My mother.

[Sakura Michiko]

I know I made this post a while back but I worded myself horrible and I left stuff out for personal reason but I think I'm going to say it now. My mother is abusive. She hits me for anything. I went to a friend house from like 2pm- 8pm while my mother was at work because I was bored being alone at home and when I came back home my mom started **** shaming me and pulling my hair and tried to scratch me. I had to push her off of me because she was hurting me. In my last post I mentioned that I didn't have a job. Well, I found one now. I try to talk to my mom like an adult and even try to set her down to discuss her treatment of hitting me and name calling but she jokes about it or yells. Yes, sometimes I get frustrated and might fuss with her I only do that when she starts hitting me. I don't hit my mother back I just try to push away from her. I called the cops on her but I told them my little cousin accidentally called and I hung up and my mom said I hurt her feelings and she started cursing at me and saying she was going to beat me and cut me. I asked her about my feelings and she ignored my question and fussed for 3 hours. Also I'm 18. I'm not saying that because I'm 18 or I'm in control and I can do anything. I just want to be treat equal.I don't do drugs, I'm in college, I have a 3.7 gpa, and I have scholarships. There are other things she fuss and hit at me for also. My boyfriend told me to be straightforward with her and one of my teachers told me to call the cops but I don't want her going to jail. This was my old post about this

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[riley freeman]

Be super nice and pretend you like every thing she says or threaten her, i've need been in that situation so i dont know what would be best

 

[Zealotic]

Agree with everything she says in a creepy monotone voice

 

[Raxido]

Call the cops, its obvious she wont listen to you, she doesnt treat you the way a mother should. The only way for it to stop is if she accepts that what shes doing is wrong. In order for that to happen is if she gets some therapy or something, but then again i doubt she'd go, since she doesnt listen to you. Another alternative would be to reach out to any relatives..

 

[Power Bottom]

You should move out of the house.

 

[Sakura Michiko]

You should move out of the house.

I'm trying to see where to move.

 

[Jazzy Stardust]

Save up from your job and leave, or try to to stay with someone else till you get on your feet.

You can sleep in a tent in my backyard. It's not winter so you dont have to worry about snow or wolves.

 

[NaNaNaaaaa]

It sounds as if your Mother may have issues that are...delicate, have you thought about seeking advice from a therapist? Also, if you live at home it may be a good idea to find your own place, sometimes distance can improve a relationship.

Just doing what she says or agreeing with her will not cure the situation, it will change nothing. Your Mother may be suffering from anger issues or even a form of depression or Bipolar.

If your Mother has even lived in an abusive atmosphere herself or has ever had any kind of addiction, that can also lead to anger issues.

You obviously care for your Mum and are understanding towards her. Having a good relationship with your Mother is very important and you seem to want to work on it. I lost my Mom a month and a half ago, we had a good relationship and I can tell you that the relationship you have with your Mother will be the most important.

But my advice would be to seek advice from a therapist who will be able to help you and your Mom and help her work through her anger issues.

 

[Callypigia]

You are 18. Things are up to you now. You can move out, get a restraining order, press charges, do nothing, or do anything. Don't bother trying to change her. We can only control our own actions.

 

[Arcaneos510X]

I have put people in hospital for a hell of a a lot less than that, But all I can do is offer my listening skills as I do not know what you should do or the whole situation it is none of my business but i will listen, Take care.
-Ghost

 

[Volume]

Sounds like my type of a woman. I'd give her one hell of a ride.