so yea a 4 year down the drain

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so what should I do act like the sht don't bother me and try to work it out even when she would try to work it out before she did it. whats to stop her from doing it again and again when she knew already I would have helped her. it doesn't matter if it was cheating or illegal the fact is she didn't come to me for help and she knew I would help. It is a trust issue she didn't trust me before she did. I HAVE BEEN TRYIN TO WORK IT OUT BEFORE I CALLED IT OFF! I tried to talk to her and she won't explain anything and for money lol is that bond between us worth only money to her. you have never be to this state in a relationship then bro.

1. No, don't like nothing is bothering you. Let her know how you feel and try to come to an understanding between the two of you.

2. You said she didn't trust you, but you reacted exactly the way she suspected you would. So, is she really to blame for that lack of trust?

3. You've made it clear in your previous post that you've ****ed up before too. So what makes you so special your ****-ups were forgivable but hers is reason to call it off?

You know what man, I can't tell you how to live. I can't tell you what to do with your life and the people in it. You wanna just throw this away, go right ahead. Just be sure when you look back on it, you don't bellyache about regret.
 

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The fact she decided to pawn it without your consent means she isn't trustworthy. You wouldn't want to marry such a person anyways, right? You should be happy such a thing happened so early in your relationship and not after you two were married for a couple of years with a kid or two.
 

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1. No, don't like nothing is bothering you. Let her know how you feel and try to come to an understanding between the two of you.

2. You said she didn't trust you, but you reacted exactly the way she suspected you would. So, is she really to blame for that lack of trust?

3. You've made it clear in your previous post that you've ****ed up before too. So what makes you so special your ****-ups were forgivable but hers is reason to call it off?

You know what man, I can't tell you how to live. I can't tell you what to do with your life and the people in it. You wanna just throw this away, go right ahead. Just be sure when you look back on it, you don't bellyache about regret.

when I said I ****ed up nothing nearly has big as this.
well if she tried to talk about it I wouldn't have called it off.
if trys to talk it out now then I would take her back but I have tried my hardest to talk this out.
 

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The fact she decided to pawn it without your consent means she isn't trustworthy. You wouldn't want to marry such a person anyways, right? You should be happy such a thing happened so early in your relationship and not after you two were married for a couple of years with a kid or two.

thank you someone get's it.
 

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when I said I ****ed up nothing nearly has big as this.
well if she tried to talk about it I wouldn't have called it off.
if trys to talk it out now then I would take her back but I have tried my hardest to talk this out.

Listen. I think you're looking for an explanation that doesn't exist. This specific situation doesn't really go deeper than she needed to pay some bills and was scared to talk to you about it. You're trying to pry deeper and that is probably putting her off, making not want to talk about it. You might some deeper explanation, but one just might not exist, so meet her in the middle. What you should have done was express that her pawning the ring hurt you. She most likely would have agreed to not do something like that again. That's when you really have to stick it out, if she does something like that again, then you know it's gonna work.

All's I'm saying is, this kind of thing WILL happen, and worse has the potential to happen. What makes your relationship count is not running the first time things get sour.
 

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Listen. I think you're looking for an explanation that doesn't exist. This specific situation doesn't really go deeper than she needed to pay some bills and was scared to talk to you about it. You're trying to pry deeper and that is probably putting her off, making not want to talk about it. You might some deeper explanation, but one just might not exist, so meet her in the middle. What you should have done was express that her pawning the ring hurt you. She most likely would have agreed to not do something like that again. That's when you really have to stick it out, if she does something like that again, then you know it's gonna work.

All's I'm saying is, this kind of thing WILL happen, and worse has the potential to happen. What makes your relationship count is not running the first time things get sour.
You're outta your mind. (x_x )
 

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Listen. I think you're looking for an explanation that doesn't exist. This specific situation doesn't really go deeper than she needed to pay some bills and was scared to talk to you about it. You're trying to pry deeper and that is probably putting her off, making not want to talk about it. You might some deeper explanation, but one just might not exist, so meet her in the middle. What you should have done was express that her pawning the ring hurt you. She most likely would have agreed to not do something like that again. That's when you really have to stick it out, if she does something like that again, then you know it's gonna work.

All's I'm saying is, this kind of thing WILL happen, and worse has the potential to happen. What makes your relationship count is not running the first time things get sour.

you don't pawn something like that to pay bills you et a loan
 

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you don't pawn something like that to pay bills you et a loan

You're missing the point. That's what you would have done right? Well, she made a mistake. What I'm trying to get across to you is that making mistakes is something that will happen in every relationship. You just gotta stick through the first one and if it goes south again, then leave. All's I'm saying is, you may have left to early and you might end up regretting it bad.
 

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You're missing the point. That's what you would have done right? Well, she made a mistake. What I'm trying to get across to you is that making mistakes is something that will happen in every relationship. You just gotta stick through the first one and if it goes south again, then leave. All's I'm saying is, you may have left to early and you might end up regretting it bad.

I don't think I will regret it bad. I do think if truly cared about how I would have felt. she would have talked to me before hand.
 

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I don't think I will regret it bad. I do think if truly cared about how I would have felt. she would have talked to me before hand.

Just make sure you pick the decision that you'll regret least.
 

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The fact you made a Sasuke reference about an engagement, arguably one of the few most important things in someone's life, means she's better off without you. Add on that I agree with Riker and you should cut her some some because she had pride and didn't want to tell you about bills and a ring can always be rebought, yeah, she's better off without you. She didn't cheat on you or kill someone. She didn't want financial hell to ruin your relationship. She thought she was going good. Maybe you don't and that's okay because I'm not saying she's 100% right as she is in the wrong too, but one mistake to ruin 4 years? You're an idiot and should feel bad.
 

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The fact you made a Sasuke reference about an engagement, arguably one of the few most important things in someone's life, means she's better off without you. Add on that I agree with Riker and you should cut her some some because she had pride and didn't want to tell you about bills and a ring can always be rebought, yeah, she's better off without you. She didn't cheat on you or kill someone. She didn't want financial hell to ruin your relationship. She thought she was going good. Maybe you don't and that's okay because I'm not saying she's 100% right as she is in the wrong too, but one mistake to ruin 4 years? You're an idiot and should feel bad.

This is basically how I was feeling throughout being on this thread.
 

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You guys are being way too hard on him, he's in a better position to judge his relationship than you are. She sold a ring that symbolizes their marriage/future together, instead of just asking him for money or discussing it first...this is a major emotional betrayal.

He did the right thing! Here's why: If he wants out then this is the perfect chance. Or if he wants to get back together he can in a while, but the breakup will teach her an important lesson. Also, if she's not begging for him to take her back, then he clearly knows she doesn't value their relationship. I hope you're happy for making me post something serious.
 

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You guys are being way too hard on him, he's in a better position to judge his relationship than you are. She sold a ring that symbolizes their marriage/future together, instead of just asking him for money or discussing it first...this is a major emotional betrayal.

He did the right thing! Here's why: If he wants out then this is the perfect chance. Or if he wants to get back together he can in a while, but the breakup will teach her an important lesson. Also, if she's not begging for him to take her back, then he clearly knows she doesn't value their relationship. I hope you're happy for making me post something serious.

I don't think he did the right thing.

Relationships will have stuff like this. What determines if you deserve the relationship is how well you work at it. It's gonna be hard. Really, compared to all the stuff that could happen, selling a ring, an object, is trivial.
 

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I don't think he did the right thing.

Relationships will have stuff like this. What determines if you deserve the relationship is how well you work at it. It's gonna be hard. Really, compared to all the stuff that could happen, selling a ring, an object, is trivial.

I don't think your getting it. I tried to talk to her about this level head but SHE didn't want to talk about it. so your saying a guy that is trying to work it out is in the wrong when there GIRL is the one not trying to work it out. yea I see your logic mmmmmm
 

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The fact you made a Sasuke reference about an engagement, arguably one of the few most important things in someone's life, means she's better off without you. Add on that I agree with Riker and you should cut her some some because she had pride and didn't want to tell you about bills and a ring can always be rebought, yeah, she's better off without you. She didn't cheat on you or kill someone. She didn't want financial hell to ruin your relationship. She thought she was going good. Maybe you don't and that's okay because I'm not saying she's 100% right as she is in the wrong too, but one mistake to ruin 4 years? You're an idiot and should feel bad.

Its not the mistake that's bothering me. its the fact she wont talk about it. and the sasuke thing was trying to lighten my mood bro get off my back.
 

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The fact you made a Sasuke reference about an engagement, arguably one of the few most important things in someone's life, means she's better off without you. Add on that I agree with Riker and you should cut her some some because she had pride and didn't want to tell you about bills and a ring can always be rebought, yeah, she's better off without you. She didn't cheat on you or kill someone. She didn't want financial hell to ruin your relationship. She thought she was going good. Maybe you don't and that's okay because I'm not saying she's 100% right as she is in the wrong too, but one mistake to ruin 4 years? You're an idiot and should feel bad.

pride does not come before your partner bro you must not every been in a commended relationship bro. rebought you miss the point its not the ring its the meaning behind it. and if that's the case why ever buy a ring in the first place then??? to judge me on how I handle things with out knowing me is lol your very close minded lol. I did everything for her when every she need something I was there never letting her down and never cheated on her. So before you start judging people get your facts straight. YOU DON'T HIDE IMPORTANT STUFF FROM YOUR SOON TO BE HUSBAND. your a tool.
 

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pride does not come before your partner bro you must not every been in a commended relationship bro. rebought you miss the point its not the ring its the meaning behind it. and if that's the case why ever buy a ring in the first place then??? to judge me on how I handle things with out knowing me is lol your very close minded lol. I did everything for her when every she need something I was there never letting her down and never cheated on her. So before you start judging people get your facts straight. YOU DON'T HIDE IMPORTANT STUFF FROM YOUR SOON TO BE HUSBAND. your a tool.

I AM NOT A TOOL. I AM A HUMAN BEING. IDIOT.

A hammer can't use the internet. IDIOT.
 
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