[Discussion] Attention all women of the base, need help.

[a banned cartoon]

Guys your advice is welcome too.

So this girl has been really wish-washy with me, and women are hard to understand. Can I get some advice?

She's really Christian. She wanted to kiss me the night we hung out. She would initiate a kiss, than pull back. She said she doesn't kiss on the first date. I think she started to get really turned on so she said "alright you've gotta get out of my car" really abruptly. She would burry her head in my chest, and I would caress her hair. She would lay her head in my chest for a minute, or two than quickly move back. She did this a couple times. Not sure if she really doesn't kiss on the first date, and she was super tempted so she was acting nervous, or if she's not sure if she likes me or not, or if she likes me a lot and is scared of moving too fast. She did tell me I'd get my chance to kiss her without a doubt though. I really like her.

Yesterday I texted her though, and she seemed distant. This is the day after al this happened. Today I texted her saying "good morning mein fräulein" (German for little lady), but she hasn't texted back all day.

We get along so well. I just can't figure her out though. I really need help with her. I figure if I leave her alone for a couple of days maybe she'll start thinking about me more. I just hope I didn't seem to clingy when I texted her yesterday. That's why I haven't texted her back all day except for saying good morning.

NOTE: I've been with my ex for six years so I'm coming back fresh to the dating game. This girl is 19, and I'm 24. I'm old-school I don't like,e texting, and don't really understand the rules of it. She answers my texts necks very quickly though(90% of the time). Man i really like this girl, but I can't figure her out. She's super straight forward though, and I still am having trouble understanding her. I'm kind of nervous around her since I like her so much, but relaxed at the same time. She explained to me that if she didn't like me she'd let it be known. She'd tell me she said.

What should I do?

 

[Cunning Linguist]

I'm not a girl, but neither is anyone else on NB. I've been there. Cut your losses. It's never a good sign if they don't respond

 

[Trúth]

What do you mean? What kind of pic. To the girl? I've got a pretty big schlong, if that's what you mean, but I'm not gonna send her a **** pic.

I will never forget this quote. OT:give her time. Maybe she's trying to figure out how she feels.

 

[Zachfri]

I don't know man I usually spend my own time doing my business and not worrying about girls. To each his own.

 

[Ventuis]

I will never forget this quote. OT:give her time. Maybe she's trying to figure out how she feels.

I agree with this. She's most likely embarrassed as well.

 

[The Work]

Leave her alone and find another.

 

[Hexuze]

I'm not a girl, but neither is anyone else on NB. I've been there. Cut your losses. It's never a good sign if they don't respond

Right on the money.

 

[Its sasukebase]

I will never forget this quote. OT:give her time. Maybe she's trying to figure out how she feels.

i was going to say this. maybe you should ask her how she feels.

 

[a banned cartoon]

i was going to say this. maybe you should ask her how she feels.

I have. She said she likes me a lot. I can tell she does. I think she's figuring things out in her head right now, but I'm not sure. I live in a small town. There isn't a very large selection of women worth putting effort into. She's one of the select few. My ex and I were together for 6 years, lived together, and everything. I know how relationships work ,but no man will really ever understand a women completely. Understanding a relationship, and understanding a women thought process go hand-in-hand, but are also separate.

 

[Beans2]

She wanted to engage in coitus with you the night she was in your car, but she was having an internal battle between her Christian celibacy and her lustful passions for you.

OT: Don't text her for the next 24 hours. If she still doesn't respond, call her and ask if she wants to hang out. Don't text

 

[Made in Heaven]

Well, maybe she doesn't wanna tush into things. Considering she's Christian, perhaps ahe doesn't wanna break her religion's rules? You know, like doing the do before marriage? I think that's why... Perhaps she desires to do it but doesn't want to? I don't know, but from what you say, that's what it seems like to me. Just talk with her, ask her what's wrong.... Communication is important in any relationship, romantic or not. And don't do it by texting, ask her in person

 

[Cunning Linguist]

I have. She said she likes me a lot. I can tell she does. I think she's figuring things out in her head right now, but I'm not sure. I live in a small town. There isn't a very large selection of women worth putting effort into. She's one of the select few. My ex and I were together for 6 years, lived together, and everything. I know how relationships work ,but no man will really ever understand a women completely. Understanding a relationship, and understanding a women thought process go hand-in-hand, but are also separate.

Bro. You're 24. The world is yours. Get out of that town and go get it. You don't need a girl who doesn't even know what she wants.

Well, maybe she doesn't wanna tush into things. Considering she's Christian, perhaps ahe doesn't wanna break her religion's rules? You know, like doing the do before marriage? I think that's why... Perhaps she desires to do it but doesn't want to? I don't know, but from what you say, that's what it seems like to me. Just talk with her, ask her what's wrong.... Communication is important in any relationship, romantic or not. And don't do it by texting, ask her in person

Christian girls always want to do it in the tush. Doesn't count as *** then

 

[Made in Heaven]

Bro. You're 24. The world is yours. Get out of that town and go get it. You don't need a girl who doesn't even know what she wants.


Christian girls always want to do it in the tush. Doesn't count as *** then

I meant to say rush.

 

[Cunning Linguist]

I meant to say rush.

Oh I know what ya meant

 

[a banned cartoon]

Well, maybe she doesn't wanna tush into things. Considering she's Christian, perhaps ahe doesn't wanna break her religion's rules? You know, like doing the do before marriage? I think that's why... Perhaps she desires to do it but doesn't want to? I don't know, but from what you say, that's what it seems like to me. Just talk with her, ask her what's wrong.... Communication is important in any relationship, romantic or not. And don't do it by texting, ask her in person

She isn't celibate. She's had 8 sexual partners, but nowadays that's like a virgin. She still takes things slow. She said she never kisses on the first date, and I believe her because she's pretty straight forward, and honest. Our first time hanging out wasn't really a date. I asked if I could call her and yesterday, and she said maybe. I can usually figure people out very easily, but I'm having a hard time with her.

You think if I leave her alone for a few days that'll give her time to think about me? Sometimes that makes a women want you more, but it can also back-fire. I get the feeling that I should though. We work together. She's got a second job with more hours though. If she quits the job we work at together, that may give me a hint that she's not feeling it, but I know that if I do see her the next time we work together I can get her back wanting more.

 

[Anorien16]

Women are hard to understand? Women are IMPOSSIBLE to understand .... The current girl with whom I was getting close suddenly stopped talking (She always says she doesnt like me ..... but never damn rejected or friendzoned me either, it like a weekly routine), then finally said that my extra special caring nature towards her annoys her .... then accused me of saying thing I never did (things that annoy her the most .... but they can be considered romantic in a sense) .... Then she insisted that she wold return the things i lent her (very forcefully cos I was too pissed to take them back) .... Now I sitting clueless for 2 weeks now. You tell me how we are supposed to understand women? My best advice would be to wait a while and then try to make proper contact.

 

[FranklinGTAV]

Women are hard to understand? Women are IMPOSSIBLE to understand .... The current girl with whom I was getting close suddenly stopped talking (She always says she doesnt like me ..... but never damn rejected or friendzoned me either, it like a weekly routine), then finally said that my extra special caring nature towards her annoys her .... then accused me of saying thing I never did (things that annoy her the most .... but they can be considered romantic in a sense) .... Then she insisted that she wold return the things i lent her (very forcefully cos I was too pissed to take them back) .... Now I sitting clueless for 2 weeks now. You tell me how we are supposed to understand women? My best advice would be to wait a while and then try to make proper contact.

yet , you have people married , lol.

 

[Anorien16]

yet , you have people married , lol.

Hey most of us doesnt understand how the machines in a car works but that doesnt mean we cant drive it .... It just means when its acting up or broken it is harder or impossible to fix without expert help.

Plus do you think my case is normal?

PS I was exaggerating a bit ... its not impossible but its really hard.

 

[Hebi II]

I have to imagine that women also find men very confusing as well.

As for the OP: give her a few more days. A week even. Just so she can truly wrap her mind around whatever needs to be wrapped around. If she's still confused by the point, express some of your frustrations with her. Don't attack her, but calmly tell her how you feel about the situation and offer to help (should she need it.). It's all up to you two to work it out at that point.

 

[AaaaNinja]

I figure if I leave her alone for a couple of days maybe she'll start thinking about me more

You're talking about another human being and I don't think people work that way to where you can execute certain strategies in order to get them to have certain thoughts. If she starts thinking about you more or thinking about you less, it would have happened whether you leave her alone or not. If they call you, it's not an indication that their thoughts about you have increased in number. It only means they decided to call. For whatever reason. Maybe for the simple reason that they hadn't called in a while, or whatever.

Yesterday I texted her though, and she seemed distant. This is the day after al this happened. Today I texted her saying "good morning mein fräulein" (German for little lady), but she hasn't texted back all day.

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Man i really like this girl, but I can't figure her out. She's super straight forward though, and I still am having trouble understanding her. I'm kind of nervous around her since I like her so much, but relaxed at the same time. She explained to me that if she didn't like me she'd let it be known. She'd tell me she said.

What should I do?

Sounds like she's not interested. She might have said that she would tell you if she didn't like you, but everybody says that, and nobody does it. Everybody is super insecure. The person having to tell someone they don't like them doesn't want to be the mean one, and the person being told will think they did something wrong.