Help with this please

[Fire Goddess]

I have a friend who has a crush on someone and needs to hide it, but she's failing, because she can't help it to some degree... she gets all nervous around him and can't think or act right. She needs to hide this because it could ruin things for her....

Sum it up she is like a cross of Karin and Hinata when she has a crush, also lacks experience in having a real world crush (not animated)

Any advice?

I'm not the only girl on the planet with an anime crush, just giving a heads up

 

[Yusuke Urameshi]

Why would it ruin things for her? I really don't have any advice. Just act normally, I guess? I don't know.

 

[Solo Arrow]

She needs to get laid, assist her with that

 

[9bi]

It's always hard to give advice on things like this, but maybe she could try some basic things while being around him, like controlling her breathing (slow breathing) and counting

 

[Fire Goddess]

Why would it ruin things for her? I really don't have any advice. Just act normally, I guess? I don't know.

Makes things awkward, I guess

 

[Ldude]

Tell her to man up.

 

[Fire Goddess]

She needs to get laid, assist her with that

She usually does, but if it comes down to a crush not just lust, it gets awkward.... I don't assist a girl, she needs a guy for that, she doesn't like girls, has nothing against lesbian or bi jus t wasn't into it.

She couldn't get into girls she tried to before, it just wasn't happening....

 

[Fire Goddess]

Tell her to man up.

She would if it would help... but it doesn't stop her having the crush.... she not used to it at all, it's like flooding back to the past, not easy or used to it, used to just lusting and going with a guy.... but a crush is not easy

 

[Ldude]

She would if it would help... but it doesn't stop her having the crush.... she not used to it at all, it's like flooding back to the past, not easy or used to it, used to just lusting and going with a guy.... but a crush is not easy

Yeah, I get it. I used to be so awkward when I was 12 too.

 

[Fire Goddess]

Yeah, I get it. I used to be so awkward when I was 12 too.

Um.... be real here, dude. I wouldn't waste a thread on a 12 year old, other people can still have this problem, also she started having *** around that age

 

[ANiMUS]

So your friend is shy and thirsty at the same time :|

That would be an interesting sight. Lol

Um, lets see personally I think she should just try and move forward to make something out of her feelings. If not and she waits too long then she is going to regret it. Besides if she learns to spend time with the guy then he might start to like her and then it wouldn't matter if he finds out that she likes him or not.................., but if she is dead set on hiding it then practicing being nonchalant might help.

 

[Angelic.]

she should call the guy ugly and fart in front of him. he'll never expect its a crush xD

 

[Floydical]

How does it ruin things for her? Is her crush dating her best friend and she'd be betraying her? Is acting nervous around him making her feel weak and revealing to her she's not perfect? If its the latter, she'd be best off getting help asking him out. Maybe talk to him yourself and tell him how she feels. If he's dating her best friend and she doesn't want to betray her, than she'd be best off avoiding him for the most part until she finds a way to handle her feelings. Not much advice I can give there.

 

[Tennis Robot]

Is the guy dating someone? If not, maybe you could talk to him about her and maybe see if he is into her as well? I think that would make things easier

 

[Pumpkin Ninja]

If the guy is single she should tell him how she feels and say she just needs to get it off her chest even if he's not interested in a relationship with her. For the sake of their friendship. If it's not a friendship problem she should still get it off her chest or there is no point of them being around each other.

 

[Fire Goddess]

He's a store manager

 

[Zee Seh]

Shyness and nervousness is something you can't get over in a day, The best solution, Avoid getting in Contact to the Bogey.. i mean, the guy >_>'

Plus, your friend better start with building up some self confidence, and that is something she can be counselled about, so help her out with that.

 

[Floydical]

He's a store manager

Oh so she has a crush on her boss...

In such a case, she'd not likely be fired over such a relationship (considering he's her boss) but it can become a complicated matter, especially if he's married of course. Workplace relationships can lead to a great variety of lawsuits and this would be assuming she's of legal age, if not it could become an outright nightmare.

Assuming this, I think now its clear she doesn't want to get involved and is simply looking for a way to reduce or eliminate her feelings for him. The only sure fire method is to get transferred to a new location or find a new job. She could take some time off and try to get over her feelings, but I doubt it would be that easy for her.

 

[Mr Akatsuki]

I have a friend who has a crush on someone and needs to hide it, but she's failing, because she can't help it to some degree... she gets all nervous around him and can't think or act right. She needs to hide this because it could ruin things for her....

Sum it up she is like a cross of Karin and Hinata when she has a crush, also lacks experience in having a real world crush (not animated)

Any advice?

I'm not the only girl on the planet with an anime crush, just giving a heads up

This is about you, right? Don't compare this to anime, you/she have more depth than fictional characters :hug: The only ways are avoid that person or actually hang more around with that person until you/she feel comfortable. It's normal!

 

[Fire Goddess]

she should call the guy ugly and fart in front of him. he'll never expect its a crush xD

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