You are wrong. These assumptions you keep bringing up are the main problem with your idealistic belief.
I have seen those who have done everything, who have believed, who have stayed positive for years on end, and still cannot escape it. I've seen those who have buried it, but the pain will resurface eventually.
Some things are so deep that strength cannot be attained or lent to overcome them.
Whether you believe this or not it is a matter of absolute truth.
Once again, like I said. There is no right or wrong answer in this type of situation.
There really and truly isn't.
Because I have seen and met peopple who have believed and stayed positive, and live happy lives.
Ex: My cousin, she had 4 miscarriages, and her boyfriend left her, she thought all was lost, but she started to believe and think positive. Now she has a new boyfriend who treats her right, and is now awaiting her due date which this month.
She is living a very happy life, even though through all the pain.
Ex: An old friend, who moved away. She use to have issues with her parents, horrid ones.She still came to school and smiled everyday, and thought positive and believed. She is now happy with her parents, who went to family counseling and they are now living a good life.
Ex:My grandmother, my grandpa died back in 08, she thought it was all her fault, and as time passed, she believed and thought positive, now is very happy with her life, and dwells on anything.
Ex: My 7th gr teacher, he husband died, she too thought it was her fault, Cried everyday in class, but as time passed she believed and thought positive, and now is a happy , and cherishing her duahgter.
Ex: An old friend, She was lesbian, afraid to come out. She did, everyone was disappointed in her and looked down on her, but as time passed, she believed and thought positive, now is happy with her gf, and everyonne who looked down, are now supporting her.
I could go on and on about how many people's live have changed according to my "idealistic beliefs", just as you can bring up as many people whos lives didn't change, which why I say there is no right or wrong answer.
I have seen people whos live has changed and you have seen people's lives who haven't.
Whether you believe it or not, I had a pretty horrible past, and it took my years to heal.
I can now speak freely about it, and not feel any pain about it, because life goes on, whether we want it or not, the more you dwell on something is the worse it gets. You can think I'm nieve or whatever, I'm used to it, but like my mother use to always say to me...
"When you let go , you are no longer hurt by whatever hurt you, and it no longer matters"
Which is why I look up to her, she went through truly a lot, and till this day she can sit and jst be like
"Whatever, what happened in the past, is in the past. I no longer care, what's done is done"
But it's all cool bro, We obviously have different views and beliefs here, and I don't really see the point of us going back and forth, back and forth about something where there is no right or wrong answer,.
I also want to point out, the truth that you are saying cannot be the truth if I have seen and expierenced myself different.