A part of you that you wish to change

[Brady]

Is there something you'd like to make different? Are you in the works of changing or what?

 

[123fire]

Yes i would like to change my shyness . And be more brave Desu

 

[123fire]

What about you?

 

[Chikombo]

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm, I would like to not be so afraid all the time.

 

[Brady]

What about you?

Lose weight and be more quiet.

 

[Lyke]

n to the othing

 

[Princess Kaguya]

I would like to change my temper. I tolerate many things until the last string is broken and I get furious. I rather allow myself to get angry at the little things and putting a stop to it before it becomes worse. Bottling things up is never good.

 

[Jazzy Stardust]

im too savage, i try to be gentle but people take my kindness for weakness. till the situation gets ugly but by then its too late

 

[Sagebee]

I would like to change my temper. I tolerate many things until the last string is broken and I get furious. I rather allow myself to get angry at the little things and putting a stop to it before it becomes worse. Bottling things up is never good.

Yeah I have the same issue I usually try to be pretty nice to people but peoole abuse it at this point I just learned not to expect others to do the right thing and learning to not have others effect my mood

 

[Jazzy Stardust]

Yeah I have the same issue I usually try to be pretty nice to people but peoole abuse it at this point I just learned not to expect others to do the right thing and learning to not have others effect my mood

terrible advise. thats how you end up becoming a doormat and everyone dumps their shit on you because you pretend to "not care". literally most people that get bullied are the people who "pretend to not care" that something thats bothering them doesnt. if you show to not care, then why should anyone stop?

 

[JStar King]

Being too nice to people when I should rip their tongue and throat out for treating me like I'm an a**hole.

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[Sagebee]

terrible advise. thats how you end up becoming a doormat and everyone dumps their shit on you because you pretend to "not care". literally most people that get bullied are the people who "pretend to not care" that something thats bothering them doesnt. if you show to not care, then why should anyone stop?

It's not about not caring it's one part learning to be resilient enough not to be effected by others and secondly knowing when it's time to give space and walk away from a person, I want to continue being good to people till that person shows me they don't care to acknowledge be remorseful change the messes up way they treat people.

I think you think I'm saying keep letting people treat you bad no surround yourself with people that actually care about you, but in life we have to constantly interact with people and in life many people naturally abuse and target kindness and even tho that's the case that shouldn't discourage a person to keep treating people with kindness and sometimes those type of people need help and someone to actually care. But I'll disengage from the person if the relationship becomes toxic.

 

[Jazzy Stardust]

It's not about not caring it's one part learning to be resilient enough not to be effected by others and secondly knowing when it's time to give space and walk away from a person, I want to continue being good to people till that person shows me they don't care to acknowledge be remorseful change the messes up way they treat people.

I think you think I'm saying keep letting people treat you bad no surround yourself with people that actually care about you, but in life we have to constantly interact with people and in life many people naturally abuse and target kindness and even tho that's the case that shouldn't discourage a person to keep treating people with kindness and sometimes those type of people need help and someone to actually care. But I'll disengage from the person if the relationship becomes toxic.

i feel you are being condescending, as a human it will never happen, im not gonna fault you for trying. but its never gonna happen, theres certain things we all carry that make us human. treating people good isnt bad but you speak as if youre more than, you need air to breathe like everyone else. your were given your emotions for a reason, use them

saying things like, "I just learned to expect others not to do the right thing". is another kind of condescending thing to say and terrible advise. im not saying you are but you say things that are

 

[Sagebee]

i feel you are being condescending, as a human it will never happen, im not gonna fault you for trying. but its never gonna happen, theres certain things we all carry that make us human. treating people good isnt bad but you speak as if youre more than, you need air to breathe like everyone else. your were given your emotions for a reason, use them

saying things like, "I just learned to expect others not to do the right thing". is another kind of condescending thing to say and terrible advise. im not saying you are but you say things that are

I'm a bit confused how exactly all I'm saying is you shouldn't let past people discourage you in being good to other, usually people that go out of their way to be good to others or give people benefit of the doubt are usually the ones that are the most depressed and frustrated and it's usually they have an expectation their kindness will be reciprocated and when it's the opposite people negatively internalize it that's why people say things like nice people finish last and etc... I'm just saying so you don't have those frustrations whatever good you do shouldn't be connected to what the other person does or doesn't do.

This how I personally choose to interact with people and I'm in no way saying I'm better than anyone for it. And if a person interacts the same way as me you shouldn't let a person abuse or exploit you based on your kindness and that's something you learn as you grow older.

 

[Brady]

i feel you are being condescending, as a human it will never happen, im not gonna fault you for trying. but its never gonna happen, theres certain things we all carry that make us human. treating people good isnt bad but you speak as if youre more than, you need air to breathe like everyone else. your were given your emotions for a reason, use them

saying things like, "I just learned to expect others not to do the right thing". is another kind of condescending thing to say and terrible advise. im not saying you are but you say things that are

I have to agree with him, never expect others to do what's right, it's a mistake.

 

[Jazzy Stardust]

I'm a bit confused how exactly all I'm saying is you shouldn't let past people discourage you in being good to other, usually people that go out of their way to be good to others or give people benefit of the doubt are usually the ones that are the most depressed and frustrated and it's usually they have an expectation their kindness will be reciprocated and when it's the opposite people negatively internalize it that's why people say things like nice people finish last and etc... I'm just saying so you don't have those frustrations whatever good you do shouldn't be connected to what the other person does or doesn't do.

This how I personally choose to interact with people and I'm in no way saying I'm better than anyone for it. And if a person interacts the same way as me you shouldn't let a person abuse or exploit you based on your kindness and that's something you learn as you grow older.

you quoted her with bad advice, you can switch it up now. but you responded to her post like you had the answer, you dont sway lolxD

I would like to change my temper. I tolerate many things until the last string is broken and I get furious. I rather allow myself to get angry at the little things and putting a stop to it before it becomes worse. Bottling things up is never good.

Yeah I have the same issue I usually try to be pretty nice to people but peoole abuse it at this point I just learned not to expect others to do the right thing and learning to not have others effect my mood

this whole last sentence is condescending. if you cant see that you never will, she never said anything about not being good to people

 

[Jazzy Stardust]

I have to agree with him, never expect others to do what's right, it's a mistake.

well life will humble you. how about not expecting anything instead of expecting everyone to do whats not right? whats "right" is high subjective, what you see as right and what others see as right, isnt always the same

 

[Brady]

well life will humble you. how about not expecting anything instead of expecting everyone to do whats not right? whats "right" is high subjective, what you see as right and what others see as right, isnt always the same

I'll never expect or trust anyone to do the right thing. Always be on guard for the worst. People aren't all bad but people aren't all good, I've been taken advantage of concerning my kindness and I've done so much and gotten so little in return. I won't judge someone and deem them as bad, but I wont expect them to do what's right.

 

[Sagebee]

you quoted her with bad advice, you can switch it up now. but you responded to her post like you had the answer, you dont sway lolxD




this whole last sentence is condescending. if you cant see that you never will, she never said anything about internalizing anything or not being good to people

I don't think I said to her that she doesn't treat people right, she states she usually tolerates things till it causes her to pop.

I was just personally saying that I would go through something like her and that's how I decided to internalize it or deal with it.

If I did demean her I'm sorry, as for it being bad advice well it depends there's certain people in life you kind of have to tolerate more than others like family but for even them you got to know when to give a relationship space.

But you have to make sure whoever are your true close circle of people are truly for you anyone outside of that i learn to manage and don't allow them to get me to my breaking point.

But again this is how I personally decided to deal with it and just sharing my story not persuading:lol

 

[Sagebee]

well life will humble you. how about not expecting anything instead of expecting everyone to do whats not right? whats "right" is high subjective, what you see as right and what others see as right, isnt always the same

When I'm saying right im basically saying being considerate