How do I confront my friend who lied to me?

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Alright this is the first time any of my friends lied to me, I need some advice here.

Yesterday I asked my friend Phil if he wanted to hangout later and he said, "not today" and I said, "What are you doing, playing cards with the guys?" And he said "I'm sleeping on my coach" He plays lacrosse so I thought he was just tired due to a practice.

But here I go on twitter several hours later and my friend Brandon posts a pic of him with Phil at this basketball game with several other of my friends.

I don't know why he would lie to me because I hung out with him and the other guys who went to the basketball game multiple times before and talk to them all the time in school.

Here is what I'm thinking:
1. He lied because he didn't want to hang with me
2. He changed his mind about sleeping when he got invited to go to the game


For 2. If I confront him and he says he changed his mind, then I mean, if I already asked him to hangout and he said no, then decided he wanted to do something, why wouldn't he hit me up again?


Basically my question and the point of this thread is, how do I confront him and what do I say? I don't want to look desperate or lame because we are both considered "popular" in my grade and I don't want to look like a puss but I need to know why he would lie to me. Again this has never happened before lol I don't know what to do
 

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1. I'm sure that isn't the first time a friend lied to you
2. Maybe he didn't want to hang out and wanted to be polite with you
3. No need to say anything, pretend like you don't know anything
 

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You sound like a nagging Girlfriend. My friends lie but I pay it no mind if they don't wanna hang then they just don't.
 

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Tea clocking 101
Kindly ask him a series of question that aren't obvious that you know the tea, but make sure the question brings of feelings of guilt in this friend. Indirectly clock his tea.
 
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1. I'm sure that isn't the first time a friend lied to you
2. Maybe he didn't want to hang out and wanted to be polite with you
3. No need to say anything, pretend like you don't know anything
This ^


Dont make a big deal out of it, friends do that a lot, and it means nothing.
 

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1. I'm sure that isn't the first time a friend lied to you
2. Maybe he didn't want to hang out and wanted to be polite with you
3. No need to say anything, pretend like you don't know anything
I mean lie as in lieing to not hangout, of course.

This ^


Dont make a big deal out of it, friends do that a lot, and it means nothing.

Damnman , you take lies too seriosly .
You sound like a nagging Girlfriend. My friends lie but I pay it no mind if they don't wanna hang then they just don't.
To you three, how are you so carefree about that? You're ok with your friends lieing to you to not hangout with you? You don't wonder why they didn't want to hangout with you... Are you guys so used to being lied to?

Lol like seriously guys it's hard to believe you guys don't care when people lie to you to not hangout with you
 

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depends on what kind of friend it is. If he is a very good friend, you could insult him with ease and say something like.. "Mother****ing nigga.. lying to me you b****"
Only if you know he wouldn't take that very serious..if you aren't really good friends just ignore him
 

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To you three, how are you so carefree about that? You're ok with your friends lieing to you to not hangout with you? You don't wonder why they didn't want to hangout with you... Are you guys so used to being lied to?

Lol like seriously guys it's hard to believe you guys don't care when people lie to you to not hangout with you
Dude , you sound like a girlfriend .

I'm ok with my friend lying , and I don't care since "friend" is a useless word to me .
 

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I mean lie as in lieing to not hangout, of course.








To you three, how are you so carefree about that? You're ok with your friends lieing to you to not hangout with you? You don't wonder why they didn't want to hangout with you... Are you guys so used to being lied to?

Lol like seriously guys it's hard to believe you guys don't care when people lie to you to not hangout with you
If he's your friend, you'll understand him and let it go. Because this occurred later in the day so why are you upset that you just had to call at the wrong time.
 

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Say how you feel. My opinions is... No loose ends, cut him loose. You do not need a friend or friends. Why did none of them "hit" you up? That is the question you should ask yourself.

No need to confront him. Do you. Let him come to you. You can handle the situation like a man if he comes to you. You hold the cards.
 
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I mean lie as in lieing to not hangout, of course.

To you three, how are you so carefree about that? You're ok with your friends lieing to you to not hangout with you? You don't wonder why they didn't want to hangout with you... Are you guys so used to being lied to?

Lol like seriously guys it's hard to believe you guys don't care when people lie to you to not hangout with you
You don't know for a fact he lies to you. He could have been woken up and asked to go, there might not of been enough room ect. Could have been someone else who didn't want you to come. I'm a chick and even I don't give a shit If they don't end up hanging out with me and doing something else shit happens. Don't be make such a big deal of out something so small. That's childish.

Perhaps you aren't as popular as you like to think.
 
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