Is it wrong for me to be a little selfish?

[China IL]

I like to get away from the house and just be alone sometime, but my mom's always over protective and tries to make me stay at the house all day. Usually whenever I get around family, it's not too long before I start getting critisized. So, is it wrong for me to want some time alone? My family means well, they just suck at sending the right messages. I usually just try to steer clear of them any way best (btw, they all have traits that I hate in people, too many traits too name :devil.

EDIT: I'd hate to sound like I'm complaining or anything

 

[Jazzy Stardust]

No we all need alone time.

 

[AllseeingSharingan]

You sound like u wanna commit suicide. Coming here on forums too talk about your problems is t going too help tell your mother how u feel comfort your problems instead of running away from them cuz then they won't go away

 

[Sir Blades]

So they criticize you?
I guess having some time alone isn't wrong at all, everyone needs some alone time once and a while. Bro there is noting wrong with you.

 

[UchihaKira]

Didnt read, but no its not wrong to be a LITTLE selfish. The world is selfish and if you arent at least a little selfish as well youll only end up getting screwed over. Of course there are limitations to that but just use your best judgement based on your own circumstances.

 

[scorezor]

I like to get away from the house and just be alone sometime, but my mom's always over protective and tries to make me stay at the house all day. Usually whenever I get around family, it's not too long before I start getting critisized. So, is it wrong for me to want some time alone? My family means well, they just suck at sending the right messages. I usually just try to steer clear of them any way best (btw, they all have traits that I hate in people, too many traits too name :devil.

i bet that you hate me too .

 

[-Punk-]

Being over protective sometimes does more harm than good , everyone needs their special alone time , as longest you're not doing anything wrong , it's fine .

 

[ANiMUS]

Just smile XD

Seriously though we don't choose family like it or not we are stuck with them. Outside of my Immediate family I don't like spending time with them either, because they all expect something and think that family ties gives them some kind of leverage. I can't give you any advice, because I steer clear from family members same as you.

 

[Wolfus]

That's not selfish, you want to be alone for some time. Nothing wrong with that. Of course, wanting to be alone ALL the time will eventually harm your interaction with other people, thus harming you. But everybody needs some time alone to think clearly, to relax and everything.

 

[Nous]

Everyone desires a state with oneself with external distractions. It is not egocentric; which is not an absolute con, nevertheless.

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[China IL]

No we all need alone time.

Indeed u_u

You sound like u wanna commit suicide. Coming here on forums too talk about your problems is t going too help tell your mother how u feel comfort your problems instead of running away from them cuz then they won't go away

I'm not going crazy, just wanted some other unbiased opinions on this.

So they criticize you?
I guess having some time alone isn't wrong at all, everyone needs some alone time once and a while. Bro there is noting wrong with you.

I refuse to be who they want me to be lol. I like to do things my way, and they don't like that.

Thanks for the advice btw

Didnt read, but no its not wrong to be a LITTLE selfish. The world is selfish and if you arent at least a little selfish as well youll only end up getting screwed over. Of course there are limitations to that but just use your best judgement based on your own circumstances.

You probably shouls have read the OP, but your not too far off the mark.

i bet that you hate me too .

Nah, you cool people

 

[LolChidori]

To be selfish is secondhand human nature.. Sadly, even our loved ones are flawed, and likeminded people simply tend to regard the negativity in others more than the positive. Don't take it personally, it happens to me too, that's why I don't associate with them much. Don't feel bad for wanting to do what you feel will help you in the long-run. Just make sure you clear your problems with people who you have problems with. Speak up for yourself.

 

[China IL]

Being over protective sometimes does more harm than good , everyone needs their special alone time , as longest you're not doing anything wrong , it's fine .

Not doing anything wrong, just listening to my music by myself and thinking.

Just smile XD

Seriously though we don't choose family like it or not we are stuck with them. Outside of my Immediate family I don't like spending time with them either, because they all expect something and think that family ties gives them some kind of leverage. I can't give you any advice, because I steer clear from family members same as you.

Exactly. I love to see family coming together and helping each other out, but don't try to control me, you know?

 

[scorezor]

Nah, you cool people

Good

 

[Biju Mode]

Well id say there nothing wrong with being selfish as long as its not at the expense of someone else..i dont know how old you are but by your statement obviously you're a kid still and your parents probbly don't want you out gettn in trouble or doing some dumb shit.. but i can relate cuz i worry about my 12 yr old daughter ...then again everyone needs some alone time too

 

[China IL]

Well id say there nothing wrong with being selfish as long as its not at the expense of someone else..i dont know how old you are but by your statement obviously you're a kid still and your parents probbly don't want you out gettn in trouble or doing some dumb shit.. but i can relate cuz i worry about my 12 yr old daughter ...then again everyone needs some alone time too

My family sometimes compliment me on my level of common sense from time to time XD They're not always just impossible to deal with, it's just that sometmes they do things that they know would make me angry and don't seem to care.

 

[Biju Mode]

My family sometimes compliment me on my level of common sense from time to time XD They're not always just impossible to deal with, it's just that sometmes they do things that they know would make me angry and don't seem to care.

Well my best suggestion would just be to talk rationally with them about it..no attitudes / temper and just tell them how you feel...my dad always used to say it's the squeaky wheel that gets greased..and you come at them level headed and like an adult I'm sure they will probably understand

 

[JIRAIYA perv]

no you're not and i'm glad you understand that your family means well *_* (i'm assuming that you're young looking at how your family is protective/wants you to stay at home, just saying that you're wise/understanding for your age)

slow down, have a good talk with your mother and try to make her understand where you're coming from (if you did then try again and again but, of course politely).

as for the "traits" of your family members, believe me bro no one is perfect and at the same time no one is ALL bad, you should at least appreciate the fact that your family cares this much *_*, criticizing is what parents do/their job (for your own sake)

the only thing i think you need here is to find a better way to communicate with them, it's better than avoiding them with your "alone time".

 

[China IL]

Well my best suggestion would just be to talk rationally with them about it..no attitudes / temper and just tell them how you feel...my dad always used to say it's the squeaky wheel that gets greased..and you come at them level headed and like an adult I'm sure they will probably understand

Most of the family members that I have problems for are stuck up in a sense. I've tried that many times, no anger or anything, but they think I'm trying to act out of character. So, I left that alone :yeah:

 

[Jack Spicer]

Nah, not at all.