My best friend tried to kill himself

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So I've been in the university today and noticed that he is missing. This was the very first time since we both started to study and he didn't contact me one the morning as usual either :eww:

After the todays lessons I got a call from his girlfriend,
She cried a lot and spoke unclearly but the words were understandable. "He jumped infront of a train". He survived but lost one arm and has amnesia, heck he asked why he is missing an arm and the police lacks the reason for his suicide move.

What I want to ask is.. Is it right to tell him the truth, saying he lost one arm by commiting suicide (even tho he survived). I mean whatever the reason was, he doesn't know it anymore so telling him that he tried to kill himself and that causing amnesia and -1 arm is kinda wrong in my eyes :|

Note: He is my best friend that is also why I am so angry that he never thought about talking with me about whatever caused this shit situation U_U
 

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thats sucks, why this on a anime site?
 

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thats sucks, why this on a anime site?

Why do we talk about shootings on an anime site?

Same reason. There's a section for it.

OT: Tell him. The world is a terrible place to prevent someone from knowing the truth, and this isn't a little white lie that gets forgotten the next week. Plus, he'd find out anyway.
 

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yes its totaly your fault , you need to pay for your sins before its too late ,without you the world would be a better place, go to the highest building in your city and jump off.....
 
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Ignore idiotic posts like Donnic's.

You should definitely tell him, but give him a little while. When did this happen?
 

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I actually think about killing myself all the time, but I realize this World needs me so I want to live but how the systems in it makes me want to die so my advice to you is too help your friend fine a new drive for living
 

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Holy shit, he lost an arm? Just wait to tell him mate.
 

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You can cut your arm off and then tell him that the 2 of you fought at Valley of the End and now it's peace in the world bcuz of that.
 

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if some1 it should be his family to tell him. just be a good friend to him. i think its the best that way. maybe once he has recovered a bit, you guys can approche him in that ay then. also people who do this kind of stuff usually have stuff like a diary etc. so his family should look and search his room, to find some stuff.... if there really isnt any evidence, it could also be he fell/was pushed on front of the train...
 

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Ignore idiotic posts like Donnic's.



You should definitely tell him, but give him a little while. When did this happen?

Today in the early morning, I was with him in the hospital but they asked me to go home since it was late :| And yeah I'll probably tell him the truth before he finds it out himself
 

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Yes this time of year is highest rate of suicide. All i can say is stay with him, show him that you understand, show him that you are there for him, show him that you care, show him that someone cares for him, not just for help but cares for him as a person regardless of what he has done or hasn't done, listen to him and don't judge, don't tell him what you would have done or how you would have handled it, don't tell him he is over reacting, or that it (whatever it is) isn't a problem, be active in his life, be concerned, be there for him.

Dont be angry with him, do you think its easy to tell your emotions, especially as a man, its much much harder to tell people how you feel, especially when your not even sure how you feel, you know your down, and you feel like the world is crashing, you feel like no matter what you do it doesn't get better, like nothing changes and everyone else is moving forward, you don't feel like you have accomplished anything, you don't feel like you matter, you feel like it would be better for everyone if you just weren't alive, you feel like nothing, you wish that you could just disappear, and you feel like that "that" is the way to stop the pain, to stop the hurt, to stop the feelings.

Trust me, I know what your friends going through, and what i told you to do is what i wanted someone to do for me, and what someone did do for me to help pull me through.

Let him know that it will get better.

(P.S. i didnt lose an arm but was standing on the edge and all i need was a push to send me over or a pull to bring me back)
 
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Instead of dwelling in the negative help impact his life now once he remembers what happened he'll have a new outlook on life and intake what he wants to become with this opportunity
 

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if some1 it should be his family to tell him. just be a good friend to him. i think its the best that way. maybe once he has recovered a bit, you guys can approche him in that ay then. also people who do this kind of stuff usually have stuff like a diary etc. so his family should look and search his room, to find some stuff.... if there really isnt any evidence, it could also be he fell/was pushed on front of the train...

I agree with this. Let his family/parents bring him back to reality. You just need to be a good, supporting friend that's there for him.

Also, if he's still suicidal, show him the first episode of Yu Yu Hakusho. :D The main character (my avatar) dies and is given the chance to be alive again. However, he feels as if he wouldn't be missed. He got to see how wrong he was. It's a really good reality check.
 
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I actually think about killing myself all the time, but I realize this World needs me so I want to live but how the systems in it makes me want to die so my advice to you is too help your friend fine a new drive for living
Dude no offense or something but thinking about suicide is just wrong.. I mean you would ruin the life of your parents, your siblings etc. :|
Holy shit, he lost an arm? Just wait to tell him mate.
Yeah, the train smashed his left arm right away
You can cut your arm off and then tell him that the 2 of you fought at Valley of the End and now it's peace in the world bcuz of that.
Even tho this is serious to me, you made laugh a little bit mate :3
if some1 it should be his family to tell him. just be a good friend to him. i think its the best that way. maybe once he has recovered a bit, you guys can approche him in that ay then. also people who do this kind of stuff usually have stuff like a diary etc. so his family should look and search his room, to find some stuff.... if there really isnt any evidence, it could also be he fell/was pushed on front of the train...
He has a mother left which is arrested :|
 

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Sorry to hear that man. But you have to be strong for him and tell him the truth. He needs to know. Him losing an arm was because of his decision to commit suicide and this was the consequence. He needs to understand that. Stay positive with him and tell him that everything that happened is in the past now and he has a fresh new start now. Tell him to take advantage of it. He has to come around himself but make for damn sure that you're not MIA when he needs you. I hope everything works out for you and him.

Life is precious, hold on to it with tenacity. Peace :win:
 

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I don't think you should do it this soon. Maybe like a while from now, but so soon you might throw him into a huge depression. I mean he can't even kill himself, that's too much right now.

----->IMO<----​

But you should definitely talk to the family about it before you just bust it out. Or the doctor.
 

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Tell him that he's Shanks ^^

Better than telling him he tried to kill himself.
 

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Don't tell him. It could upset him very much. Let him recover for awhile.
 

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Well, that's one hectic story..Where do people get the balls to jump in front of a train..No matter how miserable, I could never even give suicide a serious try
 
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