This post sickens me because I believe religions that have rules against marriage today (which are many racist, not purity orientated) are no better than your average rapist. Its just rape of the mind, and no catholics and mainstream christians do not have rules against marrying nonbelievers. Oh yeah, and you people that adhere to religious principles like those know who you are.
[Discussion] Religion ruining a relationship?
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I believe in a God (Catholic) , but I'm not overly religious where I pray every single day and attend Church on Sundays. With that being said, I don't think religion should stand between you and the person you love, that's just stupid in my opinion. I once dated a guy whom I actually fell in love with. However, I never knew his religion until he brought up the subject of breaking up. He had a lot of reasons why, and our religion incompatibility was one of them. Lol ok, I guess you didn't love me enough.
But then again, once you're married, think of which religion your children would follow.
But then again, once you're married, think of which religion your children would follow.
Manipulation of humanity is not that big an issue here. But if people think difference of religion is not going to affect a relationship ever then they are simply unaware of it's impact.
It may work if at least one of the partners doesn't think that much about it and will follow lead of another and converts or at least puts his/her own ideology on back burner. Let the kids be indoctrinated in one religion while being satisfied with only respect or neutrality towards own at best.
It would also depends how different the ideologies really are and if they are also affecting life styles or not.
Where do you live and how much affect the extended family or friends have on you.
There are always too many variable factors in such a situation. Disregarding it entirely is silly.
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It depends on the religion......
Religion does come between me and my gf. She's religious, Muslim actually and she's not even suppose to be dating me but like you said "If you legit love someone and you know and feel they're the one"..It's hard because I have to learn to love Islam and convert or I can't be with her. She loves her religion and there's nothing wrong with that but I've always been raised Catholic (Grandparents) but my mom's a Christian so I learned from both and while I'm not "religious" and prefer being agnostic, I do like Jesus and believe he's the son of god, which Muslims don't.
There's times we argue over this matter and while it shouldn't be a big deal, it is for her. When we first met, she wasn't as religious as she is now. For now we're still in a relationship, but there's a big chance we won't last forever because of this issue. I'm still not sure if I'm willing to convert and change my whole life.
I've told her I wouldn't mind our kids being Muslims and her practicing Islam but she "won't" have that. She wants a husband that's religious and loves Islam. It's painful to think that she would leave me for someone who's a Muslim just for that simple fact regardless if he loves or not or if she does or not, but that's what she wants and I can't decide that for her. She's willing to throw "us" away for what she believes in. It sounds harsh, but that's life and I'm still trying my best to accept it. I don't want to be resentful towards her, she knows that I will always care about her no matter her choice.
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Senju Bean
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I'm agnostic, I don't mind my gf's religion and I accept it, would allow her to practice and our children and I might even join in eventually but she minds...a lot. So don't date an agnostic if you're hoping to bend them.
