so yea a 4 year down the drain

[spckoroma]

so yea I just called off my engagement with my girl and broke up with her just now. I found out last night that she pawned her ring to pay some bills off. why does this make me feel so bad!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! really need someone to talk to.

 

[Punk Hazard]

Is this one incident really worth breaking off a four-year-engagement?

 

[spckoroma]

the engagement ring is the most in portent on. plus she waited 2 weeks to tell me.

 

[Punk Hazard]

the engagement ring is the most in portent on. plus she waited 2 weeks to tell me.

Ask yourself this: Which is worth more to you, a ring or her?

 

[spckoroma]

well if there is no trust and I lost all trust. then there is no relationship. you just don't pawn something like that. if she had talked to me before she did it then it would be different .

 

[Punk Hazard]

well if there is no trust and I lost all trust. then there is no relationship. you just don't pawn something like that. if she had talked to me before she did it then it would be different .

OK, look, does it matter really? She needed to pay bills, that's a priority. If she had to pawn the ring, then that's what she had to do. Sacrifices have to made sometimes. Now, she doesn't have a ring. Does that mean your love went down? Is she a different person than when you gave her the ring? It's just a ring. As long as you're together and care about each other, does it truly, really matter if she has the ring? Is an object more important than being with her? Don't be superficial about this.

 

[Parrish]

I can see where you're coming from, but I honestly don't think you should've called it off.

 

[villain55]

Good job, you don't what she has been doing over the 2 weeks without the ring on

 

[spckoroma]

so your telling me bills come first. Then if she had to do what she had to do. Why didn't she talk to me first. If the bills were so important I would have helped its not like I am hurting on money. plus when your takeing the next step you talk with your partner about everything she didn't even try to. so right there the trust is gone. If you don't talk to your partner about stuff that bothering you or something you cant handle its going to weaken the relationship. She woulded even tell me why she didn't even talk to me about the bill issues and before you say something people want to handle for themselves. then you don't know about a relationship. And its not the ring its what symbolize the ring. The step of spending the rest of our lifes together and she throw that away with out talking to me at all.

 

[villain55]

so your telling me bills come first. Then if she had to do what she had to do. Why didn't she talk to me first. If the bills were so important I would have helped its not like I am hurting on money. plus when your takeing the next step you talk with your partner about everything she didn't even try to. so right there the trust is gone. If you don't talk to your partner about stuff that bothering you or something you cant handle its going to weaken the relationship. She woulded even tell me why she didn't even talk to me about the bill issues and before you say something people want to handle for themselves. then you don't know about a relationship. And its not the ring its what symbolize the ring. The step of spending the rest of our lifes together and she throw that away with out talking to me at all.

Exactly if she doesn't know how to talk to the person who is about to be your life partner no matter how embarrassing or hard the situation. Like I said you made the right choice

 

[spckoroma]

Exactly if she doesn't know how to talk to the person who is about to be your life partner no matter how embarrassing or hard the situation. Like I said you made the right choice

it just hurts so bad. I am not trying to pull sasuke but god all I want to do is get drunk right now.

 

[Professor Finesser]

The real question is, why are you engaged to a bum? Trololololololo

 

[spckoroma]

The real question is, why are you engaged to a bum? Trololololololo

she's never had bill issues before or she could have been hideing it from me.

 

[villain55]

it just hurts so bad. I am not trying to pull sasuke but god all I want to do is get drunk right now.

Well there is one thing I know that happen in movies like this. Get your friends and go to the bar and have no regrets tonight. You know go to the clubs, etc.

 

[Punk Hazard]

so your telling me bills come first. Then if she had to do what she had to do. Why didn't she talk to me first. If the bills were so important I would have helped its not like I am hurting on money. plus when your takeing the next step you talk with your partner about everything she didn't even try to. so right there the trust is gone. If you don't talk to your partner about stuff that bothering you or something you cant handle its going to weaken the relationship. She woulded even tell me why she didn't even talk to me about the bill issues and before you say something people want to handle for themselves. then you don't know about a relationship. And its not the ring its what symbolize the ring. The step of spending the rest of our lifes together and she throw that away with out talking to me at all.

Who cares about a symbol? This kind of thing happens, but you have to work through them. You're pissed because she didn't talk to you about it, but instead of talking to her about this and working things out, you just run away from it. There's gonna be times when you **** up and when she ****s up, but you don't just let that destroy your relationship, it's not like she cheated on you.

At the end of the day, what will bring you more happiness: A symbol of your relationship or the actual relationship?

Exactly if she doesn't know how to talk to the person who is about to be your life partner no matter how embarrassing or hard the situation. Like I said you made the right choice

How is this the right choice?

 

[spckoroma]

Well there is one thing I know that happen in movies like this. Get your friends and go to the bar and have no regrets tonight. You know go to the clubs, etc.

I am not a big club fan. I hate the way people act at them.

 

[villain55]

I am not a big club fan. I hate the way people act at them.

Ohohoho, you wouldn't like me at parties than

 

[spckoroma]

Who cares about a symbol? This kind of thing happens, but you have to work through them. You're pissed because she didn't talk to you about it, but instead of talking to her about this and working things out, you just run away from it. There's gonna be times when you **** up and when she ****s up, but you don't just let that destroy your relationship, it's not like she cheated on you.

At the end of the day, what will bring you more happiness: A symbol of your relationship or the actual relationship?

I know. I fuc up and I told her ever time I did. and I have be talking to her and she wont try to explain it she just said she did it. I am straight forward when I fuc up she knew right away. There are two things need to have a relationship trust and communication. she didn't do either.

 

[Punk Hazard]

I know. I fuc up and I told her ever time I did. and I have be talking to her and she wont try to explain it she just said she did it. I am straight forward when I fuc up she knew right away. There are two things need to have a relationship trust and communication. she didn't do either.

I'm sorry, but if you're willing to throw away a four-year-old relationship based on one event that wasn't cheating or illegal instead of working at it, then you don't deserve such a relationship.

This isn't a trust issue. She didn't tell you because she was scared of how you would react, and how did you react? Exactly the kind of way that made her not want to tell you about it sooner. Can you really blame her for waiting so long then?

And what's more to tell? She needed money, the ring was worth money, she pawned it for money. End of story, dude. Should she have asked you first for help? Yeah, but don't let this one mistake be worth so much.

 

[spckoroma]

so what should I do act like the sht don't bother me and try to work it out even when she would try to work it out before she did it. whats to stop her from doing it again and again when she knew already I would have helped her. it doesn't matter if it was cheating or illegal the fact is she didn't come to me for help and she knew I would help. It is a trust issue she didn't trust me before she did. I HAVE BEEN TRYIN TO WORK IT OUT BEFORE I CALLED IT OFF! I tried to talk to her and she won't explain anything and for money lol is that bond between us worth only money to her. you have never be to this state in a relationship then bro.