may find other dimensions of yourself you didn't know existed, and other people will be more willing to see the more unique sides of you.

I actually made the thread for discussion purpose on the term , not asking people to solve my problems.

I really appreciate this long thoughtful reply , nope those who tease me for it are not my close friends for my close friends for most of them are even wierder than me xD
I am not as feminine as you are imagining , i like lean to being feminine but i keep enough masculinty.
Infact sometimes i look over masculine i heared that some girls get scared of me , that just the outside anyways when we talk or something they start seeing me as "cute"...

 

[-Punk-]

I'm sorry for the people above.

While I think all the meow stuff and wat not is retarded, hey if you are like that you are not to change for anybody, you have people who accept you the way you are, are happy with it and if you know how to act in situations when "man up" is require its cool.

And we're all different, we all have a different side, I'm a guy who likes to go left if people go right and vise versa. Lord Suzuya be praise, animo!

 

[GhostProject]

I actually made the thread for discussion purpose on the term , not asking people to solve my problems.

I really appreciate this long thoughtful reply , nope those who tease me for it are not my close friends for my close friends for most of them are even wierder than me xD
I am not as feminine as you are imagining , i like lean to being feminine but i keep enough masculinty.
Infact sometimes i look over masculine i heared that some girls get scared of me , that just the outside anyways when we talk or something they start seeing me as "cute"...

Ah, well I made some assumptions as to what it sounded like from the OP. I suppose it's still good for the discussion anyways.

Pfft, these chicks like you then, and some dudes are just jealous if it's just a couple of people. Sounds like you got a handle on things. My best friend is a straight dude, kind of feminine/weird, random people hate him, and the chicks dig him all day, it happens.

You can like whatever you like. It's mostly the social interactions that screw people up (I advise not making meow jokes or w/e except with your close friends in private). Manning up in high school and college is different than real life lol

 

[Wretched]

Ah, well I made some assumptions as to what it sounded like from the OP. I suppose it's still good for the discussion anyways.

Pfft, these chicks like you then, and some dudes are just jealous if it's just a couple of people. Sounds like you got a handle on things. My best friend is a straight dude, kind of feminine/weird, random people hate him, and the chicks dig him all day, it happens.

You can like whatever you like. It's mostly the social interactions that screw people up (I advise not making meow jokes or w/e except with your close friends in private). Manning up in high school and college is different than real life lol

Haha of course i won't walk into a room full of guys smoking and say "meow" (we have such a room in the school for some reason) !

 

[ShishaMastah420]

You're either pitching or you're catching... LOL

Anyway, it sounds like whomever it is that is close to you, just wants to see you take things more seriously, with more of an masculine approach because nice guys finish last?

 

[Wretched]

You're either pitching or you're catching... LOL

Anyway, it sounds like whomever it is that is close to you, just wants to see you take things more seriously, with more of an masculine approach because nice guys finish last?

Nah they don't finish last , don't let that fool you.
And i am an ******* to anyone i don't like lmao
No one really close tells me that its just like mostly my classmate but hey , in less than a month i wont see most of them for the next 20 years lmao

 

[Power Bottom]

Man up is a stereotypical gender role which a man should have.

I hate gender roles. People chractericts shouldn't be based off of ***.

 

[Yubel]

If the people saying that stuff are a minority then don't bother. Actually take a moment to look how the person telling you to man up is doing. If you're better off than him then don't waste time listening to his advice. It'll only bring you down to his level. Then again, you don't want to display weak traits in a social settlng where people don't know who you are, it makes people lose respect. Keep your meow shit to your friends and people who would appreciate that sort of thing.

 

[Jazzy Stardust]

Being a man is something you define, if you're a male you'll be a man one day regardless unless you get a *** change.

When they say "man up" they mean don't show your weakness(which doesn't mean it's a bad thing). But because the world is tough, and people will take advantage of you it's just how it is.

Your a little curious but most women also look for that, but at your age none of you are men or women. Not trying to talk down in anyway but it's just not adulthood yet.

 

[YowYan]

Stopped reading after the second line.

You're not abnormal if you're gay or bi.

Just do you

 

[paratise]

People should stop giving way too much meanings to words that define traits which no need to give effort for ex. race or gender/*** words.

"Man up" is an inherently sexist word to begin with. Toughness is not defined by gender. Don't take people who use that term seriously. Do what you want there is no measurement for being a man if you tgink you are a man you are one.